@ll10 A journal is a really good Idea, thank you for sharing. I am sorry that you have been through similar experiances, I know how horrible it is and would not wish any of them on my worst enemy. Its wonderful that you were able to get through this and I am adding a journal to my list. thank you again!
I dealt with a cheater. It really did a number on me and even though I know my hubby is a great guy.. I dont completely trust him. It sucks, but its getting better. When I get the urge to be nosey I occupy myself with other things.. Ill look at Photos of us together. A message he sent saying I love you..etc. And I just think to myself.. I met a good guy, he loves me, and hes all mine..i basically chant this to myself in my head. I send pictures of the kids to him when hes gone to remind him what he will lose back home.. If he even thinks about cheating.
To help ur proublem pray lots god well help most. Take away tracker just gona drive u crazy. Delet ur guys fb no need for that just one more thing to worrie about. Ignor all sitations that make u think bad or just being negtive with this. Think postive gd things. Happy thoughts keep ur mind bizy enter tain ur self. Men well cheat if they want. Nothing can stop them but there selfs. So wat ur doing is waitting for him to cheat. hes not & if he does youll know. Cause u know wat to expect fr a cheater. Relax, breath think positive. Pray ur strong u know hes a gd man dnt lose him cause of ur past hes not gona hurt u so stop hurting him.
@mama_kat I emailed you but I'm not sure if it worked. The new member @mikeyt6969 is definitely a troll. He joined today, has been leaving dbag messages on peoples profiles about their pics and is now commenting on threads like this.
Awe, you're welcomed. mind routines are priceless and they've worked miracles on relationships. My fiancée is a car salesman - which means BULLSHITTER 8 to 8 everyday. He talks people into buying cars! It's always made me wonder how many times has he bullshitted me. And Playa Playa Flirty Flirty is the charm. We just don't see it cause we fell for it. =\ but try that one mind routine. You'll feel a lot better. Or even stare at him while he sleeps (kinda creepy) but it does work and repeat to yourself why you deserve him and why you love him.
@second_time_mommy7 it was the fear of him distancing himself from me and i didnt really do anything it kinda just hit me one day that look i was being unreasonable with him never gave him the benefit of the doubt for anything and it went on for a while . till like i said one day it just hit . i think it was when he said if you dont stop were done you no i love you and only you and would never do anything to hurt you and i just looked at him and i new he was telling me the truth and we've been great ever since .
Tbh hunny if u keep accusing its gunna make him wanaa do something and u obvs dont want that maybe try eaze up abit take the tracker off his phone and stop checking the underwear and maybe he could invite u too work partys and stuff ino u can go as his wife once u meet these women maybe u will realise they are nice or something like they have a husband and kids too u never know u could make a few friends
@luvbump how long have you been with your husband? I really think that I just have way to much time on my hands lol, I need to learn how to occupy myself because I suck at it. I have like OCD in life and when something in my life is not perfect or the cheating matter all together I just obsess over it. We just moved to a new state, Im a stay at home mom and I only know one person here so it really sucks and there is not much I can do to occupy myself. Im trying to think of new hobbies I can take up! by the way I seen your profile picture and just wanted to say you are absolutely gorgeous and I love you tats, Is your dress a maternity dress I love it!
@Roxy Prayer is one the one thing that keeps me going and I honestly feel weird when I pray about this particular situation because instead of praying for strength and crazy be gone I find myself praying that he does not cheat and I feel very selfish for that. I am also working on this I have been listening to Creflo Dollar and I find his sermon on trust very helpful. thank you for your response and I never really thought about it that way. I should be a professional cheat detector and im sure I would not without my investigations!
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I send pictures of the kids to him when hes gone to remind him what he will lose back home.. If he even thinks about cheating.