idk what to do

due_in_july

I miss my hubby all day when he is at work but it seems like as soon as he gets in the door were fighting. And I understand my hormones are crazy but half the time its not me. He has made a few comments about how he hates to come home cuz either we fight or our son acts up. I just don't know what to do. Once the baby gets here we will just be more stressed out. I love him so much and don't want this to ruin anything.:(

Megmormom3

Tell him exactly that once your son goes to bed and its just the two of you

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I feel the same way! I'm so lonely all day and when my husband gets home he's so stress from work we just don't seem to get along. I wonder how it's gonna be when I'm up all night with the baby and we are BOTH stressed. he made a mean comment yesterday when we were arguing, he said "god, I hate my life" I was so hurt. Like it's so freaking horrible to have a pregnant wife? guy just stress out differently than us. They take it out on us sometimes idk, it's depressing

due_in_july

I do. He doesn't understand. Hormones or not he feels I shouldn't get mad over stuff when normally he is the one that blows up. And once I do bring it up it starts son

due_in_july

Something else.

due_in_july

@mariacon my husband actually said that exact thing. it broke my heart.

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Why do they such mean things to us when we're sooooo sensitive and vulnerable?! It breaks my heart too! I think the worst part is that he doesn't have any friends who have gone through this to tell him , hey dude, you gotta be careful what you say, or something! Any advice! I bought him a book for expecting dads so he could see I'm not exaggerating and he said he doesn't have time to read it that made me so sad. Like if you really cared, you would make time.

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Wow, that crying sad face was way more dramatic then I intended it to be, haha

due_in_july

@maricon We sound exactly alike except my husbands brother has had two baby mothers and they both were crazy hornonal and he always told nd I better not be like that. And I honestly don't think I'm bad. IF I say one thing he doesn't like he gets mad. I have also tried to get him to read books and be more involved and he won't. He is a great father but could care less about me carrying the baby.

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I totally understand you! My husband is such a sweetheart deep down but like if I say "honey could you bring me something to drink" he like sighs and does it whenever he feels like it. Or like when I'm hungry he takes his time after I tell him EVERYDAY that if I don't eat as soon as I'm hungry I get super nauseaus! It's frustrating. I also don't feel like I'm a bitch or anything. I mean I'm extra sensitive but I never start fights, he just always says mean things or complains that he has to help me

due_in_july

@maricon couldn't have said it better myself. Also he makes me cry and then I'm still crying and he is off playing video games or watching tv which makes everything worse.

due_in_july

@Maricon are you sure were not with The same guy lol

[Deleted User]

HE DOES THAT TO ME TOOOO! And I say something overdramatic cause I hate that and then he gets mad at ME!

[Deleted User]

Lol!! He would be even meaner and insensitive if he was with 2 pregnant women! He doesn't have the patience! Haha

due_in_july

@maricon yea somehow everything does up being my fault and he doesn't even try to support me. I'm 18 weeks and don't know what I'm gonna do the rest of the time.

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Are you already showing? How old is he?

due_in_july

Yea I have a Lil bump. He is almost 20. We are high school sweethearts have been together for five years so that makes all this worse.

[Deleted User]

I'm not showing yet, I'm only 9 weeks tomorrow so I'm just bloated but I keep thinking once I start showing he will realize this is real and he will be nicer

due_in_july

I thought that to. It breaks my heart he never rubs my belly or brings the baby up. I feel like a broken record always talkin about it and him changing the subject I just don't undertamd it at all. Every once in awhile he will say something but hardly ever. And I talk about it every day. I hate it. I show him pictures of babies as old as ours and tell him facts. And he has already been through it all once but yet he knows nothing.

due_in_july

And THE baby has been kicking for two weeks now and he hasn't felt it once. I tell him and he doesn't even try. I have literally had to grab his hand and put it there although the baby doesn't move. my non really wants to feel it move but I want its father to feel first and he is making no attempt.

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Ugh, that's not cool. my hubby came home and I told him he acts like he doesn't care about the baby and he said "it's not that, it has nothing to do with you, it's just that I'm tired from work and then I have to pick up for you" wtf?! Way to watch what you say to a pregnant woman!

ASMommy11

Wow I'm sorry to hear that girls hopefully they come around! Maybe they are stressed and just need reassurance. I'm just glad my husband is so supportive of me throughout my pregnancy and always is eager to feel our son move and kisses my belly. This baby made us even closer and with his work and school he never hesitates to help me with house chores! Best of luck with your pregnancies:-)

due_in_july

@maricon that's mean of him. I hope things get diff soon cuz our pregnancys will feel like forever if we feel alone in them.
@ASmommy11 is this your first one? That's awesome for you. My hubby would kinda do stuff like that the first time And this time I have to bring it up Idk what his deal is.