Go home or not...
Ok this is a two part post..
First question: baby shower or welcome baby party?
We are stationed at Fort hood in TX. But we are both from the same town back in Northern IN..
I CAN'T decide to go home in the summer(june) for a baby shower or not. My cousin is having her baby girl late June. And if baby plays nice I should know the sex by then. So having the shower would be ok by then..
BUT my Brother plans to get married in Sept.(Not in IN) So then I will have to travel then too.. So money would be tight, though I do work.
Or should I just wait and have a welcome baby party after the baby arrives and after my husband deploys?(Could be between Nov to Jan) Baby is due in Nov..
Ok second question: Move home or stay here ALL alone?
I DO NOT get along with girls(Sorry I find most annoying, always have) So I have no friends here really. Just like 3 or so.
I really don't want to be alone the entire year he is deployed.. This is my first baby so I am really nervous being SO far away from home(18 hour straight drive).
I kind of want to go home, but I would have to get my mom or g-rents to sign my lease so that we don't loose any bah(for those who dont know, its our rent money)
I haven't talked to my husband about it b.c. he gets so frustrated about nothing.. And I don't want to bring it up just yet until I decide what I want to do.
I have NO capability to make up my mind.. I am really torn on what to do.. X_X
I asked on FB and some friends just want me to come home asap.. But thats just them wanting to see me.. So I figured I'd ask the ladies who it doesnt affect.. haha
Thanks!
First question: baby shower or welcome baby party?
We are stationed at Fort hood in TX. But we are both from the same town back in Northern IN..
I CAN'T decide to go home in the summer(june) for a baby shower or not. My cousin is having her baby girl late June. And if baby plays nice I should know the sex by then. So having the shower would be ok by then..
BUT my Brother plans to get married in Sept.(Not in IN) So then I will have to travel then too.. So money would be tight, though I do work.
Or should I just wait and have a welcome baby party after the baby arrives and after my husband deploys?(Could be between Nov to Jan) Baby is due in Nov..
Ok second question: Move home or stay here ALL alone?
I DO NOT get along with girls(Sorry I find most annoying, always have) So I have no friends here really. Just like 3 or so.
I really don't want to be alone the entire year he is deployed.. This is my first baby so I am really nervous being SO far away from home(18 hour straight drive).
I kind of want to go home, but I would have to get my mom or g-rents to sign my lease so that we don't loose any bah(for those who dont know, its our rent money)
I haven't talked to my husband about it b.c. he gets so frustrated about nothing.. And I don't want to bring it up just yet until I decide what I want to do.
I have NO capability to make up my mind.. I am really torn on what to do.. X_X
I asked on FB and some friends just want me to come home asap.. But thats just them wanting to see me.. So I figured I'd ask the ladies who it doesnt affect.. haha
Thanks!
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Hope this helps....
And I REALLY do want to move back home.. It just makes sense to me.. The only thing I hate to think about is paying for a uhaul, or paying the movers to take my stuff home, and then bring it back in a year..
I know I wouldnt want to drive back with the newborn. If Derek does deploy before I have the baby then I will def try to go home if tricare will let me.. But I heard that the army can be nice sometimes and let the husbands stay for some 'family time'.
Wow only an hour away from home??? I could DEF live that close/far from my mom.. My mom and I LOVE one another and we are bff's. But like many friends we fight if we spend to much time together.. haha.. So I def can't move in with her..
I asked my sister in law to think about the possibility of her bf and the baby to move in with me if I move back. She lives with him in his parents house. They really want to move out but she has never had a job, she's 18 and I think he is too. So they really don't have much of an income. She said she would talk to him and tell me what they feel.
I also wouldnt mind living with my cousin who is about to have her baby in June. But I def would want her to leave the baby daddy(ONLY b.c. he is a pos and has been seeing her and his other baby mama at the same time for the past.. um. 4 years?) She just won't leave him.. So I couldnt deal with seeing her upset..