How do I get my hubby to spend some time with me??!!??

casnleslie

I have tried being suttle... nothing
I have tried being blunt... nothing
The only people I get to talk to are my 5 year old daughter and my baby girl (24 wks preggo).
I need help! I feel like I'm not good enough for him to hang out with. He goes to his friend's to play video games so I can't even go to my friend's house because I have no car.
Any advice would be appreciated.

newmom2be23

I kinda have the same problem? My bf is always gone doing something, never wants to be around, idk if its b.c. im preggo and really i cant do a whole lot.. i wish i could give u some advice, but im looking for some too i hope it doesnt stay like this when the baby arrives..

[Deleted User]

Has he felt the baby kick yet? That was the reality time for mu Hubby. Now he can't get enough and always has a hand on my belly

letysfirst

Pop baby daddys/bf's in the head ask what the hellllllll wrong with them! You girls didn't get prego alone so you all shouldn't go thru this alone... Y'all became a "team" so he goes, u go... U go then he goes too damn it! >:/ Lol

HUPE23_1

I'm also having the same problem with my bf he doesn't treat me the same or make me feel special anymore like he use to..... I'm at a lose idk what to do either

casnleslie

@maggie This is our second. He says feeling the baby move is creepy and won't do it. I don't think it's an issue of reality. Of course I have no clue what it is.
@letysfirst I have. He says he needs time with his friends. I just don't get why I'm not one. That's how I feel at least. And I'm not invited unless I throw a fit and then I'm so pissed I don't even want to.
Grrr

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Im so sorry that you have to deal with this alone.

letysfirst

@casnleslie if u dont mind me asking, how old is he? He is missing out in your pregnancy, he is being a big ass! Sit down and have a serious long talk with him, tell him how you feel, tell him you are not in this alone, tell him you don't have a problem with him hanging out with friends but you are not another "object"at home

shimattsbaby

I'm in the same situation he just got a motorcycle so for the past week I've been home all day alone on spring break while he goes to work comes home gives me a kiss and heads to his friends this is our first and I'm only 12w at first I was ok with it just letting him get it out of his system till the baby comes but I mean come on at least one day with me won't hurt. Right before I read this post I was thinking about how I hate to be alone:( I'm going to have a talk with him as soon as he gets home. Good luck and I hope it gets better for the both of us

crazycat79

I have the same problem. Accept he has his friend over our house EVERY night. Just like now.... it is 12:56 am. He is in the living room watching movies and playing poker. What burns me up is I specifically asked him to not have company tonight! Ugh. I am tired and my bed is in the dining room. Next to living room and no door. (We r curently redoing the attic). I was already in bed when his friend knocked at the door at ten o'clock. I know I am not going to be able to go to bed until like two or later!

newmommy2be

Guess we all are going through it. My and hubby just got into about this all is does is spend time at his friends playing video games. He comes sleep when he wakes up we child for a hour and hes gone. I hate it and he doesn't understand. All he says is ok. I feel so alone. I don back no one else to talk to and he just thinks I'm tripping. We are in this together girls let's pick our heads up and make them realize what's real.

casnleslie

@newmommy2be Sounds like a plan. If I didn't have my friends here on Pregly I would have done gone crazy already. I love you gals!

plzletsh11change

I have the same problem, mines gone now....its 4 a.m. He always rubs my belly and seems excited but then poof, disappears for hours and I no longer exist. No suggestions.....just wish as a husband he would include me now and then and not leave me stranded...

ladicapo

me && bd are currently exchanging angry texts cuz I ordered food at 11pm and he was supposed to call me when he finished "chillin" which he never did cuz he's drunk and I'm home pissed emotional alone sad upset and everything else u can think of..feel like a complete dum ass!!

YNVTish

Give him space and he'll come to you. Pregnancy tends to be about only about the women. He may need to get away to have some "him" time.

CountryGirl_Mommy

I've gone and still doing it right now. Nd does not want to do anything with me but all he wants is sex and I don't. Then he blows up at me saying well u never do anything anymore.... umm I'm preggo ain't much I can do... and I stay with my mom all the time bc he hasn't bought me anythin or for baby. Its all bout his friends (whom I csnt stand). And I am tired of it. I've tried telling him to leave that u dnt care so I dnt need u just leave and go hor around. And he don't care to feel the baby kick. I thought he'd change when I got preggo...

may1mommatobe

WOW atleast I am not alone me and my bf work seperate schedules he was on vacation for springbreak and spent almost everyday with his friend I just feel alone all the time he is trying to make it better I just think I bore him now since we can't do all the things we used to