miscarriage :(

newmommy2be772

I miscarried at 8 weeks and today i would be 11 weeks. Im still so devastated, I cant take the pain (emotionally). I did everything right! Why me? Anyone else how there miscarried? If so how did you get over such a tragedy?

newmommy2be772

Out there**

angelsmommy

I've never had to go through that and i cant imagine. My heart and prayers go out to you.

kailiasmomma

I have had 3 miscarriages and my first took me years to get over and I still think how old my son would be every year on his due date. It will get better over time but if ur like me u wont forget.

Josie749

Im so sorry for your loss, I know how devestating it is.
I miscarried 4 times one of them was at 16 weeks with twins, I couldn't sleep I couldn't eat or even see anyone, I didn't know who to blame, the doctors, god, myself...it took me a long time to heal, people kept telling to be strong and that it wasnt meant to be but that didn't help me feel any better, I just felt that they're heartless and clueless cause they had no idea how it felt like, no one will unless they've been through it even though I dont wish this upon my worst enemy..all I can tell you is to take your time to grieve, cry, get angry or whatever, you'll eventually feel better, time will heal and god will make it up to you, trust me.
I now have a 19 months old beautiful healthy baby boy and am also pregnant with b/g twins again. And even though I think of my lost angels everyday of my life, I'm very thankful to god and feel very blessed for what I have now I know it's hard to believe but it will get easier if you need anything or just want to vent I'm here for you, god bless.

nameless

I had one last summer..i was sad but was fine..but the dr came n and consulted us us for almost an hr..and just made it worse on top of that i had it naturally and i was losing chuncks and bleeding and cramping so bad for almost the whole summer
So at the end it affected me physically and emotionally. Im ok talking about it now..but wasn't for awhile. Im sorry for your lost..

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Jaime77

(((hugs))) I never mc but my 2day old son died in our arms. We will always grieve for him. It's all the same to me, mc, infant death, stillbirth. Much wanted babies!! Hopefully your cycles will become regular and you will be able to carry to term. Hang in there!!

brittbabiie

(>*-*)><(*-*<) sorry for your loss , baby dust to you

expectingbabynumber3

Am sry for ur loss

kayleigh27

Im sorry. I had one last summer at 10 wks. I was only measuring 7 wks though. It was hard emotionally and spiritually for me

newmommy2be772

Thank you everyone for the feedback, now I don't feel alone. Nobody that Im close to has had a MC and I'm like beating myself because I just dont know what I did wrong. I fell in love with my baby the second I found out I was pregnant, so I will try again. Do you ladies know how soon it can happen? I finally stopped bleeding so should I try now? Or does it take a while?
@Jaime77 oh my goodness I couldn't even imagine carrying a baby full term and then 2 days later the baby dies, Im so sorry hun

jess8d

Not to replace the baby's place, but my husband got me a hamster. It kinda took my mind off. But my haster died this pass week. But it helped me cope having the lil guy/girl. Now im 21 weeks hun. Everything will work out.

mommakk88

It's not your falt at all so don't be to hard on yourself. I also had one at 20 weeks I had an accident n lost my little boy it was hard on me for a long time, but it does get better I am now pregnant with my little girl talkin with someone helps a lot as well as telling yourself everything good or bad happens for a reason n you will have your chance again.

KrazymomofAdrian

@newmommy2be772 I am sorry for the lose of your baby. I have never had a miscarriage, but I know people who have. It is hard, please don't beat yourself up for it. It wasn't your fault, like someone said above it may have been chemical imbalance or something you couldn't control. @Jaime77 I couldn't imagine that, I am so sorry. You are very strong. SIDS still scares me to death. I hope everything goes well in both your futures. My heart goes out to you both.

mrsrocketfield1221

I did at about 6 weeks maybe a Tad more. Either way it was heartbreaking and I cried a lot that weekend and on and off for about a month. The only things That kind if helped was 1. Finally talking about it and being open with my hubby and getting my emotions out 2. Knowing That the reason it most likely happened is BC my body IA protecting itself and there was probably something wrong with the fetus... which we all if course want a healthy happy baby with a future! And 3. Feeling positive that my day will come...

I think its different for everyone and its tough no matter what. I'm so sorry. There's many of us here if you want to talk or are just in need of support or understanding

littlenat86

Ah hun I am so sorry. I had a miscarriage in Nov at 11 weeks. The baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. I was heartbroken but my fiance was amazing and my little boy kept me going. I opted for a d n c and was told to wait for one normal period before starting to try again. I am now 13 and half weeks pregnant again. It is very scary but I remember that there is nothing you can do except look after yourself as best you can. Please please don't blame yourself for this, it most certainly is not your fault. Good luck and take care, if you need to talk I'm here xx

mommy2b51111

My mom had one a few years ago which was sad for all of us. She just said to look at it as the baby had something wrong with it and god decided to take the little angel with him. Its nothing you did wrong

mtotompenzi

Very sorry to hear of your loss and SIDS makes me cringe.... had mc in oct 2010 at 9wks.... waited almost 4mths and now am 8wks.... very scared every day.... had 2 scans already at 6 wks after a scare and another at 8wk... saw lil flicker .... so hopeful this time....

MommyofAngels

I miscarried my first on April 3, 2009(Jordan Trace) and my second one Febuary 19, 2011(Raegan Lane). I miscarried Raegan at six weeks, I should be 16 weeks.... I miss both my angels, but I know there in a better place.

