hes more excited than me.

mommy33

So my ex is more excited about me being pregnant than I am. I'm still in shock a little I think. Idk what it is. We broke up in Oct and have been talking on and off now I'm prego. Were working on things or trying to. But all I think about is how crappy he's treated me now I'm pregnant. My family hates him cuz when we broke up I was the heartbroken one and they had to watch me hurt so I don't blame them but I don't wanna have to deal with that. I'm only 20 I turn 21 in March and I still feel so young for this. idk what to do. Sometimes I'm so yay a baby. Then sometimes I'm like ahh a baby. Idk what's wrong wit me. I think a big part of it is that my ex has hurt me so bad in the past what am I supposed to do just forget it and be nice to him. I know the only reason were talking right now is cuz I'm prego. He says its not but I don't believe a word he says. I'm stuck.

happybuttired

A lot of women are excited one minute and upset the next about being pregnant. Some of it is hormones but some it is lack of your partners support. The first time I was pregnant my husband worked a lot so I was upset a lot about being alone and pregnant. But if he hurt you emotionally then you need to get past that before trying to have a relationship with him especially if you're emotional. If he hurt you physically I would HIGHLY suggest never going back to him.

Máthair

I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time, but atleast he is taking responsibility for his actions. You're young, but anyone five years over someone else thinks that person is young but you seem to be handling the whole situation as well as anyone could. He hurt you and now you have trouble trusting him, That's normal. In fact it would be worrisome if you were all happy go lucky "we are so in love because we are going to have a baby". But however he hurt you don't feel you have to get back together because you are pregnant, if you feel you want to because you love him or YOU want to for you then go for it. As long as he is willing to be there for the baby.

And nothing is wrong with you many moms to be have moments of "Ahh, a baby" as you so accurately put it. As long as you don't have thoughts about harming yourself or your baby don't dwell on it. But you might want to tell Your practitioner about being nervous, or if you continue to feel confused or scared. She might want to monitor you for post pardom depression after your baby is born, which is also completely normal. I hope it all works out for you!

MrsLaMaster

@mommy33,, I know how u feel I went threw the same thing with my daughters dad, and I was about the same age,, I thought it would all change, but it didnt and I suffered from it,,but if u really want to make it work and try and move on id try getting some councling for the both of u,,,, I think that would of helped me if he didnt turn into a druggy,,, but its been 5 years since then and now im married to a good clean man,, and im on baby#2 ,,but I still worrie things will change,but thats part of being prego

Rissalee7

i was afraid my bf wouldnt be very excited at all (even though we were trying) we honestly thought it would take at least a year as i only have one ovary and had been on birth control for almost 5 years plus he works in an iron factory where he is constantly subject to high heats but it only took us 3 months and he's excited but im more excited i think thats just cause i get to feel everything while he jst kinda has to listen to me