Necessary c section(this is a little long)

rachelmt21

So I have a necessary c section because little Xander is breech. They tried an external version and it failed due to the amniotic fluid being so low and him being too big. I'm so scared...terrified really because I wanted to avoid needles and hospitals all together...and my dreams are crusheg...no hope at all to have a home water birth. And its not fair cause I'm so scared of needles and I have to choose weather to be put under or have a spinal...and he wants to be in the room but.if I'm under he can't be
..so I'm stuck if I want him to be there and I don't want to wait for over and hour to see my baby then I have to get a spinal. I don't want a c section period...I don't want to go through the after pain or trouble breast feeding or having a visible scar that will never go away. I don't want to feel them inside of me pulling and tugging on me while I'm awake...cutting me open. Then even if by chance I ever WANTED to get prego again...it would be hard to have a vaginal birth...I'm so scared I'm crying so much and I know my blood pressure is up...and I know its hurting my baby...but I'm terrified
..I don't know what to do or how to handle this. I have no one to talk to. I feel so alone right now.

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rachelmt21

I don't think she does. She is the one who scheduled the external version. We have an appt on Monday...but I'm not getting my hopes up because in the beginning I remember her saying something about only a few things would prevent us from doing a home birth and breech was one of them.

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rachelmt21

Its just hard to be positive. I just keep trying to turn him myself but he just won't move. I'm trapped.

misskristin

@rachelmt21 Someone posted an interesting answer to a similar topic the other day and it's something I had never thought of. They said something about kind of hanging yourself upside down at an angle. Something about it opening up the hips and maybe the baby will turn into them once he realizes there is space there? I'll see if I can find the post, but I do hope he turns so that you can have your home birth. Good luck!

I found it, thank goodness for the search bar. It was a post by @blissmarie23 and she said...

"You can try going to the chiropracter. My daughter wad breech and sometimes transverse until I went to the chiropracter at 36 weeks. You could also try to hang upside down from the sofa. Wrap your legs around the back prop your butt up in the air and hang like a child it will give the baby room to move out of the pelvis and turn. You could also add the incentive of a light near you pelvic bones."

tinka1326

oh hunny dont be so discouraged. there are negatives and positives to every birth experiance and type. at the end of the day as long as baby is healthy thats all that matters. this situation is why i never got my heart set on one type of birth as i didnt want the dissapointment if it didnt go to plan. at the end of the day you could have tried your home birth and ended up rushed to hospital anyway with complications... when dealing with children of any age there are no garuntees

3rdandlast4me

I had a csection with my 8yr old. My scare is gone. Its not as bad as u may think.

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a_wagner

I've known many ppl who went in for a scheduled c section and when they got to the hospital the baby had turned...

azmom

Its so not as bad as you make it sound Lol ive never heard that they knock u totally out odd..its not bad its safer for baby

Josie749

@rachelmt21 i'm terrified of a cesarean too, so ive been doing lots of research on turning the baby and here's 2 options:
a-either go to a chiropractor that specialises in the webster technique.
B-visit the website spinningbabies.com
It'll give you a lot of diff ideas on how to turn your baby, one of them is to place an icepack where you know the baby's head is and at the same time place something warm or music near your pubic bone, thr idea is that the baby will try to get away from the cold and go towards the warmths and gentle music.
I'll try to find the website that helped find the right chiropractor and post it here, good luck

rachelmt21

Thanks to all you ladies. I've been trying the music near the pelivs and trying to coax him to turn my massaging my tummy in a circular motion. They offered to put me under I think because when they were doing the iv I had a panic attack bc she was fishing for my beins and my blood pressure went up to 160. I don't want to be awake but the thought of not seeing the baby right away would hurt more...I'm going to ty the spinal but they might have to put me out anyways cause I'm so terrified of being awake during surgery. I huess it just depends on if I panic and have a anxiety attack lol

PumpkinCupcake0307

They gave me an epudural and they numbed it before they tried to put it in. I didnt see anything they used. I ent up having a c section. I was on c section medicine during labor bc his head was on my bone. I was awake during the procedure but I felt a bunch of oressure and the anestesiologist knocked me out. You can do it!

blissmarie23

If I were in your shoes I would go to the chiropractor. Im surprised your midwife wont do a breech birth though. I know hospitals won't but a certified midwife should be trained in that.

Chayebabii

I wanted a natural but my baby girl was breech & my water broke at 35 w&6days I was terrified I had a spinal tap & wn 5 min my daughter was here the drs know wat their doing & will fly thru it I think I was in the or for maybe 20 min then off to recovery dnt worrry trust me u wont feel a thing!!!! Its not as bad as u think gudluk