Well thats no fun! Maybe she doesnt realize she is intruding...she probably just thinks she is helping. Why dont you have your BF just mention to her that the next time she wants to go buy baby stuff she should take you along so you can pick stuff to!
I say just be thankful. My mom has gotten my kids things I really don't like but I know she is just being a grandma! She is just excited I agree go shopping with her and point out things you Like and don't Like ..
Is she getting a lot? Like more then what's needed? I would explain to her that you appreciate everything she's doing but you would like to be more involved in picking things out. I had a friend that got me so much when I had my son that I literally didn't have to buy anything. I still have clothes from her that he hasn't worn yet because she gave me nb-5t & my son's only 15m.
@StarKrayzie every time she goes to the store she buys stuff and my friends didnt even throw me a baby shower yet. and if she keeps on buying stuff they wont know what to buy me
well do you know where she shops? i know most places you can take things and get store credit even without tags.. she never has to know.. mums the word lol.. and then she is still doing what she is intending and i think its being helpful.. ask her to keep the tags on the clothing incase you have a really big baby.. , a baby of the opposite sex, or a really small baby.. lol.. you would hate for it all to go to waist.. lol.. just keep it positive and always be graciouse..
Y'all should be grateful! I mom has gotten me a lot of stuff.. and im so happy, even if its ugly... baby will grow out of it.. plus its their job to do these kind of things... and it takes a load off my back.... babies scare me... almost had an anxiety attack looking at baby stuff. It puzzles me.
@ashley_smashley Idk. If she stumbles across something she think is cute and a good deal. She'll buy it. My son had pink onesie, bottles, bib, walker, blankets and a toddler bed. I didn't have the heart to hurt her feelings but we never leave the house in anything pink. Haha. With my next son, she hasn't bought anything yet, but we do have a pink boppy. Haha
Wow that is nuts! lol, if my MIL brought me pink stuff for my baby boy I would look at her like she was nuts! LoL but I am one of those people that wears every emotion on my face..so she would def know how I felt about taht! lol
If you don't like it a loving baby in need will use it, just donate it. It would just be sad if she's spending tons of money and its not what you'll use. Try telling her the themes/colors you like, then just be gracious for what you get. You don't have to use it all. I am blown away by the generosity of the people around me, and even if I'm not too thrilled about a gift I am always thankful. Honestly a gift is a gift, and my grandma always said to "never look a gift horse in the mouth". So I accept with a humble thank you, no matter what it is. Heck my grandma gave me a hot water bottle as a gift for my son when I was pregnant. I still have it because she died before he was born and it was the last gift she gave us. Never used it, but it meant something to her and to me.
i didn't get to chose anything for my baby.. it doesn't bother me much.. what bothers me is that i got a few things that look more like theyre for a girl and im having a boy.. idk why but it pisses me off that ppl expect me to put that on my son.. i'm thinking they didnt care enough to take the time to make sure it was for a boy
My mil has tried to pick out everything for my daughter that she still claims is a boy.... she has bought all kinds of "unisex" stuff that I would never put a little girl in... she got mad because it wasn't the stuff I had registered for so she returned it all... she is acting like she should have more say in what my baby has then I do. So I shut her down real fast. I have problems with her trying to control our lives all together though so I know she is not doing it to be helpful she is doing it because she wants her way and for me to not get mine! If you know she is trying to be spiteful or controlling I would tell her about herself but if she is just unknowingly trying to help I would just exchange what you don't like. Also what kind of relationship do you have with her? If you get along good and are close she may think she knows your taste and what you like. My mil buys the exact opposite of things I like.
@newmomma15 Ohhh... that sucks I thought I was the only one. If she is buying it new I would just keep quiet and exchange it after you get it. If she is buying stuff you can't exchange I would have hubby tell her that unless she buys stuff you like it will probably not get used and he doesn't want her wasting Money so maybe she should try to get a better idea of what you like. And make sure he let's her know her help appreciated but you have a look or theme you already picked. If she doesn't stop just let her keep buying stuff and still register for what you want for the baby shower if you get what you want just tell her you won't be needing the stuff she bought. My mil is a complete physco path so I shut her down completely. She trys to control everything my hubby does and turn him against me without realizing she is really pushing him away from her. So I would honestly rather her buy nothing then a bunch of stuff she knows I don't like.
@second_time_mommy7 oh she cuts the tags off and we already talked to her about it so now I just ignore her n let her buy whatever n then we just buy what we actually want. I mean some of the stuff is cute but I just wish she would listen when we tell her no lol. It would save her time and money but whatever
I'm being a momzilla. This will probly be my only baby and I will pick out what I want. I've made that clear from the beginning. My mom thinks I'm being nuts, but idc Nobody has really gotten anything yet. My grandma bought two pairs of infant booties which are blue and white and blue and dark blue. I don't want too much blue stuff, but I like the booties. They're so little!
I'd just be gracious to her and then go through the stuff and figure out what you like and don't like. Figure out what you still need before the shower and make that clear to her because your friends and other family members will want to contribute too. You can do it and be nice at the same time!
well your lucky your getting new stuff, my MIL is trying to have me go through my husbands baby clothes an keeps bringing up used totally outdated smelly used clothes. Um hello gross! Maybe wouldnt be so bad if it were taken care of properly.
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I agree go shopping with her and point out things you Like and don't Like ..
I'd just be gracious to her and then go through the stuff and figure out what you like and don't like. Figure out what you still need before the shower and make that clear to her because your friends and other family members will want to contribute too. You can do it and be nice at the same time!