not pregnancy related but how would YOU ladies feel?????? :/
Here's a little info first. My father walked out of my life before I was born. My mom meant a wonderful man 2 months after I was born. He raised me like his own child and never told ppl that I wasn't his. I never knew he wasn't my dad until I was 14 when I found my baby book with my real fathers name in it and I asked my mom. So when I turned 15 I tried to contact my real father. Who had moved on and had 2 more children. I called him and was told by him to never contact him again and called a bitch and hung up on. My grandma was the same. Never wanted anything to do with me. When I turned 18 my father came back into my life for a couple of months. He tried to tell me what to do and was like he was my dad. That ended really quick when I told him to get the fuck out of my life and never come back. My sister and brother both keep in contact with me. My sister called tonight to tell me that my grandmother was killed today in a car accident and she didn't know if I wanted to come to the family stuff. They never wanted me in the first place had nothing to do with me and now I have all this hate and anger built up inside me. What would you ladies and guys do???? Should I go and try and be civil or say screw it and live my life as they are nothing to me???
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I went to the funeral and part way through got up and walked out. When listing his kids and saying how proud he was of all they achieved my name was left out. Needless to say I was shattered after what it cost me emotionally that night knocking on the door.
I have never visited his grave and now only speak to my mum and sister.
Just be open with the family you talk to and explain the way you are feeling. Sorry it won't be easy.
@dadof2n1togo. I couldn't imagine the pain that you felt to be excluded like that. That's kinda how I feel. My father has 4 kids and I am left out called the bastard child and never even thought about. Out of all the kids from my father and from my mom which is 8 I am the only one that went to college and graduated. I work full time as a paramedic and raise my wonderful family and am married. I live in my own house my sisters whom I love dearly both have kids that are in foster homes and I have one brother that is a druggie and 1 brother that is a good person and trys his best with his family and I have 1 brother that has already passed away from an accident. I get no good job or I'm proud of you or nothing from my father. They have never wanted me around. I have all this anger and feel like if I seen them I would explode. Ugh. I think that I will stay away and send a card and flower arrangement to the funeral home. Thank you all for your input. Feels good to vent.
I think a card and flowers could be the best option as you said it is always a tense environment. hey I had to of my work mates with me at my dads funeral just in case I cracked it lol.
All the best and I really do hope it works out for you.
@mattandmallory27. Thank you so much for the support.