@Babyluv_3 Thats how I feel, like WTH, this is the world wide web where you can say whatever you want. i know this is not facebook, but facebook has milllions of memebers, you dont see people gettiing banned and discussions getting closed because there is a disagreement. People who choose to entertain those things can have the drama associated with them and their profiles. Eventually it stops. With no harm to oany people resulting from it, and if it does happen then they have a paper trail to give over to the poilice. Im so with you, and after I read your post the second time I was able to understand.
Its frequently said its all in the way you word things, but I find moderators defending their rationale and their words, so obviously the way speak to people is not effective if you stll have people offended by your words and your the one who is supposed to be sorrect the offenses. At that point you have stepped to their level. But that is ok. Then after every "its against forum guidelines" I find why, and a brief, often incorrect, synopsis on something they formulated in their heads to accompany their words. Thats when people get offended. How about its against forum guidelines, because it violates this rule, end of story. They also say dont judge, then judge peoples charecter, calling them rude etc. Maybe that is just the persons disposition, everyone didnt grow up in the same commmunity and communicate different. Im just so frustrated, because I wanna stay, because I do gain some thigns from this place, but too much stuff gets under my skin. Its like they make up the rules as they go, seems like a power trip. Eliminating valuable members with accurate information, but you stay and more members than moderators have an issue with that(not speaking of anyone directly.)
Boho_Chic 7:05AM Permalink EditReport @saylorsmommy so true, It reminds me of the movie "Mean Girls" they are the Plastics. They run everything, lol. Moderators dont be offended by my sense of humor.
@MrsDelRae I feel otherwise, but if your feelings about it outweigh mine, then please do what you need to do. I am aware of what you all do, and how you do it. I couldl have easily been offended by your post, but I choose to take the other road. The issues will continue as long as The Moderators continue to handle situations as they have. For instance, this one. Noone here has been offensive, nor got into a frenzy about this post, but when I read your comment I feel it is coming from a different angle. Its like a division of the people and the government. Isnt that why wars are started, just saying. If you all can not take constructive criticism from the members, why are you all in charge? Just like you want to make it a better place, we would like to have a nice place to come to when we come to pregly, where we are comfortable and feel some sense of freedom to blog and express, is that not what this is? If you feel this should have been sent in a private message, then you should lead by example, and should have sent your message in a private message. Not once did you try to be undersanding to the members who felt the same way I do, nor say we will have a moderators meeting to discuss what it is the members would be more happy with so we can work out a plan to achieve it , you just continued to make excuses for you alls behavior. That is another place my issue lies. I am mvery aware of you all working hard to achieve "Pregly Nirvana" but if your a fisherman laying brick ont he job, the work you put in will not head the desired results. Try taking a step back and putting yourself in our shoes. @MArtin,@Mama_Kat, @Twn_Angels, @fingerscrossed.
Boho_Chic 7:08AM Permalink EditReport @Preggointx I also think they are needed, and initially was a bit curios to the selection process, from what I know, based ont the text the first one was selected because of her ability to be so supportive, but if thats what it takes, I feel you should stick to your guns and continue to be supportive. Not sure if its always the case, but on the post i have recently scene, the supportiveness is barely there anymore.
Boho_Chic 7:13AM Permalink EditReport @MrsDelRae, in regaurds to your statement to babyluv, the guidelines are being followed, but taking offenseand being rude is up to each individual readers discretion, so how do you all judge that on everyones behalf? Especially i fyou have this biased opinion based on a complaint from one or 2 veiwers, what about the 1000 that see nothing wrong with it?
Boho_Chic 7:21AM Permalink EditReport @desertrose, you took the words right out of my mouth. I agree, because obviously thinking for myself is the wrong thing to do here.
@simplyraven22406 also true, about people invollved in altercations. Honestly, if they get really smart they will inbox each other. if it never got to that level then obviously the issue is only surface deep and not as major as the measures taken to remove it. For those women who want to complain: How about not taking the time out to validate someones simplicity. Ignore them, you dont need to make a response to every insult they throw at you. (I know im always talking like this, i cant help it I was raised by old people, lol) But the horse that you feed will live and the other will die, so lets be conscious of what we feed in to.
