I might kill this woman...
And I think I would be doing humanity a favor if I did.
I work in child care. I'm the art and dramatic play teacher for toddlers. We rotate through 4 simplified classes almost like high school. There's a little girl in my home room, we will call her Emma, that is a pain in the ass. I'll admit it. She is so stubborn, and throws herself on the ground at the slightest provocation (please be careful, you tripped a friend with your chair! And bam, she's on the floor.). It can be beyond frustrating just to get her to sit on the rug while we are washing hands for lunch.
But ... she's this way because she is starving for attention. I think she's to the point that she doesn't care if it's positive or negative, she just wants your attention. She has so few positive interactions with her parents that I'm not sure she knows the difference or how to go about seeking approval. Most 2 year olds will do anything just for a smile and a high 5. Emma needs you to escort her to the desired spot, and to sweetly talk her into to staying, frequently with some sort of bribery, just so she won't throw a tantrum.
Her mother told us that she "has no relationship with her", and that the girl wants nothing to do with her. And it's true that Emma doesn't like her mom. Would you like to know why? Because this sorry excuse for a mother doesn't even try to bond with the girl! She takes it personally when she throws a tantrum and smacks her, she almost beat her because the child threw a fit at drop off one morning. I've seen her practically drop the girl in the hallway, put her stuff in the class, and leave. another teacher had to get the girl out of the hallway.
They took her to the circus last night - which shocked all of us. And they told is that she wouldn't stop blabing the same words over and over (while they were at the clowns, tigers! Tigers! Tigers! And then when they went to the tigers... clowns! Clowns! Clowns!) So, out of desperation, they borrowed a pacifier from their friend to plug her up. And we wonder why her language skills are regressing and she's incapable of expressing her frustrations in anything other than a whine. When this girl throws a big tantrum, she doesn't cry for mom or dad. She cries for "pacie."
Emma is 2. She can't make the decision to not build a relationship with her own mother! She is reacting to a decision she can read in her mother! If I felt that my own child couldn't stand me, and my ass was sitting at the house unemployed, I would pull her from child care and work on building positive experiences and a mother-daughter bond!
I know the girl is difficult to work with. I know because I spend more time with her each week than her own mother. And I don't even spend the whole day with her. But you know the key to keeping her happy and having a good time with her? Positive reinforcements. Hold her hand and let her follow you around. Encourage her to help you with tasks and give her small helpful things to do. Give her a hug if she is upset! And if she throws herself on the floor, then tell her to get up without malice in your voice, so it doesn't sound like such a big deal. Because it's not. She's 2. And she's being raised to be a psychopath, she just needs some love in her life. And if you do these simple things, you discover that she is actually very clever, funny, and sweet.
I work in child care. I'm the art and dramatic play teacher for toddlers. We rotate through 4 simplified classes almost like high school. There's a little girl in my home room, we will call her Emma, that is a pain in the ass. I'll admit it. She is so stubborn, and throws herself on the ground at the slightest provocation (please be careful, you tripped a friend with your chair! And bam, she's on the floor.). It can be beyond frustrating just to get her to sit on the rug while we are washing hands for lunch.
But ... she's this way because she is starving for attention. I think she's to the point that she doesn't care if it's positive or negative, she just wants your attention. She has so few positive interactions with her parents that I'm not sure she knows the difference or how to go about seeking approval. Most 2 year olds will do anything just for a smile and a high 5. Emma needs you to escort her to the desired spot, and to sweetly talk her into to staying, frequently with some sort of bribery, just so she won't throw a tantrum.
Her mother told us that she "has no relationship with her", and that the girl wants nothing to do with her. And it's true that Emma doesn't like her mom. Would you like to know why? Because this sorry excuse for a mother doesn't even try to bond with the girl! She takes it personally when she throws a tantrum and smacks her, she almost beat her because the child threw a fit at drop off one morning. I've seen her practically drop the girl in the hallway, put her stuff in the class, and leave. another teacher had to get the girl out of the hallway.
They took her to the circus last night - which shocked all of us. And they told is that she wouldn't stop blabing the same words over and over (while they were at the clowns, tigers! Tigers! Tigers! And then when they went to the tigers... clowns! Clowns! Clowns!) So, out of desperation, they borrowed a pacifier from their friend to plug her up. And we wonder why her language skills are regressing and she's incapable of expressing her frustrations in anything other than a whine. When this girl throws a big tantrum, she doesn't cry for mom or dad. She cries for "pacie."
Emma is 2. She can't make the decision to not build a relationship with her own mother! She is reacting to a decision she can read in her mother! If I felt that my own child couldn't stand me, and my ass was sitting at the house unemployed, I would pull her from child care and work on building positive experiences and a mother-daughter bond!
I know the girl is difficult to work with. I know because I spend more time with her each week than her own mother. And I don't even spend the whole day with her. But you know the key to keeping her happy and having a good time with her? Positive reinforcements. Hold her hand and let her follow you around. Encourage her to help you with tasks and give her small helpful things to do. Give her a hug if she is upset! And if she throws herself on the floor, then tell her to get up without malice in your voice, so it doesn't sound like such a big deal. Because it's not. She's 2. And she's being raised to be a psychopath, she just needs some love in her life. And if you do these simple things, you discover that she is actually very clever, funny, and sweet.
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