Temper tantrums

crazyhmommy

Dont ya hate them. My soon to be one year old daughter just recently started throwing fits when she doesnt get her way. She makes faces, throws things, cries, and starts to slap/swat at whatever or whoever gets her mad. Any advice? She makes me want to run away, plus shes teething, her back teeth, add that fussiness.

blissmarie23

My daughter does that too. Sometimes we ignore it like if its for attention. And sometimes I put her in her room if she is doing it blatantly when have told her not to. Whatever you do when you decide a consequence follow through or she'll keep doing it. For the slapping/kicking if she's doing it to someone (me) I hold her arms down so she can't do it anymore if she tries to do it still she goes to her room

Jaime77

I agree.. Follow through on discipline or they walk all over ya, especially if your having children close in age. Lil terror tag team

BabyRosalee

I give my daughter "thinking time" instead of time outs. I let her decide when to calm down and when to talk. We ALWAYS talk afterwards. Even if I'm late for something. Following thru is key to mutual respect. I tell her when u r mad, say "IM MAD" instead of shouting kicking etc. It took a few months to get this routine down but its worth it. We r building little people here who have all the same emotions we do, just not the tools to process them. That's our job to teach them. It's been a great investment for us, she now is quite calm, caring and very empathetic.

Jaime77

Is that her in your pic? she's cute!! we do need a like button. I'm going to keep this in mind for lil' man.

crazyhmommy

Thanks for the replies,ill diffenently follow through, just gotta get my hubby to do so as well. What do yall think about putting her in h er room to cry it out?

crazyhmommy

@jaime77 @babyRosalee @blissmarie23

crazyhmommy

Phone keeps messing up errgh

blissmarie23

I follow the rule 1 min for their age. So she's 1 she gets 1 min. If she was 6 up to 6 min depending on the severity of what she did.

LillieBug

My pediatrician did warn that the fits get worse before they get better. I have a 14mo old drama queen that acts like u really hurt her feelings when u tell her not to do something. She cries those super big tears. I have been letting her cry bc eventually her emotions get the best of her and she comes over and cuddles up on my lap and calms down.

NylasMommy

I kno my baby is gona have it bad cuz im 28 n I still throw a fit when I dont get my way with my husband.

BabyRosalee

I have read and followed the theory of never leaving her alone too long or making her stay away from me. I give her thinking time either in a chair or in her room with the door open. The theory is that we don't want to send the msg that u can only be with me if u behave a certain way, almost a condition on love. But u r allowed to be angry and take time to think, as well as be held accountable for ur actions. Exclusion is never good for a kids self esteem and it can backfire into more attention grabbing behavior. I don't ignore her but ask her if she's ready to calm down, hug it out and talk. If she's not ready, I walk away and come back a few min later or when she calls. We also feel like empathy goes a long way and that giving her choices shows respect. Good luck and stick to it!
@Jaime77 that is my girl in my pic, she is crazy and loves the camera!

azmom

My husband has them! Not my son sad