Is it the end of the world? Nope just feels like it. any one else have a suprise bundel of joy?

edited January 2011 in First Trimester
Went to the doc on the 7th of Jan. For an antibiotic due to I did not want to have a snotty nose at the wedding. Got married the 12th. Went back on the 18th to get my next BC shot and doc said surprise. My poor husband looked like Saten himself had just said it! I burst into tears. I took the shot so we could wait on kids. Doc said I was 6 weeks. Family did not take it well. His family called me a tramp. Mine went ballistic about responsability. Once the shock wears off we will be fine.....I think.

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  • How old are you? I was on bc the pill though and yeah its kind of a surprise... I'm scared to tell my parents for fear of them freaking out :[

    I was with a guy 4 years took my bc the same way (late some days, skip a day here and there) never got pregnant. Thank god though b/c he was an ass lol.
    Got with my HS sweetheart that I've been friends with for 7 years...exactly 6 months later BAM preggers.
    I just don't want people thinking I'm a whore... I was the talk of my town for a while, for like 9-10 months. It just blew over now I'm going to be the new gossip again...yay...
  • @rinbaby - I was in a similar situation, with my son (now 7) I was just married and my BC failed. We decided to keep the baby and I am glad we did because I love my son. I admit I didn't want to at first but he pressured me to and told me he would divorce me if I aborted (Don't judge). I'm not going to lie and talk about how it changed my life and everything was happpy ever after, my husband (at the time) and I ended up splitting up shortly before my son was born, turns out he didn't want a baby. We were on again and off again until we divorced when my son was one and a half. We were both young, I had just turned 20 two weeks before my son was born.

    Fast forward five years, I'm in a similar situation again. I have been living with my now husband for three years, and I find out that I am pregnant yet again. We talked about it and realized that we wanted this child. More importantly that we can raise her, and give her all that she will need. We had to do alot of life changes, but we have been supportive of eachother, and understand eachothers' needs and desires.

    I know it is not my son's fault for pushing me and my first husband apart (because it would of happened sooner or later) it helped me open my eyes to just how incompatible we were (I'm not going to go ex bashing because it is neither here nor there at this point) for eachother, this baby has actually strenghtened my relationship with my husband. But we are more willing to listen and understand eachothers' thoughts and stresses and also expectations of what needs to get done, everything from what bill gets paid from whose income to who does the dishes. If one of us feels ill then the other is understanding that they may have to cook dinner that night, husbands often have pregnacy sympathy pains so you are not nessarly suffering alone.

    What I am saying is make sure you guys are open to eachother's thoughts and feelings if you guys are both stong and willing to stand by eachother then nothing can harm you. Just make sure you guys are comunicating in positive ways, it will be hard for you with your *wonderful* new hormones not to snap at him everytime he leaves a towel on the floor, or whatever happens to upset you at the moment. But let him know once you cool down that you didn't mean to be so snippish, and make sure he knows how you are feeling. Guys tend not to understand these things.

    Your family is right a baby is alot of responcibility and forces you to grow up very fast, (added on top of a brand new marrage!) I don't know how old you two are but I'm sure there was a reson you guys decided to wait. His family should know better then to be calling names, antiboitics + BC tend not to mix, and even if you just forgot to take it you are not a tramp you are the wife of their son, not to mention provider of grandchild. Ask your husband to talk to his family, it will make things easier on all of you. If they can not get over the fact focus on maintaining the relationship with your husband and do your best to brush them [his family] to the side. Easier said then done I know, but you do what is best for your new family.
  • I am 25. We are keeping the baby he is really scared. For both of us everything is new. Marriage, sex,goodness. Even sleeping in the same bed. LOL. We have known each other since we where 10 and 12. There is just so much we are trying to get used to and well seems like a bit more then we can take. We both have more then enough money to do this. We both have good jobs. We just thought we would have more time to get to know each other. My husband went out and got me a small pair of baby shoes so I know he is OK with this. I am scared but getting excited
  • @rinbaby1222....you said you and your husband have known each other since you were 10 and 12....now you are 25......you guys married right? What else do you think you dont know about him??

    I think things will be fine.....you love him....chose him as your husband....even though you guys planned on waiting.....a baby is a blessing and everything happens for a reason!!! Try not to stress! :)
  • Mine was a total shock. Me and my ex broke up at the beginning of the month. The breakup sex knocked me up. Go figure...
  • We found out two weeks after out honeymoon that we were pregnant with our first...what a shock! New marriage, new house, new everything....and a new baby! It will all fall into place! Good luck and congratulations
  • How are you a tramp if your married? A little but confused on that one. They dont sound too nice. As long as you guys love each other and communicate you will be just fine. Its an adjustment for sure, but not the end of the world for sure. Sounds like you have a great foundation to build from. There are sooooo many people that dont have anything! Bad relationship, no support, no money. Try to focuson all the good things. And the amazing life thats growing in you!
  • We both desided to wait for each other. S. And his step mother I fondly call the NAZI. I think her issue is I do not jump when she says jump. I am really excited about this child. I also am greatful that I have my husband. My heart goes out to all the single moms to be. Thank you everyone for the support.
  • Suprise baby here! I was in shock but had to see babies to make it real. I have a son that is seven but at the same time it feels like a million years ago. I am excited but it still seems surreal at times.
  • Mskrystal...you aren't the only one who got prego from break up sex. Still broken up..still a jerk.
  • @paganmom I'm glad I'm not alone. We're still broken up. He wants to get back together, but doesn't want the baby. Hmmm... how does that work?! Ugh...
  • Simple. It doesn't.
  • Lol @mskrystal....i had a boyfriend right after i had my first daughter...he knew about her and what happened with her dad but still wanted to.date me 9 months later he breaks up with me saying he loved me but didnt want my daughter around...
    Simple solution.....dont let the door hit u on the butt on ur way out...me and my baby are a packaged 2 for 1 deal not sold seperately
  • yeah 3 suprise babys only balled with the 3rd but all good now
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