i dont want my daighter to stay with my husbands mom.. is this inreasonable?

lucyloo288lucyloo288
edited October 2012 in Not Pregnancy Related - NPR
I love the woman and all, ans I don't mind if she takes my daughter for the day, but she wants her over night.. and when she's older, I wouldn't mind then. Bit right now, I'm just not comfortable with it because she lives an hour away from any hospital or doctors office and shes in her 70 s and lives alone. I'm not trying to be biased, I wouldn't let my daughter stay with my grandparents either because I worry about something happening to one of them while she's there. I mean, what if his mom falls and hurts herself while she has my daughter? She wouldn't be able to get to a phone! What if my daughter needs immediate medical attention? Even an ambulance would take forever to get there, and with kids, you just don't have that much time sometimes.

Does this seem unreasonable? I might be over thinking it, and its unlikely, but I just don't want to take that big or a risk..

Comments

  • angie87angie87
    I wouldn't not have my in-laws take my son right now over night if they lived that far but we live with them but my mom lives a hour away and a hospital is kinda far also so its a big NO to me. shes asked me when am going to leave him and I told her when he's older and she said ok
  • lillouloulilloulou
    I dont even like my mother taking my daughter for a night or my sister I for reason don't. Feel comfortable with it but then again I don't ever leave her with anyone unless its at my house and not longer then an hour but with new baby coming I need to figure out what I'm gonna do and who is gonna watch her I was in the hospital last time for 4 days
  • MorgDeeBeeMorgDeeBee
    I won't leave my daughter over night with anyone because I am not comfortable with it.
  • MommyLovesSparkleMommyLovesSparkle
    I won't let my daughter stay over night in my parents room lol (we live in the same house) I'm still too scared when she's older its fine but not now! Plus I'd miss cuddling with her at night
  • lucyloo288lucyloo288
    My husband has already told her that Mia has stayed with my mom (but my mom is only 40, has my three siblings with her, and lives in the city by three hospitals) and its really going to hurt her feelings if we tell her she can't.. and my husband is going to laugh at me if I tell him why I don't want her to go.. ugh. He doesn't believe in preparing for all outcomes.

    How do you tell someone they can't keep their grandkid over night because you're worried they might fall, or whatever? Without totally making them feel old and useless..
  • MorgDeeBeeMorgDeeBee
    Maybe let her come to your house and stay with your daughter over night while you are hone until you feel more comfortable. Tell her you had done the same thing with your mom. Or just tell her you are uncomfortable about the hospital thing not that you are worried she might.fall, that may hurt her feelings.
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  • MyBamBina28MyBamBina28
    i dont think your being unreasonable at all,my dd sleeps by my inlaws all the time,most the time i end up sleeping there with her but their only ten minutes away,my mom on the other hand is an hour away in the boonies,and its always an argument because the one time i did try to let her sleep there i had to pick her up at 1am,sl now she cant,
  • OurlittlenuggetOurlittlenugget
    Nope! Totally rational and well thought out. Of course, I won't even let my husband take our son up the street. ;-)
  • julesjules
    I would not leave Scarlett over night and my parents are amazing. But I don't see a reason for it unless it's an emergency. Even then if my parents were that age I would find someone else makes perfect sense to me. Plus the fact that it sounds like she lives far out.
  • sehra4177sehra4177
    I can understand not wanting to send her. I let my daughter over my moms when she was really little in emergenies. When she was 5 is when she stayed over just to stay like a sleepover. But also they live less than five miles away. Now I think they are getting too old to keep up with my son so the only time he slept there is when I had my 3rd child and my daughter was there to help (she is 8 now) she is very helpful and def keeps my son calm...we joke she is his 2nd mommy lol. But Yeh I don't think I'd be comfortable in your situation and don't think its unreasonable. At least once she is older she would learn how to use the phone (in emergencies) etc.
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