i am worried since ive had so much pain..

pink413

I've been having terrible pelvic pain I'm 33w3d with our second daughter.. and today I looked in our computers history for a website my husband found our old g.manager at the job we met at..anyway I never snoop around on him he gives me no reason to he is absolutley the best most amazing husband a woman could ask for. He does everything at home I can't remember last time I've had to cook,do dishs,laundry,clean house or anything. He works at night takes care of our 19mth old daughter while I'm at work during day,he comes home and rubs my back and feet anytime I want..I couldn't be any luckier! And then I find on our 'history' in the computer porn. I was like what!? There were a couple sites and several times pages were opened..I'm making myself sick trying to think what I'm going to say to him when he's home. He's not the kinda guy who would get with another girl and cheat on me,I'm just scared its been a week since we've had sex but he knows how much pain I'm in down there and he is not the one who jumps n me,its always me sowin or tellin him I want it. He just doesn't want to get shut down if I'm not in the mood it was that way b4 I was prego. But I am scared and sick he would turn to the internet for that cuz I wasn't doin it for him..I dnt want a huge argument out of this when he gets home but I have totalk to him bout what I found n I hope he doesn't. Think.I was snooping bc I wasn't I love with everything I have and hop this doesn't hurt our great marriage of 3 yrs I'm crying now I dunno what to say..

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This is my opinion... but looking at internet porn doesn't seem like a deal breaker for me. Especially if its do he doesn't bug you when you are in pain. Also he takes such good care of you and your daughter. I can't remeber the last time my dh did the dishes. As long as it wasn't like teenage porn or something crazy. Good luck.if it really bugs you I would just talk to him about it.

jewel

I really dont think porn is that big of a deal as long as it doesnt interfere with your marriage. If he still takes care of you and your daughter and still wants to have sex with you then it should be a problem. Honestly he was probably in the mood and felt to bad to ask you. Porn is no way a gateway to cheating.

2girlsNaboy

I agree. Porn really is like "just scratching an itch" for men and he obviously loves you by his actions, lucky he probabely doesnt want to bother you with sex cause your so uncomfortable. I dont think its a problem unless a man chooses porn over their partner then It could be an addiction thing. I know its hard but pls don't take it personal!

pink413

Thanks for all ur support..I talked to him about it when he got home and it was all ok. He showed me this 'banner' that was on the history before it all showed the porn stuff and he said he had nothing to do with it. He's on twitter and said it was prob from someone he follows that got on our comp. And that he has a popup blocker so that stuff never shows up on the screen but he said he was glad he asked me about it so he can get our comp. Cleaned up n not have it happen again. I said I wasn't trying to find something an start a fight cuz we never have had a fight in bout 5 yrs of being together and he said it wld be embarassing but he wld admit to it if he did n I fully believe him..but we had an amazing night and I feel we are closer now from me talking to him bout it! I'm happy again :-D