husband problems.... please hlp.

harleighsmommy

So I'm pregnant with his second child but the thing is his first one is my step son... I knew him and his ex when she was prego... but anyways my problem is I feel left out he paid way more attention to her and her pregnancy than me and this one. What do I do to get him to realize this child is his too?

1princess&princeontheway

Its not that he doesn't realize this Is his child. He's just already experienced it and isn't all questions and stuff liked he probably was with her. Me and my hubby are on number two. He paid way less attention to this pregnancy than the first. I was worried at first then I asked him why. He said because he already knows everything. He's not amazed by every move or bump. Us as mothers are extremely attached every pregnancy and treat them the same. But the dads...i think since they don't exactly experience what we do...if they've had one then they already "know" what's going on w/o being interested. But I understand how you feel even though this is our second he acts diff. Hope this helps...and sorry its so long!

joyfulmama_my4th

I understand how you feel as well and I agree with 1princess&princeontheway. I have 3 children and #4 on the way. My husband was so interested in every little thing with our first and he even cried his eyes out when our son was born. He hasn't been so in tune with the rest at all, at least not until they were born. He didn't cry when our other kids were born either. He's still a great dad and loves them all the same, but during pregnancy, he is not as attentive. So don't worry, I'm sure he loves this baby just as much as his first, but all of the curiosity and excitement about being a parent for the first time is gone.

harleighsmommy

Thanks y'all I just felt like he really didn't care like her pregnancy was more important but I understand it now... its so exciting feeling all the little movements and being able to call her my own. This is my second child but I lost my first at 18 weeks so everything is new haven't ever got this far. It really helps to have people around who understand what ur going through.