Third Trimester - neglected by OH??
Hi everyone!
Anyone else feeling neglected by their OH? My husband is not an uncaring person but I don't know what he is thinking - I am 29 weeks and counting and even though he was the one that instigated the whole family planning (finally), he never asks me how I am, and occassionally rubs/pats my back when he sees me in pain. I have those leg cramps every now and again, and he does massage them for me - and he comes with me to all the appointments. But in between there is no talk whatsoever, we haven't even started prepping for the arrival of the bump...I am doomed if I 'moan' to him, he ignores me when I say why doesn't he care and when I decide not to say anything, he never raises the issue. I come home from work with noone to talk to, apart from my parents whom I speak to mostly everyday. I live with inlaws too - so I feel that he should compensate me extra but absolutely nada and I am beginning to feel very sorry for myself and bump too! Only yesterday he felt the kicks for the first time when he came to bed at midnight, as we hardly spend any time together and feel depressed cos although I am happy that I will be a mummy, we are not making the most of the time we have beforehand together. The only time we seem to spend together is in the car when he picks me up and he will talk about the most irrelevant stuff in that time, 5 mins! I have started to do things on my own - prepare my hospital bag and stuff and going to order some items and book some time off from work to go shopping. I just feel like I am begging for him to take an interest/attention - is it a man thing???? I don't like to keep nagging him, but only do it for our sake but just feel so alone. The joke is that he tells his friends, "oh she is starting to feel the weight now" etc - but he has never asked me how I am feeling or anything, so how would he know!! Vent partly over....
Anyone else feeling neglected by their OH? My husband is not an uncaring person but I don't know what he is thinking - I am 29 weeks and counting and even though he was the one that instigated the whole family planning (finally), he never asks me how I am, and occassionally rubs/pats my back when he sees me in pain. I have those leg cramps every now and again, and he does massage them for me - and he comes with me to all the appointments. But in between there is no talk whatsoever, we haven't even started prepping for the arrival of the bump...I am doomed if I 'moan' to him, he ignores me when I say why doesn't he care and when I decide not to say anything, he never raises the issue. I come home from work with noone to talk to, apart from my parents whom I speak to mostly everyday. I live with inlaws too - so I feel that he should compensate me extra but absolutely nada and I am beginning to feel very sorry for myself and bump too! Only yesterday he felt the kicks for the first time when he came to bed at midnight, as we hardly spend any time together and feel depressed cos although I am happy that I will be a mummy, we are not making the most of the time we have beforehand together. The only time we seem to spend together is in the car when he picks me up and he will talk about the most irrelevant stuff in that time, 5 mins! I have started to do things on my own - prepare my hospital bag and stuff and going to order some items and book some time off from work to go shopping. I just feel like I am begging for him to take an interest/attention - is it a man thing???? I don't like to keep nagging him, but only do it for our sake but just feel so alone. The joke is that he tells his friends, "oh she is starting to feel the weight now" etc - but he has never asked me how I am feeling or anything, so how would he know!! Vent partly over....
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