i sort of kinda miss him.....ugh

mama_underpants

Ok, so I'm 22 weeks prego with my third. I am married but back in august I was going thru a divorce. Started dating this other guy and go figure I get pregnant. As soon as I did tho, I stopped talking to the guy I was dating and started to pick up the pieces with my hubby, and he said he will raise my daughter as his own. The other guy wanted me to abort it anyway, so I figured, whatever, I was done with him.
Well on a day like today, when my hubby treats me like crap, I'm reminded why we were divorcing in the 1st place. And it makes me miss the other guy. Idk why!! I guess it just makes me sad knowing that he has a daughter xoming into this world that he will never see or know. His current baby mama, insists that I'm not pregnant, and she keeps telling him that. And I haven't talked to him since dec.
Am I stupid for missing him, and wanting to call him?
What would you do in my situation. And please be nice I can't handle anymore meanness today.

may1mommatobe

Idk what I would do but u have to remember u quit talking to the other guy for a reason & yes ur hubby might be being a jerk today but is he always like that ... Take time to think it through u dont want to ruin ur current situation for a moment of weakness ... Just keep ya head up things will work out no matter what u decide

mama_underpants

Right. I feel like my husband feels like he can treat me a certain way, bc I am prego. And I actually can't even call the other guy, his bby mama made him change his number. And thanks, I feel like bc we have 2 other children together, I sometimes just feel like stick it out no matter what....even if I'm not happy. But my prego hormones, its no time to make rash disicions. Thanks

may1mommatobe

Np I understand I mean after delivery if u just know ur marriage isnt going to work I say hightail it but right now I would try & stick it out (of course I dont know full situation) %%-

mybabysophia

I agree with @may1mommatobe i was in a similar situation and also.had a momwmt of weakness and i regret it after everything my husband (technically.ex.husband our divorce was jist finalized) stood by me but my ex ran.as soon as we had problems. Do what youre heart tells you nobody can tell you whats best for you but you. Good luck everything will work out

marie0907

I think the grass always seems greener on the other side. I don't mean that in a mean way at all. I think its normal when you have a bad day to wish for a time when things were easier. This applies to almost everything in life. I say, try to remember what made you work things out with your husband to begin with. Then, when things calm down maybe sit down and engage him in a conversation about why he is mean to you at times. I say wait to do it because talking now while things aren't going well may make it worse. He may start to feel defensive if he is already in a bad mood. Its better to wait until you are both calmed down.