ugh need advice!!! i cant stand my M.I.L
Ok my Hubby's mother is a hoarder from hell, she doesn't clean at all the same dishes have been in the sink for the past 4 months. her husband which is my hubbys step dad is a pig he doesn't bathe regularly and always looks like he came our of a dumpster. They have 2 children 11 and 14 which are not taken care of, they are disrespectful and this is how their father raised them! They boy who is 11 eats a t-bone with his hands, like picks it up and nulls on it the father is the same way! his mother showers and their 14 old daughter does, but the boy doesn't! My Hubby's mother disowned him for the past 5 years and has not spoke to us at all for the past 2yrs after I had a mc. Now that I'm pregnant she wants to be involved! Trying to tell me how I'm going to raise my kid already and she calls my baby a boy (we don't know the gender yet). Told me I will be takin lamaz (sp?) classes where she chooses! And when she is around she tries to run my belly 900 times! I already to my Hubby my child is NEVER going in there house! SHE WILL NEVER BABYSET MY CHILD EITHER, NOR WILL ANYONE ON HIS MOTHER'S side. Sorry if I'm being a bitch but this is how I feel. His mother wants to be in the hospital room during delivery , um no that's private! I told her I was comfortable with her being on there and she's like I will be in the waiting room and I will be the first one back there!
My Hubby's dad passed away the same year we lost the first baby along with his dads sister (his aunt). It was the most horrible year and his mother wouldn't even speak to him! Now she wants to act like everything is perfect and she's so proud of her son. That I should be ok with they way she treated us!
Am I wrong for saying my baby will never be left alone with her, nor will my baby go over to that house? How do I tell them I don't want them at the hospital, well defiantly not her husband. And I don't want her kids holding my baby?
My Hubby's dad passed away the same year we lost the first baby along with his dads sister (his aunt). It was the most horrible year and his mother wouldn't even speak to him! Now she wants to act like everything is perfect and she's so proud of her son. That I should be ok with they way she treated us!
Am I wrong for saying my baby will never be left alone with her, nor will my baby go over to that house? How do I tell them I don't want them at the hospital, well defiantly not her husband. And I don't want her kids holding my baby?
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Some hospitals require a visitors list so check into that where you deliver. If anything flat out lie amd say theres a minimum allowed.
Completely understandable! And take the no call advice. Tell hubby how you feel and he should get it. I would have told her to back off already though. Feel free to do it. Hopefully she'll get so upset she won't get in touch anymore. That sounds mean but she's seriously over stepping common courtesy boundaries. My mom doesn't even order me around like that, never has, never would.