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so, my fiance and i have decided to move out of my mother's house into his mother's house and now everyone is upset and it seems like i'm being looked down on. if only they knew the whole story, if only i could tell them... but i know i can tell you all....
growing up my mom was a verbally/mentally abusive alcoholic. i moved into her house thinking she had gotten better. my little brother said she had cut down on her drinking and that it was actually tolerable to stay in her house. well, her drinking got worse after we moved in. a /lot/ worse. she is now drinking so much she can't stand up straight. she's vomiting almost every night and/or morning. hell, there's even puke all over her bathroom doors. she spends all her money on hooch, then expects me to spend what little money i have on food for the house. that money needs to go towards fixing my car. i mean, there's a tie-rod about to go out in the thing. if that goes, we lose a wheel. we have no ac, which would not be good for the baby, and a few other things that need to be fixed. does that matter to her? no, as long as she has her freaking hooch. on top of all that, i clean her house for her every day and she turns, calls my daddy, her ex husband, and tells him how worthless i am, how i never do anything to help her. i really can't stand it anymore.
so, yesterday my fiance calls his mom and tells her what's going on. well, she says 'why don't you two move up here? i mean, i know i can be demanding, and a bitch, but i never once asked you two to pay for anything while you where here' (we lived with her for a couple weeks when we first got together) well, we talked to her and decided it would be the best bet for us and for Damien for us to move in with her. we have the entire upstairs area to ourselves. which is waaaay bigger then the tiny room we live in now. we will be living right next to a big city so my fiance will be able to find a job easier. i already have one as a full time babysitter for his niece. so, yeah, things will be a lot better.
why is it then, even knowing how much better it will all be, that i feel so horrible about doing it?? -=sigh=- i confuse myself...
sorry for the long rant, this is about the only place i can let my feelings out with out my mother finding it and going ape shit about it.
growing up my mom was a verbally/mentally abusive alcoholic. i moved into her house thinking she had gotten better. my little brother said she had cut down on her drinking and that it was actually tolerable to stay in her house. well, her drinking got worse after we moved in. a /lot/ worse. she is now drinking so much she can't stand up straight. she's vomiting almost every night and/or morning. hell, there's even puke all over her bathroom doors. she spends all her money on hooch, then expects me to spend what little money i have on food for the house. that money needs to go towards fixing my car. i mean, there's a tie-rod about to go out in the thing. if that goes, we lose a wheel. we have no ac, which would not be good for the baby, and a few other things that need to be fixed. does that matter to her? no, as long as she has her freaking hooch. on top of all that, i clean her house for her every day and she turns, calls my daddy, her ex husband, and tells him how worthless i am, how i never do anything to help her. i really can't stand it anymore.
so, yesterday my fiance calls his mom and tells her what's going on. well, she says 'why don't you two move up here? i mean, i know i can be demanding, and a bitch, but i never once asked you two to pay for anything while you where here' (we lived with her for a couple weeks when we first got together) well, we talked to her and decided it would be the best bet for us and for Damien for us to move in with her. we have the entire upstairs area to ourselves. which is waaaay bigger then the tiny room we live in now. we will be living right next to a big city so my fiance will be able to find a job easier. i already have one as a full time babysitter for his niece. so, yeah, things will be a lot better.
why is it then, even knowing how much better it will all be, that i feel so horrible about doing it?? -=sigh=- i confuse myself...
sorry for the long rant, this is about the only place i can let my feelings out with out my mother finding it and going ape shit about it.
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@prayin4aBOY i'm a little worried i'm going to lose my mom all together when i tell her she can't be around her only grandchild unless she stops drinking... but i have to do what's best for him.
@lae3 thank you hon. i don't know if my mom will ever stop drinking though. she's convinced she doesn't have a problem. i'm kind of hoping that my telling her she can't be around Damien unless she stops drinking will knock some sense into her. and i know what you mean about a sick dependance. my dad was military and gone all the time. that just left me and my lil brother with her... it wasn't easy at all... hell, i raised my lil brother and he's only 5 years younger then i am.