REALLY NEED HELP!

2boysn1girl

I feel like the worst mother ever! And my bf feels just as bad! I'm crying right now as I write this! I'm 34 almost 35 weeks pregnant and yesterday me and my bf were down at his moms...I'm supposed to be on bed rest but my doctor said I can go down there as long as I keep my feet up...well my son hardly moved at all yesterday...I got him to move a little bit when I would push on him for a little bit...he is normaly very active...well my "mil" said that turkey makes you sleepy and I ate a lot of turkey (she is an amazing cook lol) and the baby is probably just sleeping...so I didn't think twice about it...well me and my bf just had sex and it hurt really bad so I made him stop...also there were times where he would go in me and it felt like he was pushing the baby up but he said he didn't feel anything...well our son still hasn't moved idk what to do...I really don't wanna go to the hospital because I don't like the doctor on call...my doctor doesn't even like the doctor on call...says he's crazy...is there anyway I can get my son to move??

mommakk88

Drink really cold sugary drinks n lay back n relax that's how I get m

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mommakk88

* my baby girl to move. try not to stress to much I have noticed when I'm stressed or worried gracie doesn't move as much. try a warm bath too

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2boysn1girl

@blessedmom_2x he had the hiccups way earlier but no he hasn't moved...I pushed pretty hard on him earlier also and I felt him move away but then he went right back...

@mommakk88 I'm trying not to stress but he is always so active...he even moves the most when his daddy/my bf talks to him or plays with him...he won't even move for him its really scaring us both

headersue

If he has less then 10 movements in an hour you are supposed to go to the hospital. I would go, it sucks that the doc on call is a whacko but this is your baby. better to be safe then sorry!

2boysn1girl

@headersue I'm just scared that they will like look down on me and blame me for having sex while on bed rest...I already blame myself as it is I don't need a whacko doctor yelling at me too...

headersue

I am sure that they won't do that, if they are good doctor's and nurses all they will care about is your baby and your health. If they do act crazy demand to speak to theier supervisor and demand another nurse. You have the right to get a different doctor too if that is what you want. Where are you located?

2boysn1girl

@headersue I live in Indiana...my doctor didn't make me feel to bad when I had sex and it put me in preterm labor...but he said absolutly no sex...

mommakk88

I had that happen when my fiance n I had sex not to long ago it is scary if your super concerned I would give the doc on call a ring n ask wat u can do. I waited all weekend then called n of course as soon as I did she was moving like crazy again. But if its been a couple days don't be scared to give ur doctor a call. I hope everything is alright keep me posted! How far along are u again?

2boysn1girl

@mommakk88 I'm 34 almost 35 weeks...my bf is now laying his head on my belly and said he thinks he can hear a heart beat and can feel him move but I still can't

mommakk88

Maybe he is savin up his energy to make his grand entrance soon???? If u arnt feeling anything by tomorrow please call or even tonight. I wish the best for u ur baby n ur man stay strong n positive.

2boysn1girl

Thank you so much! If he stays like this I'm gonna call my doctor first thing in the am...I'm not gonna wait till Wednesday at my next appointment...I really hope its just him getting ready but I thought it would progressively get less not this drastic...

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2boysn1girl

@richjen24 ill do that thanks! I'm eating and drinking some ice cold pop...and then ill put my phone on my stomach

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2boysn1girl

@amyduh I have taken peoples advice...I've drink something cold and sugary and laid down and nothing...my doctor doesn't want me to go to the hospital this weekend because of that doctor...I'm getting ready to try and put my phone on my stomach and see if that helps at all...

@everyone my bf is flipping out...we tried using a baby heartbeat moniter but we couldn't find it...so he is yelling at me telling me to go to the hospital but I really don't want to...I know its for the best but when my doctor says "if you can wait till Monday when they can call me do it...I don't want you seeing dr.brown" I'm high risk so I try and listen to everything my doctor says

mommakk88

Those heart beat monitors don't always work tell him not to stress to much n not to yell at u it won't help anything.

2boysn1girl

@mommakk88 that's what his sister tried telling him...he keeps blaming himself and everything

hiannaaa

Just go to the hospital. Hopefully everything is fine and you will feel better after going.

mommakk88

My man would be doing the same thing.... he blames himself for everything drives me nuts! Lol but if it would make u both feel better go in to the er most places r covered when preg so go if that's wat u feel is best

2boysn1girl

@hiannaaa I'm starting to think I should cause I'm cramping pretty bad and have a lot of lower back pain but idk what they are gonna do other then just moniter me...and they can't do a fetal fibronectin (sp?) To test if I'm gonna deliver in the next 2 weeks cause we had sex...and I don't want them to yell at me or look down on me

hiannaaa

Don't be worried about them judging you. It's not like you were trying to put your baby at risk, you just wanted some sex! I'm sure they see plenty of women a day worried that they hurt their baby by having sex when it wasn't recommended. I don't know about any tests they can do but I'm sure they can at least find a heartbeat, they're probably more trained at that than your stressed bf

mommakk88

Just let them check u out they can do an ultrasound n check the heart beat n see if ur dilated at all it might be worth it just for piece of mind n if they look down on u screw them they have no right or place to judge don't let that stop u. N if they yell just take a deep breath n let it go in one ear n out the other.

2boysn1girl

@mommakk88 and @hiannaaa he is starting to move a little bit but not the 10 in an hour...idk if I should still go or not...I'm cramping pretty bad and a lot of lower back pain and only flutters and slight movements

hiannaaa

Good! I don't want to tell you not to go to the hospital, so a5 least call.

jenzoe1

@2boysn1girl please go to the hospital.. stop worrying about what everyone will think of you!! Go for peace of mind!

2boysn1girl

@hiannaaa I'm going to call and see what they say

@praying4our3rd I'm getting to that point...idc anymore I just want him to be ok

HavingNumber4

If they yell at you yell at them if it wasnt for people like me would you have a paycheck I bet you they would shut up or tell them they dont get paid to sit on their asses they get paid to work

2boysn1girl

@zexy4da011 I never thought about it that way