my husband i don't think will ever grow up!

mrssims9909

Ok I'm 28 weeks pregnant almost 29. My husband is in the US Navy but I have an on going problem with him and that is his video games. Every time he gets home the first thing he does is get on his XBOX which is fine but when he is on he seems to forget his household responsibilitys like taking the dog out. He has played on his XBOX for so long, until its time for bed, and when I tell him he forgot to take our dog out or something else he forgot to do he gets mad at me. So I get out of bed and do it knowing I shouldn't. I'm just afraid that when our son gets here he isn't going to help out any and just leave it all up to me. Yes I understand he isn't all ways going to be here but when he is here he can help me.

Kate_K

My hubby is horrible about games too, just on his phone. He grumbles all the time when I ask him to do something. But when it is for grandson he will often do it without me having to ask...
(I had my girls when we got married and after 10 ttc I wasn't able to give him his own, so this is the first he has been around much)

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I can relate...except for xbox its sleep. I swear if he is not at work he is laying around napping.

But guess I have to be understanding bc he has a difficult mos....what base are you guys at?

mrssims9909

Umm right now his ship is getting worked on. We are stationed in Newport News, Virginia

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Oh ok that's cool....but you aren't alone...i think laziness is in the water. Lol

angieface

Your definatly not alone we have an xbox and ps3 and not only is my bd addicted to it but my three sons as well. I try to limit them to one hour each a day but hell thats still 4 hours of gaming. Im goimg to get a game I really like and start playing all day and make them do all my work see how they like it

mrssims9909

He was even like that before I got pregnant. I just feel like sometimes he don't listen to anything I say. It's got to the point where I want to go back home because he won't help out. I feel a lone. I love him but then again I don't. him bein this way is ripping us a part and he don't even know it. I've tried telling him how I feel but he forgets it like it was nothing.

mrssims9909

This goes deeper then the xbox. I do thank you ladys for giving me advice

texasmom3

My husband is on his stupid xbox 24/7 I thought I could be sleek and hide his game but he found it ehhh I wanna throw that damn xbox out the window!!! He has been on out since he found out I was preggo...I hate it! He better not be on after the baby is born or its on! LOL

Jess510

I hate video games! I threaten to throw it out all the time.

mrssims9909

I've said the same thing to him a lot of times and I've also tried hiding his games but he won't take the time to look he simply gets mad at me and ask where they are and if I don't tell him he gets really mad and then starts looking for them. I have threatened with everything I have and it never works. If I was to throw the games away, I don't know what he might do. so I don't. he has a very short temper. While he was playing one of his games he got so pissed at something that was going on in it that he punched a little hole in the wall. Now we have a wall to fix because of him.

expectingbabynumber3

I know how u feel about the playing games but he knows his house work comes first

mandiixmayhem

I annoy mine to death when he plays all damn day long. We used to game together but I lost interest. I stand in front of the tv or "accidently" turn it off while cleaning. Best one was taking out the batteries to the controllers and hiding the new ones he now only plays when im sleeping. I won that battle. But I've had this issue with previous relationships.

StarKrayzie

Have you thought about suggesting counseling? Maybe if he can hear it from a 3rd party who isn't directly involved he may be more prone to listen. Do you have any friends close by you could stay with for a couple days? Maybe if you leave & he has to take on all the responsibilities or sees how messy the house gets from you not being there to clean it he'll see first hand why it bothers you so much.

I had some issues w/ my husband & his games because he's the only married one out of his friends & I found out when he would get off work early or if they called in advance & told them they didn't have a case for him he would still act like he was going to work but instead he'd go over his friends house til his shift was supposed to be over & play Madden. He thought I would be mad because he wanted to spend time w/ his friends. I told him I'd rather you tell me the truth then lie to me over something stupid because now it makes me wonder if you're lying about bigger things.

jessm22

Be glad its just the video games and he's not out drinking all the time my hubby is never home and when he is he is a total ass

FirstTimeDaddy

I think my gf is glad Im not really into video games. but if I was I doubt she would put up w it

clope18

I think that's pretty much every guy. Just matters if u put your foot down or not

mrssims9909

My husband is stubborn. It doesn't matter if I put my foot down or not. He is going to do whatever he wants when he wants. I've given up and so far he has been quitting the games on his own but when he wants too. So now when he gets off I make sure he dose his jobs tired or not. And sometimes he gets mad at me for reminding him but he does it anyway.

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Mine plays games too.... i just make it a point to ask him straight up for help. He is not goood and deciding what to do himself but is very good about following orders (also military!). I give him a list somedays. It sounds childish but it helps. He can't walk into the house and SEE what needs to be done like i can.

I also have a feeling thy once she is here and it is very real to him.... it will be an entirely different story. Remember that you have that precious baby with you 24 hours a day. My Hubby goes to work and it almost slips his mine because its not in front of him.

Im not trying to make excuses for him - just offering some advice. Its hard for us to see where they are coming from at times

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