my bf is planning on leaving

SkyeBlu

So im expecting my 1st baby. Im only 6 weeks but am over the moon.
I made a mistake 2 and a half years ago and had an abortion. I still regret it to this day.
Anyway iv only been with my current bf 2 months and it came as a suprise that im pregnant. He says he isnt ready for children but every part of me wants to do this wether i have to do it on my own. Im 22 and my bf is 24. my bf says im trying to make up for my past mistakes and that he is leaving me because we deserv people who want the same in life he says he isnt running away from his responsabilities as a father tho.
I want to do this and nothing is going to stop me. I guess i just need some reasurance that im doing the right thing. X

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kcoolzchic

I thnk dat yu shuld do waz n ur heart. I had a abortn n 09 bcuz my bf said he wuld leve n I waz bein dumb n got 1 n I regret it so much. I hve a son dat will b 2 nxt mnth n im 23wks preggo 4r him now n a abortn waz not n my plans. Do wat yu hve 2 do 2 mke urslf happy cuz @ da end of da day yu gna hve 2 tke care of dis bundle wit r w/o him!!!

katlilly

At first it didn't make sense that he wanted to do what's right...which was leaving you, but staying involved, but then I read mama_kats advice and I totally agree. If you guys can maintain a friendly relationship it could work and be great...and maybe someday down the road he'll see that a family is what he wants, or not. Either way any type of functioning relationship is better than none.

SkyeBlu

Thankyou all of u. Im following my heart in keeping it because i no i can and want to do this. Mama kat your totaly right in maintaining a friendship. We are both happy with each other and i have said i wont blame him if he does leave but i have made it clear that i dont want him too. Alot of my friends say he still hasnt come round to the idea and that he may do in time.
He is coming with me to the midwife through his own choice so hopfully it may make him grow up a little bit and see what a fantastic gift this is.

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katlilly

Best wishes to you both! And Congrats on your new little life changer xoxo

Kmose77

You are doing the right thing for sure!! If he was haveing sex with you, sorry but he sould have been on the " same path " long ago. You should never never let someone guilt you into an abortion. Then you end up with regrets. Your not trying to make up for the past. You've just been through it befor, and know its not what you want. Big difference. If he wants to break up let him go. Not worth holding on. If he comes around great. But for the babys sake try to maintain a good relationship. Good luck to you. Its the most amazing thing in the world. And the most honest, true love you will ever come accross

SkyeBlu

Thanks so much i love all the people on here. Everyone is so helpful and considerate to everyone.

Sweettigerlily

This really hit close to home. I'm 24 and my ex is 30. He is freaking out more than me! This will be my second and he claims that he isn't ready and he even tried guilting me into getting an abortation. But I am not having it! We were together also 2 years and he needs to grow up. Would I love for him to be a part yes will I be upset if he not.. yes. But I know that I can do this and so can you. God only gives us what we can handle, and I can tell you are very strong. So keep your head up

charliebby1116

Wow I'm going through the same exact thing but I'm 5 weeks and he's leaving me to go back with his ex and wants to be part of the babys life but treats me like ish xc so its very frustrating and confusing but just know you ARE doing the right thing you won't be the first single mom or the last. God never gives us a situation we can't handle and many women out there try to have babies and can't but God gave you this gift for a reason don't forget that

SkyeBlu

Thanks hun. Me and my bf are ok at the moment but we dont talj about baby. If my friends bring the convo infront of him he changes the topic :-( on the other side he is moving in with me this week and giving up his flat and he asks when my scan is and says he is coming with me and he has encouraged me to give up smoking! Im sooo confused! Its like he cares but at the same time he dosnt.
Either way im doing what i want and like you said ill be upset if he isnt part of it but ill get over it -)
i hope things work out for you hun and thanx again :-)
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SkyeBlu

@charliebby1116 thanx so much. Just to hear reli supportive words helps so much. Its just hard that i darnt talk to him about anything cuz it causes an argument. I guess now i just want a definative answer as to wether he will be around or not. I hope things work out for you too :-)

Sweettigerlily

I hear you. Men are so moody you would think that they are the pregnant ones. Thanks for the good luck and I wish you all the best too.

charliebby1116

I know its hard I mean I'm only 19 myself so I do want him to be involved but if he's not then that just means your baby will appreciate you 1000xs more don't worry everythings going to be ok regardless of the situation good luck with everything!