im 10 weeks and i still havent told my parents

NovemberMommy

So im 21 years old and i live with my parents. My parents are the old school type that "no sex till marriage'' is their thing, and well i am now ten weeks pregnant. I find it hard to tell them because they expected more from me and i dont know how to tell them i want to feel happy that im going to be a mom since ive always wanted a baby but me not being able to tell them makes me feel horrible and not enjoy my pregnancy my bf is very supportive but i jusy wish i had my parenta support...anyone had a problem similar to mine?

MrsWilliams

I think they maybe a lil disappointed at first but im sure their love for u will over shadow a negative energy. They should love u and anything created from u. It's ok if it takes them a lil while, its expected.

DreaMaria

I'm sorry that you have to struggle with this. I have not been in this situation, but my advice would be to let them know as soon as possible. You and your bf should make a plan for during ur pregnancy and after and be able to answer the obvious questions they will have. How will u support the baby financially? Where will you live? Who will watch the baby? What will you do with your goals now that ur going to have a baby? If you have a plan and all the answers to their questions it will shoe them that you two are being responsible. Best of luck and congratulations!

Kamiyasmom

i hav ben n that situation twice.Im 22 now an i had my 1st kid last march an im prego again.Last time i didnt tell my dad till i wuz 7mths an he wuz disappointd but he got over wen i had my daughter.I jus told him last wk that i wuz prego again i wuz 18wks an he made me feel so horrible an ik hes disappointd again but he is my dad an he will help me with it no matter wat...ur parents will b disappointd at 1st but as time goes on they will accept tha fact that they r gonna hav a grand baby an wen the baby is born they will b all over it hugging and kissing it an spoiling it rotten

VictoriaB

I'm 19 but I got married at 18 (to a much older man. Drama!!!) but I haven't lived with either parent since I was 17. I told them over the phone so if things got nasty I could hang up. I had known for a week before I told anyone. Everyone had pretty much the same reaction. They were really quiet at first and then they got really excited. I'm 20 weeks now and we're planning the shower for July and we have a gender reveal party this weekend. My mom is making blankets and sheets for the crib and she recently took me to Babies R Us to start my registry.

From what I've heard, parents are usually kind of weirded out at first, but when they realize that their grandchild is on the way, they get excited

kritten_octoberbby

Yea they probably will be a little disappointed at first necause they have such high hopes and theyll think the world has crashed down. But just let them know it doesnt stop you from living

3rdXsacharm

I felt the same way I got preggo when I was 21 and was in school..my parents were always saying I better finish school and blah blah blah...But when I called my mom to tell her it took about 2 mins and then she was excited. I let her tell my dad tho! You never know it could turn out good.

NovemberMommy

@mrswilliams yeah everyone that knows that i am pregnant tell me that they will be dissapointed and i kind of expect what they are going to say
@soon2bmomof2under2 yes we have the answer to all those questions im just afraid of their dissapointment and scares of what they might say, but like my sister told me " whateved they say they dont really mean it they r just saying it because they are mad" and yes i need the luck thanks
@kamiyasmom so ur kinda had the same situation as me i dont think im going tl be able to hold it for any longer though because i used to have really small boobs and now they r pretty big and im already starting to show and yes i am afraid to tell my dad and concerned because he has diabetes and im afraid he might get sick
@victoriab well ur lucky and well i cant tell them over the phone because i live with them so it would be kind lf awkward i did think of writting my mom a letter tho but it would be the same thing

NovemberMommy

@kritten_octoberbby yes thats why i feel so bad because they expected much more from me but i am determined to keep acheiving my dreams and i hope they take that into consideration when i tell them
@2ndbaby11611 haha thats actually funny it would be awesome if my mom took it that way

VictoriaB

However you decide to tell them, I wish you good luck and a healthy pregnany!

3xcit3dm0mmy2b

@NovemberMommy i was kind of in the same situation as you. At the time i got pregnant i was technically living with my parents but staying with my boyfriend and his mom almost everyday of the week for 3 months. My parents are also the type that believed in the no sex before marriage thing. When i got the BFP i was 6 weeks. When i told my parents i was scared, even though my mom already had a feeling because our AF were around the same time and she noticed i wasn't complaining about cramps or anything. So when i told her she was excited that she would be a grandma. The hard part was telling my dad. I didn't wanna tell him in person so i texted it to him. He told me he already knew because he recognized a change in my attitude and body language. He had an hour long conversation with my boyfriend and i. And he actually took it better than i though he would. Now i am 5 months and 5 days preggo and he is one of the happiest grandpas to be. I guess what Im trying to say is even tho they might be a little disappointed at first they Will realize you are your own individual and Will live your life how you want. And they Will accept the fact that you are grown and they Will enjoy the thought of being grandparents. Good luck girl

NovemberMommy

@victoriab thank you
@3xit3dm0mmy2b wow well i am really glad ur dad took it in a nice way and well i hope i find a good way to tell them cause there isnt really the "good way" to tell them and congrats

lae3

just do it and get it over with the longer you wait the harder it might become an worse you will feel.. there dissapointment is one youll hav to face.. just know that they need time as well and they may surprise you. as parents its our job to worry and tell you how hard it will be.. but in the end the love between a parent and child is uncondional. its a love w/out end you will see

NovemberMommy

@lae3 u r so right and i will do it as soon as possible thanks

lae3

expectingbabynumber3

Ok my parents r old old school too. Now my opinion is both u n bf sit down n talk to ur parents n if u want have his parents come too. that way it shows that they r supporting u n bf n it will show ur parents u r taking the step of an adult. If ur parents work the same as mines then this will help a lil. No matter wat they will be mad n disappointed but at the end they will accept u n the baby. Give them time to take it in. Keep going to School if that is wat u doin now. Good luck n keep us posted.

Kamiyasmom

@Novembermommy wen u do decide 2 tell them u jus have 2 brace urself 4 their reaction ik its gonna b super hard ta let it out but u kno u hav 2 an since ur starting 2 show u should really let them kno...Mayb u can go shopping or out 2 eat with ur mom an tak an ultrasound pic with u an b lik mom i have sumthing 2 show u an give her tha pic an wen u all get home she can help u break tha news 2 ur dad