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squrit299

excited about the baby and becoming a mommy but to be honest im not excited one bit, maybe because i didnt want the baby, or maybe because i thought id be having this baby with someone i loved, but im just not so sure that i am going to give my baby all the love she needs and desevers, im not sure what to.

mommy_yaya

Put the baby up for adoption, I'm sure someone will give her all the love you can't... its a hard decision and ur probably gonna get judged for this post, but its better that u give someone who can't have kids the joy of having a baby!

Bevosnow

I agree, Adoption is a great option.

Jaime77

Is this your first child? Maybe your scared of all that's coming, and doing it alone.

a_wagner

You'll be surprised at all the love you'll feel for that little girl the first time you see her and hold her.

squrit299

@Jaime77 Yes this is my first, I just feel Like I wont di a good job

squrit299

@mommy_yaya I thought about it I'm Just not sure

Jaime77

You will!! Once she is in your arms, you will know how to be a mom. Its a challenge but very rewarding and she won't care if you use pampers vs luvs, formula or breastmilk, all she knows is when she cries its your voice and arms that comfort her.

kay_la_la

How far along are you?

squrit299

@Jaime77 really none of that stuff matters? I'm scares depressed hurt and confused I'm not sure about anything

squrit299

@Kay_la_la I'm 19 weeks 3 days

Bumby2011

Sometimes i feel not as excited as I should feel. But thens theres others where I feel her move and I see her in the ultrasounds and her heart beat. And sometimes when I think about it Its really the bond that IM going to have with HER. You dont need anyone else. I can almost bet that as you progress you'll feel that bond and that love for her, and an excitement that will make you do everything right for her. Good luck mama.

angelsmommy

I agree with @a_wagner and @Jamie77 the first time you hold that baby it will be more love than you've ever known.

[Deleted User]

I was 16 when I had my first. Believe me when I say I was NOT ready. But @jaime77 is sooo right. You're baby will always love you no matter what, as you will her when she's in your arms... its ok to not be ready. No one is 100% ready ...

cheryl74

Ah sweetheart, I felt like that with my 1st, its scary, but a mothers bond is so strong, I promise you you will be fine. As soon as you aee your beautiful little baby, all of those fears will disappear. Remember, at the mo, your hormones are everywhere. X

Jaime77

Nah! ask my 16yo if he remembers what brands I used.. But he will tell ya who was there for him when he was up all night with chicken pox and reading him bedtime stories

kay_la_la

Things might change when youre farther along...and you can actually visualize the baby, and being a mom. I know i was unsure at first and im 33 weeks now, and i have never ever loved someone so much..and shes not even here yet. But if it doesnt change, i totally agree, adoption would be a great option. Sooo many people are unable to conceive. And i think a lot of ppl would agree that a lot of respect is given to people who do adopt out..if you ont think you can its the most selfless thing to do.

squrit299

@bumby2011 thank you and I really hope its like that I hope that ill no What to do and have love for her I used to be kinda excited about it tell me and the bd aren't together and I don't want to be with him but I feel kinda alone

Bumby2011

With her, loving her and being everything for her, her mom and her dad you wont feel alone. There will be a day that comes where you find a guy that is willing and deserves the title enough to be called her daddy. Its not something to worry about. For that baby your supermom, and worrying only shows that you already want whats best for her and thats a blessing.

squrit299

@babynumbersix i feel like i could be a mom but i just dont no im scared.

@cheryl74 yea i understand that im just scared that the choices i have made or will make wont be the right ones like i should be with the bd but im not i cant stand him.. its a long stroy..

@Jaime77 maybe i am worrieing a lil to much about things i shouldnt, like finding love being a great mom and finishing college..

@kay_la_la ive thought about it but its like i want my baby i do im just scared ill mess up.

@praying4our3rd thank you and i really hope everything will work out i dont have my mom to really talk to and share this with only my dad and he dont really understand trys but i no he dont..

squrit299

@Bumby2011 yes i do worrie about it and her dad wants to "be there" only when he wants. he hasnt go her one thing, and hes a pot head and i dont want my daughter around that and i have no idea what i can do

SamiUK

I feel like that sometimes think everyone gets like it at some point in pregnancy and like praying4our3rd said its showing you already care by actually worrying about it

Bumby2011

Take care of her the best way you can. My mom was 15 when she had me, didnt have her mother or her father, and my dad went to prison. But somehow she always found a way and because of that shes the apple of my eye. I adore her and have so much respect for her. I bet you'll be the same for your daughter. If worse comes to worse and you need the help and hes not up for it put him on child support. Your going to be a great mom.

squrit299

@praying4our3rd i try my best to tell all the moms on here how i feel and sometimes i just dont get a thing back, i love my lil girl i do i just want whats best for her

cheryl74

Hell no hunny, you don't have to he with the bd... The best.mom I know has 5 children who don't see their dad, and she puts most moms to shame...... You DON'T need a man, you just need your baby x x

squrit299

@Bumby2011 i was already looking things up on child support and custudy and all of that its hard and i hope everything works out

squrit299

@cheryl74 lol its just he made me feel really bad calling me really every name in the book hoe slut everything and hes 8 years older, he even called me a home wrecker

squrit299

@praying4our3rd this site makes me feel a lil better it does and thank you i will be sure to go to u for advice, thank you

cheryl74

Hunny, wash him right outta your hair...honestly, you can do this on your own x be strong x x

Bumby2011

Once you have that bond with her, you'll know that even if it takes years... itll be worth it as long as its for her and you know if you ask for the help from the office or even child services they'll help you especially because your young and you need it. You'll be fine. For now try and feel that love and that bond I know you'll have for her.

squrit299

@cheryl74 im trying my best, thank you for your advice you really helped and yea i relised all you guys are right about the baby,