Sam's Story
Hey everyone, I haven't been on Pregly since April 11. That was the day I went in for my gender determination u/s. My two children and boyfriend were with me; We were all very excited. That ended sooner than I could have imagined. The u/s tech informed me I need to go to the ER asap as she could not get in touch with my doctor. It was soon after arriving at the ER and being rushed to labor and delivery that I learned my baby had passed. They induced my labor and seven hours later I gave birth to a beautiful boy. He was perfect in so many ways and I fell in love harder than I was prepared. My labor continued for about three more hours. The placenta had only partially detached and would not release from my uterus wall. As a result, I lost A LOT of blood and they rushed me into surgery for a D and C. However, as my Dr. said, I had a perfect storm, the bleeding continued so much they lost me for a moment and I ended up having a blood transfusion.
Now, I am home. We learned that it was an umbilicord accident and Sam (Son of Amie and Mark) was completely healthy otherwise. I have been dealing the best I can. I feel like he is with me. Everything reminds me of him. My body doesn't look like it was pregnant and it makes me sad. And I'm scared because I want to get pregnant so bad and all those "what ifs" creep in my head. I never imagined this would be me.
I guess I am asking all my pregly friends for advice and wondering if there is anyone else out there that has been through something like this. My Dr. told us to wait three months, but Idk if I can.
Thanks and Love.
Now, I am home. We learned that it was an umbilicord accident and Sam (Son of Amie and Mark) was completely healthy otherwise. I have been dealing the best I can. I feel like he is with me. Everything reminds me of him. My body doesn't look like it was pregnant and it makes me sad. And I'm scared because I want to get pregnant so bad and all those "what ifs" creep in my head. I never imagined this would be me.
I guess I am asking all my pregly friends for advice and wondering if there is anyone else out there that has been through something like this. My Dr. told us to wait three months, but Idk if I can.
Thanks and Love.
Comments
I hope you take time for yourself to grieve and heal from the emotional toll your body went through. Cord acccidents are so very devastating!! ((hugs))
And I waited like two weeks to have sex afterwards and I tried and tried cuz I just felt lost without my baby boy. I wanted a child so bad. I have been trying since like June and I'm just now 5 months tomorrow I stressed so much about having another baby so soon I basically couldn't get pregnant until I gave up trying and was gonna be put back on bc for my irregular periods and got a positive Jan 24th. The reason I told you all this is because I think you should wait at least 3-4 months not only to let your body heal but to sorta let it settle, cope with your loss, and dont stress cuz it was a rollercoaster for me the last year.. just be patient honey let everything work itself out. Don't rush, everything will happen in time if its meant to be. I'm so very sorry for your loss honey I wouldn't wish that kind of pain on my very worst enemy. But your very strong I can see that already.
Good luck in the future.
If you ever want to talk, ask questions or just need someone to listen I'm here
I waited three weeks before having sex. I know I need to be on a birth control, but they told me I needed to start it after my first "normal" period and that hasnt happend yet. I'm kinda nervous that I messed up and could be pregnant??? Maybe? I really don't want to put another child or myself at risk. And at the same time every cell that makes up my being is sceaming baby.
The best advice I can give you is to just allow yourself to properly grieve and recooperate, take it one day at a time.
Dont be to hard in yourself honey.