Please sweetie don't let your child fall into that lifestyle.... And honestly if he is killing random ppl you should put your love aside and report him. Think how those families feel....im sure you would want justice lord forbid if that happen to someone in your family.
But good luck....I'm sure you can handle raising your child alone. Many women do it.
@newmommy_navywife well duhhh thats my number one goal is to make sure he dont follow in his dads life style. Lol And no I'm not gunna report him because he has never done anything to me but make some bad decisions, but thanks for your concern. It'll be a.crazy experience but we'll make it (:
I guess....cant really say bc I can't relate. Idk I guess its just hard for me to understand bc when you say random ppl I imagine my unborn son outside playing and getting murdered bc another human decided it was his time to go. Or my father on his way to work murdered for no reason.
That just doesnt sit well with my heart, it hurts to just imagine. Idk I suppose everybody doesnt think like I do. But know ill be praying for all of you guys....im no holy holy saint but ill pray for yalls safety and possibly a change of heart for him.
@surprisebaby A list of people you kissed, I only made one cuz my old childhood friend had asked if I could count them and it really got me thinking, so I tried writing em down but forgot to delete it and my bd saw it
It's not any different when you're putting yourself and child in immediate danger, not to mention the whole city. Come on girl. It's only "different" if you allow it to be hun... be smart.
@aandk1031 oh my gosh, I'm NOT putting the baby in danger. -.- just cuz the baby's daddy is a confused person dont mean I'm not gunna take care of my kid. Be smart my butt, you be open minded. dont got something nice to say dont say it at all.
Being associated with a gang member is dangerous for everyone involved. This is a very risky situation you're in. I'm not being mean, I'm being realistic. You just don't seem like you take any of it seriously. But regardless, good luck with your pregnancy.
@aandk1031 well I'm already involved and pregnant, the dead is done so no turning back now and I just understand how is gunna be when baby comes, didn't say it wasnt serious. But you gotta understand he isn't the only gang member out there. But thanks, you too
im not comfortable w th idea of him killin innocent people bu thts how yu met him and fell in love w him, you cant change his lifestyle only God can do tht. And I believe by turnin him in one way or another hes goin to find out who did it and tht would put yu more in danger. But lik it or not yu are livin in danfer for th simple fact tht hes yur bd.. ppl can find a way to hurt yu or yur baby to hurt yur bd. Regardless noone can talk or judge unless they have been in th same position bc onlybu kno wats best. Goodluck its gna be alotta work bein a single mommy but yu can do it
@Kerrideern cuz its my vent! I didnt ask for people to "cosign" criminal activity. All my point was to say YAY to the single moms. And yes those comments were degrading but thanks! best of luck to you too
Personally ur putting u &thee bby at risk...u shuldnt be involed in thtt life style..but it sounds like u love ur man more than thee bby...wantinng to put him in ur child life like WTF??...imm not puttin u down but ur makin thee sistution worse...WE CANT HELP SUMONE WHO DOENST WNT TO BE HELPED...U MUST NOT BE TRYNA BE.A SINGLE MOM IF UR NOT TURNING HIM IN!!!!!??? THINK ABOUT EVERYBODY WHOS BEING PUT IN DANGER... THINK IF IT WAS UR CHILD????!!! Wish u thee best
Is this thread a joke, I normally dont comment but how can any woman say they won't keep their baby away from an assumed criminal who's offenses go beyond petty crime just because he is the father. Maybe this should be reported since we dont know what is the truth.
@HonestlyHopeful my brother was murder by a gang member and I would never expect the BM of his child to report that gang member to the authorities she has 2 people to think about... and just because your bd has said he has killed people it may be talk your uncertain I'm sure you weren't there so if you did go to the police a lawyer for him could say its hear say and if he is found not guilty your child and your life could be in danger... These ladies are saying this not think from both view points... I am a criminal justice major and it best for you to sit down stay to yourself and if you need to vent inbox me anytime I wont judge or criticize anything you say...
To all those who have or thinking of posting a comment about reporting him.. thanks for your concern but its my choice, I know the pros and cons of reporting him, so no need to repeat whats been said 50 billion times. It'll be my decision, so no need to convince or get angry with my decision. Thanks for your support tho
hun ive lived in a bad area in tacoma, and i was scared to even walk outside sometimes. there was a crack fight with guns and police involved right outside my apartment door and i almost got shot. this was a few years ago. ive been to south seattle unfortunately my ex was involved with some drug dealers who used him as thier little mule by giving him thier drugs to try and bringing him with them to clubs to show off the results of the drugs and to get ppl to buy thier product. and i couldnt go with him to make sure he was safe bc i was underage at the time. i was pregnant with him and i had a miscarriage bc he was too involved in his own life to bring me to my appts and i had no one else my family was on the east coast and i was afraid to call an ambulance bc of the guy we were living with had drugs at the house and i didnt want anyone to go to jail. ive seen what life is like there and i know its hard. no matter what people say, its your life you will always make your own decisions, but think about your health and the babys health. you will be better off if you distance yourself from the lifestyle for now until things get better. and surround yourself with people who are there to support you and your needs. always speak up for yourself its the only thing you have control over right now. good luck sweetheart!
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But good luck....I'm sure you can handle raising your child alone. Many women do it.
That just doesnt sit well with my heart, it hurts to just imagine. Idk I suppose everybody doesnt think like I do. But know ill be praying for all of you guys....im no holy holy saint but ill pray for yalls safety and possibly a change of heart for him.
Goodluck its gna be alotta work bein a single mommy but yu can do it
But honestly this put a true fear in my heart for the safety of my family, friends, you, and your unborn and even him.
thanks for your concern but its my choice, I know the pros and cons of reporting him, so no need to repeat whats been said 50 billion times. It'll be my decision, so no need to convince or get angry with my decision. Thanks for your support tho