Need advice on how to deal with bfs Mom

Kriss82001

My bfs Mom is crazy! I thought we got along, & then out of nowhere she did a complete 180 saying I was controlling his life & how I was too "career minded" to ever have a family, even though I all ready have my sons. She's even come up to my work & called & harassed me, posted things on his facebook about me, its horrible! I never said anything to her about what she's done, I just ignored it hoping she would stop. Turns out there was another girl she was trying to hook him up with when I came around, even though he never wanted to be with her. Now that I'm pregnant, apparently she's all happy, & now wants to act like nothing ever happened. My bf said she'll never apologize, & basically I just need to get over it. We are supposed to be going out to dinner tonight with his parents, & this is the first time I'm going to see her since all of this happened. I'm terrified she's going to cause a scene, & I really can't handle the stress right now, but I have to go. They are even going to be driving us so I won't even be able to escape if she does anything. Any ideas?

mommy2audrey

Wow! I thought my mother in law was bad! Sorry. Just make sure you stand up for yourself when she talks about/ to you. And remember your bf picked you. Now you not his mom is the main woman she might be jelous of that

mz_sanders

I think parents like that r 2 controlling she probly feels threatened that ur taking her son away from her. Im not sure what u should do. You shouldnt have 2 put up with anything like that. I think ur bf shouldnt let his mom do things like that either.

georgias_mummy

My bfs mum was a psyco soon as I turned pregnant started telling every1 I was sleeping around it weren't her sons baby stealing my money telling me I wasent gd enuff for her son and to be a mum and that her daughter wouldent be stupid enuff to get pregnant as young as I had etc but luckilly my partner stood by me and we don't talk to them and they haven't seen my lil girl since she was 2 weeks old, its sad how turned out so hope that out come doesent happen to you but if she mentions it tonight just let her know ur upset and u don't need the stress hope everything works out hun xx

mizzdivamami

I made the same mistake with my mother in law. I ignored the things her and her daughters did and said. Years went by, no change. My husband never wanted me to say anything ugly to them or call them out on the things they had done. It went on for 5 or 6 years, and i finally had enough (especially since im one to never keep my mouth shut lol) and i told them exactly ehat i thought about them and that i would not tollerate being treated that way. they never saw it coming! Here it is 5 years later and they don't do It anymore. She is probly trying to b nice now because u are carrying her grandchild and YOU determine how much of a relationship she has with the soon to be baby. You dont have to be ugly to her, but i would talk to her privately and tell her that u do not need the stress that she has brought on in the past and get her to agree that its over. She will agree, she knows the ball is in your court now hope this helps!

Kriss82001

Thank you ladies! I'm not one to keep my mouth shut either, but I'm trying for his sake. I guess I'll see what she has to say tonight & go from there.

adriens_mommy

U should definitley take ur own car. I never let my exes parents come pick us up to go out and they are really controlling over him too. Just say u feel more comortable taking ur own car so if u feel sick or something u don't have to make every one leave and put your foot down at least u will still be going to dinner but maybe having your own ride will ease up on one of the stress of tonight. Hope this helps i know all to well what its like to put up with in laws and its only been worse since i got pregnant they convinved him to leave and go back home to them they had him sue me for $1800 and I'm pretty sure his Mom will fight me for custody through him but I'm stronger than that b*tch

HUPE23_1

Be a polite bitch!!!!! It will drive her crazy and she really can't do anything if you hide what urban doing well enough

HUPE23_1

@babyboyontheway. Its not kidbaping if you haven't had the baby yet. Lol go into hidding lol bad advice i know but i hate controling ppl they make me angry

adriens_mommy

@HUPE23_1 omg girl i already got plans to leave i had pllans since day one because i decide i didn't want to be anywhere near them and no court in the world wiuld give him custody he's a piece of sh*t obviously he walked out on me and if he signs his parental right over to his Mom and she fights me for custody.. its on. Nobody will take my child from me i don't care who says what or who gets involved but I'm moving out of the state anyway as soon as my job registers me to transfer and i think that alone will deter them from any pursuing actions and ill file for child support ill get it and he can pay me for the next 18 years he brought it on himself we could've been a happy family but he's to imature.

Lol man it feels good to vent

islandgirl

Arghhh! I hate my bf's mother too. She always act nice to me when my bf is around but when he's gone she start to sh#% about me with my bf ex. It really hurts cuz I thought she was nice but she's not. She better b glad I never lay hands on her cuz I respect her even tho she's so mean to me.