thinking about being alone in the delivery room

veteranswife

My hubby really starts to piss me of. I don't know if its hormones or what but since he works and I can be the stay at home mom I just think its fair to let him sleep in on weekends but recently its not only sleeping in is also taking a nap and thinking he is the king of the house and he can't lift a finger. Complains about his Iraq injurious and I don't seem to be allowed to have a headache or be tired. I know I will be the one doing it all alone again and he never gets up at night and will sleep in. So I think since he can't help and probably just sleep and talk bs and joke around with the nurses in the delivery room why should I even let him be in there. All my close friends I would let be in there live to far away.

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blissmarie23

Have you thought about hiring a doula to help you through labor? She could help get him involved in a productive way or help you without him there.

baybee1aug10

I'm right there with you my husband is an Iraq veteran too and to hear him tell it he's dying but if I say I'm nauseas he can top that one. He works too and I stay at home but I told him if he thinks he's gonna lay up in the bed when our son gets here he's highly mistaken so he better get use to it now.

veteranswife

@mama_kat he didn't pass out or puked with the first 2 so I know the whole thing how it will be like.

@blissmarie23 what's a doula? He was there with our first 2 so he isn't good at coaching

veteranswife

@babee1aug10 mine swears he got up and feed our son. how home that I feed it around the time he usually wakes up during the night??? It seems like they can always top it. where were you guys stationed?

veteranswife

@baybee1aug10

baybee1aug10

He was in Jacksonville Nc. He got out right before we met a couple years ago. So I just have the privilege of dealing with the aftermath as I like to call it Haha.

veteranswife

@Baybee1aug10 I think they use that all as an excuse to sleep and stuff. I am due in 5 days. When is your due date?

baybee1aug10

August 10th with a boy! Have you made any progress?!

one5one

A doula is a labor coach. To help u out, get wat u need give u support. I never had one but hear they r great to have. Ask for one.

veteranswife

@baybee1aug10 well I been having contractions for 3 weeks now but I still need that quarter inch for them to keep me so I was hoping my contractions would pick up but unfortunately not. i feel like my water would break any minute the head and everything is ready to go besides the contractions. My due date with my second was august 10th.

veteranswife

@one5one thanks. Never heard about them.

one5one

Ur welcome
I hope ur labor goes drama free & smoothly!!

veteranswife

@one5one all my previous went fast and smooth so I am hoping that one will as well.

blissmarie23

One5one explained it well...a doula is a greek term meaning mothers helper. They are a coach that's trained in labor and delivery. Most offer a birth class and a post pardum visit.

I told my first OB that I didn't think anyone would be in the delivery room with me and he suggested I look into hiring a doula. I found a great doula from a list he gave me!! She has become my friend and has helped me deliver 2 babies. This will be our third delivery together. She also helped in the process of training my good friend to be a doula. I highly recommend finding one if your hubby needs some coaching in the labor room

one5one

My hub was good the first time. & it went smoothly too. Water broke at 3am. At the hospital b4 4am. Epidural little after 6am or so. Baby out at 7:35am. Not sure if ill be as lucky this time.