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Its frequently said its all in the way you word things, but I find moderators defending their rationale and their words, so obviously the way speak to people is not effective if you stll have people offended by your words and your the one who is supposed to be sorrect the offenses. At that point you have stepped to their level. But that is ok. Then after every "its against forum guidelines" I find why, and a brief, often incorrect, synopsis on something they formulated in their heads to accompany their words. Thats when people get offended. How about its against forum guidelines, because it violates this rule, end of story. They also say dont judge, then judge peoples charecter, calling them rude etc. Maybe that is just the persons disposition, everyone didnt grow up in the same commmunity and communicate different. Im just so frustrated, because I wanna stay, because I do gain some thigns from this place, but too much stuff gets under my skin. Its like they make up the rules as they go, seems like a power trip. Eliminating valuable members with accurate information, but you stay and more members than moderators have an issue with that(not speaking of anyone directly.)
Boho_Chic 7:05AM Permalink EditReport @saylorsmommy so true, It reminds me of the movie "Mean Girls" they are the Plastics. They run everything, lol. Moderators dont be offended by my sense of humor.
@MrsDelRae I feel otherwise, but if your feelings about it outweigh mine, then please do what you need to do. I am aware of what you all do, and how you do it. I couldl have easily been offended by your post, but I choose to take the other road. The issues will continue as long as The Moderators continue to handle situations as they have. For instance, this one. Noone here has been offensive, nor got into a frenzy about this post, but when I read your comment I feel it is coming from a different angle. Its like a division of the people and the government. Isnt that why wars are started, just saying. If you all can not take constructive criticism from the members, why are you all in charge? Just like you want to make it a better place, we would like to have a nice place to come to when we come to pregly, where we are comfortable and feel some sense of freedom to blog and express, is that not what this is? If you feel this should have been sent in a private message, then you should lead by example, and should have sent your message in a private message. Not once did you try to be undersanding to the members who felt the same way I do, nor say we will have a moderators meeting to discuss what it is the members would be more happy with so we can work out a plan to achieve it , you just continued to make excuses for you alls behavior. That is another place my issue lies. I am mvery aware of you all working hard to achieve "Pregly Nirvana" but if your a fisherman laying brick ont he job, the work you put in will not head the desired results. Try taking a step back and putting yourself in our shoes. @MArtin,@Mama_Kat, @Twn_Angels, @fingerscrossed.
Boho_Chic 7:08AM Permalink EditReport @Preggointx I also think they are needed, and initially was a bit curios to the selection process, from what I know, based ont the text the first one was selected because of her ability to be so supportive, but if thats what it takes, I feel you should stick to your guns and continue to be supportive. Not sure if its always the case, but on the post i have recently scene, the supportiveness is barely there anymore.
Boho_Chic 7:13AM Permalink EditReport @MrsDelRae, in regaurds to your statement to babyluv, the guidelines are being followed, but taking offenseand being rude is up to each individual readers discretion, so how do you all judge that on everyones behalf? Especially i fyou have this biased opinion based on a complaint from one or 2 veiwers, what about the 1000 that see nothing wrong with it?
Boho_Chic 7:21AM Permalink EditReport @desertrose, you took the words right out of my mouth. I agree, because obviously thinking for myself is the wrong thing to do here.
@simplyraven22406 also true, about people invollved in altercations. Honestly, if they get really smart they will inbox each other. if it never got to that level then obviously the issue is only surface deep and not as major as the measures taken to remove it. For those women who want to complain: How about not taking the time out to validate someones simplicity. Ignore them, you dont need to make a response to every insult they throw at you. (I know im always talking like this, i cant help it I was raised by old people, lol) But the horse that you feed will live and the other will die, so lets be conscious of what we feed in to.