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CajunMom

I've had 2 m/c...The first I was almost 5 weeks & didn't even know I was pregnant until the bleeding & cramping started! The second I was 11 weeks & ended w/ me having to have a D&C...The second hit me & my husband so hard. It tore us apart & I grew very angry & depressed b/c my husband couldn't handle it or give me any support. It felt like I was on a rollercoaster for such a long time, I had even thought about suicide just b/c I couldn't handle all the pain & emotional stress. It took me about a year before I could finally sit my husband down & talk to him & make him realize what I was feeling & how much I was hurting...After that he was finally able to open up to me & let me know he was hurting as much as I was but he kept it all inside & completely shut me out! We had to do some therapy & it took a lot but we're stronger together now...Whatever you do hun, please don't keep your pain inside. Talk about it & cry all you want. No one can say how long it will take for you to get over something like that...It took us well over a year! I was certain that I did not want a baby b/c I couldn't imagine losing another one...God has a plan though & we now have a healthy baby boy due in Sept...You just have to pray to your baby angel(s) that everything will be fine...You didn't do anything wrong! Like my Dr told me "Sometimes things just don't match up right". There was nothing you could've done to help or hurt the process...Things just happen & we can't always explain them...We are all here for you though if you need to talk, you are not alone!

soon2b3

I just had to trust my God.
I had a miscarriage then 6 months later had an ectopic, had to have surgery my left tube was removed and I was told I would never carry a healthy viable child. I was devastated I didn't want to continue to get pregnant and go through the heartache of loss so I got on birth control fir almost 5 yrs and then my fiance at the time gave me an ultimatum to let him go or give him a child or at least try. So I did, I got pregnant 2 wks after discontinuing b/c and prayed everyday she was born healthy and full term. I am now pregnant with my 3rd all 3½ yrs apart. I will get easier, just have faith and try again as soon as you feel up to it health wise and emotionally. GOOD LUCK SWEETY LOTS OF FUTURE BABY DUST AND HUGGS OF COMFORT

bumpgirl

I had a miscarriage at sixteen weeks. It was horrible I had no support and ended up alone grieving. It's something I could never wish on any woman. I think in the long run it makes you stronger. I am six weeks now and terrified and happy all at once. It's just a crap shoot, bad things happen unexpectedly and you do the best you can. Don't give up ever!

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I had two my first and second, few months apart, got traumatized n became really negative/depressed, after that took me a year to get preggo, i still think bout the other two n get sad, im now 5.5 mnths preggo with a bby girl...sorry for ur loss stay positive!!!

blissmarie23

I miscarried my son, Samuel, at 14 weeks on April 27th. I was really sad and fearful about having children for almost a year and a half after that. The best advice I got during the time was try to stay calm day to day and don't blame your husband. (He hadn't done anything to cause the miscarraige but it was easy to be mad at him) I was really mad and scared that God had judged my husband and I. So for over a year I was afraid to even listen to God or talk with him about anything. Ultimately I believed a lie that God had judged us. One day I was talking with some other womens and we asked God why Samuel died and I feel that God very clearly told me that Samuel had a heart problem. He wouldn't have made it if he had been born. That answer was enough for me to stop fearing that I would lose more children.
I really hope that you can find answers to the questions you have about this and that you can heal fully emotionally and physically.

tbaby2011

First off let me say I am so sorry for your loss I understand! I had a miscarriage in oct of last year and I was 16 wks and the day they did ultrasound to confirm there was no heartbeat we found out it was the little boy.we had been hoping for which made it even harder. My doctor thought since I had no cramping or bleeding that the meds from dnc. Would be to hard on me so they induced me and I went through 9 1/2 hrs of labor pains and contractions and had to push twice to deliver him.its hard they will always have a spot in your heart and we had a burial for him so I have somewhere to go to talk.him or just see him I guess its some closure for me. But keep your head up and we were planning on trying again after my mc. And when we went to doctors around christmas to talk about trying again I found out I was already prego:) now I am 22 wks due sept 2 so it will get easier but there wont ever be a time when you will forget. One of the.nurses at hospital told me the.night I delivered him and was crying my eyes out that its ok to feel however you want to feel cause its going to hurt instead of the baby's umbilical cord being attached to your belly it should be attached to your heart cause you love it from thefirst positive test, first heartbeat, or first us you see! Hope this helps again I am sorry and if you need anything feel free to talk to me!:)

blissmarie23

@tbaby2011. I am glad you got to bury him. The hospital I went to refused to give my son's body to me and sent him to histology. They didn't do any tests on him and "disgarded his body" and then billed me for it. I was furious!! It still makes me mad that I couldn't bury him. It's horrible to go through a miscarraige and difficult to get closure.

tbaby2011

I am sorry to hear that the hospital I went to gave me the option and before we buried him we sent him to local children's hospital and they did all kinds of extensive tests. We found out mid november he had downs syndrome due to the fact they found he had the wrong number of chromosomes. With this pregnancy I have had some ups and downs but I worry and also thank god daily. But I feel much better that the quad screen we did at 16 wks came back negative for all. Like I said before if you ever need anything or have questions I know its hard but I am here!

lilbabythree

I'm sorry for ur loss. I miscarried at 12 weeks 2 years ago. It is still really hard on the day that I found out and went through it. But it get better with time. They say wait like 6 months. But ur pretty fertile afterwards so when ur emotionally ready try again. No real time line.