Update: come get your daughter.. having issues
So I posted before that my daughter's father abandoned her at his mom's and after not being allowed to see her because of him I was told to come get her by her grandmother.
So heres the update.
I went to her graduation and afterwards had all the paperwork signed and notorized. The grandmother gave us everything. Clothes shoes toys her bike.. Like everything...
The first week was Hard, she seems so different.
She used to be a quiet, loving, sweetheart..
But now she fights alot with her siblings.
Shes bossy and demanding. She throws fits and will cry over ridiculous things.
She closes up when you try talking to her..
She has problems with wetting the bed.. Its like an everynight thing.
She wont even talk to her paternal grandmother on the phone since we've picked her up.
She has had absolutely no structure in her life. No discipline and its taking alot to break her of these habits. She hasnt ever eaten at a table with a family.. Shes never been told to pick up after herself.. Shes never been in the corner or had a butt spanking.. So its been difficult.
As the weeks go by she is becoming better with her siblings. I think she might be feeling like part of a family now..
She has clinged onto my husband and is very desperate for attention from him. I guess its because she never had a father figure before?
Shes getting good at understanding the rules and her fits have settled down alot.
She still has her days. The only problem is she is always hungry or thirsty.. Which is weird because even 20 minutes after a huge meal.she wants food. I think its something else but im not sure... I dont think shes really hungry because if you give her something she takes 2 bites and then she is done with it. The bed wetting is frustrating. Shes 5 and is wearing pull ups at night. I dont know what to do. I called some doctors and they wont do anything until she is 7!
I try to not give her drinks before bed but its like it doesnt help. I make her sit on the potty and she wont go..
As far as her father goes..
Hes in jail.
He broke into his moms house and pawned lots of her stuff.
Jack hammer for his fathers work..
Computer..tv..surround sound..vaccuums..
Even his own deceased grandfathers gun..
The cops were called they arrested him and found a syringe on him. (ewww)
im just happy my daughter is finally out of harms way... But now shes in the room arguing with her sister over God knows what so I have to go.
So heres the update.
I went to her graduation and afterwards had all the paperwork signed and notorized. The grandmother gave us everything. Clothes shoes toys her bike.. Like everything...
The first week was Hard, she seems so different.
She used to be a quiet, loving, sweetheart..
But now she fights alot with her siblings.
Shes bossy and demanding. She throws fits and will cry over ridiculous things.
She closes up when you try talking to her..
She has problems with wetting the bed.. Its like an everynight thing.
She wont even talk to her paternal grandmother on the phone since we've picked her up.
She has had absolutely no structure in her life. No discipline and its taking alot to break her of these habits. She hasnt ever eaten at a table with a family.. Shes never been told to pick up after herself.. Shes never been in the corner or had a butt spanking.. So its been difficult.
As the weeks go by she is becoming better with her siblings. I think she might be feeling like part of a family now..
She has clinged onto my husband and is very desperate for attention from him. I guess its because she never had a father figure before?
Shes getting good at understanding the rules and her fits have settled down alot.
She still has her days. The only problem is she is always hungry or thirsty.. Which is weird because even 20 minutes after a huge meal.she wants food. I think its something else but im not sure... I dont think shes really hungry because if you give her something she takes 2 bites and then she is done with it. The bed wetting is frustrating. Shes 5 and is wearing pull ups at night. I dont know what to do. I called some doctors and they wont do anything until she is 7!
I try to not give her drinks before bed but its like it doesnt help. I make her sit on the potty and she wont go..
As far as her father goes..
Hes in jail.
He broke into his moms house and pawned lots of her stuff.
Jack hammer for his fathers work..
Computer..tv..surround sound..vaccuums..
Even his own deceased grandfathers gun..
The cops were called they arrested him and found a syringe on him. (ewww)
im just happy my daughter is finally out of harms way... But now shes in the room arguing with her sister over God knows what so I have to go.
Comments
She would come in every 20 mins wanting cookies or chips or a jelly sandwich(she wont eat peanut butter)..
I finally told her we have breakfast lunch and dinner and she can have a snack inbetween lunch and dinner.. And so far its helping but not completely..
When shes bored or just wants to see what we are doing.. Like if im peeing shell knock on the door and when i answer it she pauses and has to think and then will say shes hungry..
As far as the bed wetting goes, she might not know its okay to get up in the middle of the night. Leave a light on so she can see the way and remind her before bed that its okay to get up at night and use the potty. It might help!!
counseling will help too!
Good luck!
It started off with us getting ready to go to the store. When she first came back to me she would scream if you tried to brush her hair.. Saying it hurt her.. But tonight she didnt even flinch..and wanted to pick out the bows for her pigtails.
We headed to the store, picked up dinner, came home without any fighting or big scenes and she actually wanted to help me..with everything. She put the dishes in the dishwasher.. She helped put all the food away.. She helped measure and pour things..etc..
Then we have a tradition where every night before dinner we all say together rub a dub dub, thank you Jesus for the grub... (its until they understand what praying is) and tonight was her first night saying it.. And she said it with a smile on her face...where as before she just looked at us like we were all crazy.
She didnt argue when it came time to putting on her pjs which getting her dressed is always a pain because shes 5 and wants to pick out what she wears.
So i picked out these pjs that have a girly type skull on it and says punk princess(idk who bought them) and then I showed her my pelvic tattoos that match them and she said theyre her new favorite pajamas..
I made a bedtime story about a girl who had a baby sister and she helped her mommy with bringing her bottle when shes hungry or blankie when shes cold..
And she told me that she wants to be the best big sister to the new baby..
Tonight we made alot of progress.
I told her next week i would help her write her abcs before kindergarten so shes excited.