Military wives

soon2bedaddy

I'm 17 almost 18 and my wife and I are having are baby sometime in August.. I'm really considering enlisting in the army.. Can any army wives tell me how much thee husband gets deployed and how often you see your husbands

Heather

It depends on where you get deployed. I was in the navy and so was my ex husband. One squadron deployed him for six months at a time. Another it would be three weeks here, three weeks there without any more notice than a day our two. Can't speak for the army though. I can't imagine it's all that different

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I think having a husband away and a new baby at home would be tough

ashley_smashley

The army is A LOT different than the navy! I want to stress to you that it will not be a walk in the park! My late husband was deployed twice in the 4 years we were married. the first time it was for 12 months and the second time it was for 18 months....and sadly was killed 2 weeks before he was to return home. On the wife side it takes a special type of woman to be strong enough to make it thru the deployments...thats a lot of time alone...and unless she already has a close support system in place before you leave it will be even harder! Being a military family is a hard road...i wish you he best of luck...but please make sure you really weigh your options before making such a big decision. if you have any more questions feel free to PM me.

sands3

My brother in law is in the army. He's on his second tour now and missed the birth of his son. First tour was 15 months, this one will be 12. He's only been with his son about half his life or less and he's only 3. It's hard. My husband is a marine. About to do second deployment but only about 7 months long. He will miss the birth of this baby.

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Well I'm currently a Navy wife and my father did 30 years in the Army AND THEY ARE THE SAME. Branch has nothing to do deployment depends on MOS(your job). If you are front line then you are more than likely to get deployed. My husband is a nuclear engineer on subs so he gets deployed EVERY 6MONTHS even if there is no war activity.


Being a military family is hard and takes a very strong woman. Make sure you explain to her with this decision it will call for lonely nights, missed holidays, etc but there is always a great side. The pride, the benefits, etc

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sands3

@newmommy_navywife u are so right!! It does take a strong woman and it does get lonely. My husband is an airframe mechanic so he's in the front line but he's still a hero. The ospreys couldn't fly without him. It's hard but very rewarding!

sands3

*not in the front line...sorry

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@sands3 yes its hard but with every deployment it gets easier. I wouldn't want my husband to have any other job. I'm very proud and I know he is doing it to support our family and everybody else's family.

sands3

Couldn't have said it better myself!

ashley_smashley

With the exception of a VERY few select MOS in the army everyone deploys on a 12 month cycle...that does suck that ur husband deploys every 6 months...and I wasnt trying to put your branch down. I was simply trying to stress to him that there is a big difference between a few months and a year (or more) in the eyes of his wife.

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Yes agreed and I didn't take offense to the comment about the branch, I love and appreciate all bc I have ties coming from a very military family (ppl in every branch). I just want him to know that if he goes to another branch he may get deployed just as much as the army maybe more.


He just needs to score as high as possible on the asvab so he can choose from a bigger pool of MOS.

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I just don't think he should join. I have the highest respect for those who serve our country in the military...but with a baby on the way its not the right decision. There are other options

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@mommytobe1 agreed. I wouldn't promote him just now going in since the baby is due, prob should wait till after the baby and then see if he wants to go.

Nikitalee

I Concur with ashley, it all depends. But I was in the army, and my husband still is. we went two years without seeing each other. He was deployed until august 08, and I left for iraq a week before he got home. It took until august 2009 for us to finally see each other again. And now that we decided to start a family he is due to deploy again in the spring.I will be severely pregnant and alone, it is hard. But I have his and my family to help. Make sure she has a great support system.