Just found out im preg. 24. father says he wont be there.

superwoman27

Im 24 years old and have been told for years that I couldn't have children and I found out yesterday that im pregnant. I find it a huge blessing even though the timing is horrid, the father pretty much begged me to get rid of it and he refuses to be there for me or the baby, and I have no family here. Needless to say im pretty scared but want nothing more than to be thankful for my gift and if I have to I will do this on my own. Im "due" dec 27th so I will have the best xmas gift ever. I guess im writing this because u ladies might have some advise or words of wisdom or even encouraging words that might help me feel a little bit better. I know its going to be a rough 8 months doing this alone but im strong and fearless and will do whatever it takes to give my baby the best life possible. Thanks for listening to this girls story, looking forward to your replies

3girls_0boys

I am sorry that you are having to deal with the bd not wanting to be there for either of you. But keep your chin up you are a strong woman and will make.

[Deleted User]

You're being blessed with the greatest gift ever and it sounds like you have a pretty good head on you shoulders. Let your bf/bd run and hide if he wants. He'll be the one missing out. Is there any kind of way that u could move close to your family or do you have and friends near by?

baby2dec14yayy

You will do just fine!! It will be hard but it will be worth it! I went thru my whole first pregnancy alone because my babies father was in jail. Once he got out he went to rehab in Oregon (I live in Nevada) and that same night that he arrived he dipped out on the rehab went to a bar and knocked up another girl. The whole time he was in jail he promised he would get his life together to take care of the baby and me and be there for us from that point on. Needless to say it was all a lie. I was someone to keep money on his books. Now my son is 8 months and on engaged to be married next summer to the best man I could ever dream up and we are pregnant! He accepts my son as his own and no one can say differently! His family is very supportive of us! Don't give up hope just get the necessities thar you and that baby need and when the time is right a MAN will come along and fulfill everything you have dreamed of and wanted for your baby and you! Welcome to the December babies!! Do you want a boy or girl? I know its your miracle baby so you probably don't care either way but I always wonder what most girls want! everything will work out just keep your head up!!!

Prettymommy

O'man ... I'm sorry to hear that girl. Everything will be ok. If yu cant get closr to yur family ... Check out programs in yur city that can offer helpful resources for yu and yur baby. Wish yu the best of luck. & Congratulations!

Mybabe

Sorry to hear that... it will be tough and you may shed a lot of tears we are pretty much in the same boat...the best advice I am going to give you is save save save and buy giftcards NOW!!! since you have no family close by you have to start early and make sure you have as much as possible I am doing this now and I can see it will be a lot easier for me in the long run!!! Good luck and maybe he will come around don't count him out too soon

charliebby1116

Oh I'm Sorry to hear that xc I'm 19 and will be 20 in a few weeks and I'm 11 weeks prego I myself was told I wasn't able to have children and when I found out I was prego sure timing could've been better and I could've done better with the bd but like you said its a blessing and it happened for a reason my bd won't be in my life and he's crazy so I don't want him in my babys life either just know God has a purpose for your baby and you will be a great mom whenever you feel down just remember how blessed you are to be having a baby after being told it wouldn't be possible if you ever want to talk go ahead and email me or write on my wall Kk

singlemama

I am pretty much in the same situation as you. My family lived in another state, so I decided to move to be closer to them. You shouldn't have to go through this alone. I'm awake right now, because my mind is racing about how I'm going to do this alone, but its not like it hasn't been done before. My mom raised me as a single mom with only child support coming from my dad. He was never around, but she had a lot of help from my grandparents, aunts, and uncles. And now that I am with my family, I feel a little better knowing that I have people who support me and care about me and my baby. Children are blessings.

superwoman27

Thank you for all ur kind words! Its been just ridiculously hard trying to figure put what to do. The bd hits new lows daily and I have to say its surprising because of how he talked about kids in the past. I've already accepted that he's oit of the pic but it breaks my heart for my baby not to have a loving father. I have two wonderful guy friends who have offered to be the "daddy" because they care about me and this baby. And don't worry they r really just friends, one has three of his own and knows what it takes and the other can't have kids so he's "adopting" mine I am just scared because I have nothing to offer my baby. And I haven't told my family yet. I lost my job on wed because I was 6 min late due to morning sickness and if I don't find a roommate in 3 weeks I will be homeless. So needless to say I feel like a horrible white trash dead beat mom already and im stressing out big time. This baby means the world to me and I will do anything it takes to be the best mom I can but I am really scared and alone.

angelsmommy

You'll do fine. God gave you this baby for a reason. Stay strong and i am so happy for you.

superwoman27

Its so nice to hear someone else is happy like me! Thank you!

BrokenWings

Im kinda goin thru the same thing... I had 3 miscarriages in a row I thought I couldn't have any more children.. And I got pregnant again my bd basically left when I was 6mos.. He comes and goes I think he's confused.. He doesnt feel like he's ready 4 a baby.. I been thru so much...'is not not easy at all trust me.. Timing wasn't on my side either.. But blessings they r.. I consider my baby a miracle.. I feel ur pain and im sorry u have to go thru this alone.. Just kno ur not alone many of us r going thru it and goin thru it alone... B strong don't stress it!! At least he wasn't in between and was clear w u on what he wants.. My bd thinks is a joke really like he can have best of both worlds.. Single when he wants and a family when he wants.. Is hard! But not impossible.. Stay pOsitive

Neek

Ull du fine ..... .and ay times it will be hard but keep pushing forward....and usually it takes other ppl time for reality to set in.... they will come around

superwoman27

Brokenwings: im wearing the exact same shoes! I've had two miscarriages and this baby means the worls to me. Im only 6 weeks in so im praying baby stays with me. The bd does the same thing, comes back when he thinks of a name and gets excited and then goes back to questioning if its his. He is too selfish to grasp the idea of what it takes to be a father and when I call him out on it his fav move is to go on the attack of my sanity. Its such a goto for guys to call us crazy when we ask them to be real men. So sad. Im trying really hard ti not feel alone but its hard when I sit here alone day in and day out being ignore by my roomy who btw is my ex ( the plot thickens) I miss my family so much I can't breath sometimes and I find myself wanting my mommy. I haven't told any of them yet and im frightened to do so. Any suggestions?