Should I or shouldnt I??

misskeribabee

So my mom and BFF have paid for my entire baby shower and another good friend offered to pay for the cake. I told her from the get go the cake I want to order is gonna run about $175 (fondant decorated). She said no problem, well I finally ordered it and now she seems kinda hesitant. Should I tell her nvm and just pay for it myself? Does that seem rude?

Kate_K

Offer to share the expense... that fixes her an opening to talk about it....

gabmommy

I would prob say nvm and see if she still wants to pay, offer to go in half or something maybe. Let her know that she should in no way feel obligated to pay for any or all and see how she reatcs before you make your decision! Good luck!

Mommyy2Be

I would say nvm

misskeribabee

Well I did tell her if she just wanted to pay half no worries, I know its a lot of money for a cake but she never answered me. I certainly don't want to bug her about it but feel I might offend her if I just say forget it.

SalasMommy

Tell her that u will share the expense with her bc u feel that. It is a very costy cake n not fair to her bc u know she wants to buy u a cake for the shower.

NylasMommy

Ask her to put down for what she can.

mommyto1soontob2

Just talk to her about it

misskeribabee

Thanks ladies. I thonk I'm just gonna pay for it and not mention it again. If she brings it up I will just tell her the truth. She seemed hesitant so I didn't want to continue asking about it.

CarrieLee

Maybe you can let her know that it is okay if she changed her mind about the cake. If she still doesn't respond then you know it's up to you to pay for the cake.

Lilybug04

I would offer to go half with her if she didnt feel comfortable paying that amount for a cake. This just reminded me that my BFF want to help plan my babyshower..but everytime I call her and ask her to do something she's not able to do it...I didnt get upset..maybe she just cant afford it. I wouldnt have asked her if she didnt mention she wanted to help plan etc.