"Cumming and orgasm are the same thing, really. “To have an orgasm” got translated out of the medical-sounding Latin into English, and shortened into “to come”. Here in Holland we turned it into ‘klaarkomen', “achieve” or “finish”. The idea is the same: orgasm is what sex leads to, it is the goal and the end of sex.
Because the orgasm makes a man (sometimes a woman too) ejaculate, the stuff that comes out got to be called “come” as well. Both got to be written “cum” often – but not always. From there, “cumming” got the meaning “producing the fluid”. But the two are really still the same: a man ONLY ejects semen when he has an orgasm, and (normally) ALWAYS ejects when he orgasms. With women, the linguistic rigmarole led to the misunderstanding you describe, because women don't usually spray fluids noticeably when they orgasm, and can produce a lot of it even if they don't. "
Also, it is not a goofy question. I would much rather ask a question to learn something new than to assume and discover I am wrong. Much like my friend who recently told me she thought "rectum" meant penis - which explained why she was much more horrified by the ER news story I was telling her than I thought was necessary, haha.
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"Cumming and orgasm are the same thing, really. “To have an orgasm” got translated out of the medical-sounding Latin into English, and shortened into “to come”. Here in Holland we turned it into ‘klaarkomen', “achieve” or “finish”. The idea is the same: orgasm is what sex leads to, it is the goal and the end of sex.
Because the orgasm makes a man (sometimes a woman too) ejaculate, the stuff that comes out got to be called “come” as well. Both got to be written “cum” often – but not always. From there, “cumming” got the meaning “producing the fluid”. But the two are really still the same: a man ONLY ejects semen when he has an orgasm, and (normally) ALWAYS ejects when he orgasms. With women, the linguistic rigmarole led to the misunderstanding you describe, because women don't usually spray fluids noticeably when they orgasm, and can produce a lot of it even if they don't. "
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