Marriage?! *update*

RobynnRawksRobynnRawks
edited June 2011 in Relationships
Holy cow, I just caught the bf texting his mum about if he should ask mento marry him and her opinions on rings!! We haven't been together that long but was seeing each other before I got with my ex for about 6months. I know I could happily spend the rest of my life with him. I am just in shock I didnt expect him to be thinking about this sort of stuff so soon. I hadn't even thought of it.
I love him with ALL my heart but I dont know if I can. Elliot is going to have my last name. I don't want to get married and me and the bf to have a different last name to us and his dad and ask why that happened. Would it be wrong for him to take the bf's last name when born if we do get married. Idk I'd love to marry the bf.
What would you do?? I know he hasn't asked yet but I need to think about this now before he asks.

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  • valentinasmommyvalentinasmommy
    I would kindly try to bring it up before he ask(saying maybe its too soon) if you honestly don't think you'll be with him for the rest of your life then give baby your name.be realistic now. But really,the last name is all up to you.
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  • mommy2now3mommy2now3
    You can always give the baby your last name and the just hiffenate (spelling ) yours when you get married so that the baby has your name still, if you are happy and know you want to be with him and you guys get married I don't think it is wrong to give the baby his last name. If the babys biological dad is not going tone around there is no need to add him. You don't have to put anyone on the birth certificate under the father. Sorry that was kinda long I have been in your shoes it is not easy. But the decision is yours.
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  • redhead25redhead25
    If u can see yourself marrying him. When he asks just tell him you want a long engagement. There's nothing wrong with being engaged a year or two.
  • VictoriaBVictoriaB
    Me and my husband got married after knowing each other for about 6 months and only dating for about 2 months. We'll be celebrating our one year anniversary a month after our son is born. Everybody was really worried because of how quick things went, but honestly I couldn't imagine life without him. It was definitely love at first sight for both of us!

    If you think that things are going too quick, you could stay engaged for a while. Some people stay engaged for years! I'm not sure about England, but I think that if you get married to a man who isn't the baby's father, he can adopt the baby and give the child his last name. My half sister's mom and stepfather did that.
  • Prayin_4_twinsPrayin_4_twins
    Hubby & I met dated for 6 mo got engaged. We were engaged for 13 mo. Sept 26 we will be married for 2 yrs. There is nothing wrong w/ a long engagement plus it gives you time to plan while raising a baby :) I grew up w/ a girl, (I know the truth, but she does not) her mom got prego, dated a different guy they got married before she was born (he knew it wasn't his baby) he is listed as the father & she has his last name.
  • RobynnRawksRobynnRawks
    *update* ok so after ALOT of thought and alot talking and reading these comments I have decided, when he asks I will be saying yes. I will then suggest a autumn wedding next year :) maybe holloween. I dunno but all I know is I love him and it is not difficult to change Elliot's last name :) after all Elliot's father might even give up his rights and allow the bf to adopt him. Hopefully anyway :) Now I'm super excited and wanna look at venues and dresses already lol
  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    edited June 2011
    Good luck! Let me know once you start planning. I'm an event planner among other things and planned my own wedding. I'll email you the album.
  • RobynnRawksRobynnRawks
    @blueberrysmom thanks, I deffo will do :) I love a wedding but I don't know where to start lol. This is soo exciting :D
  • misskristinmisskristin
    @blueberrysmom Is there anything you don't do? lol :)
  • RobynnRawksRobynnRawks
    @praying4our3rd I love shopping so dress shopping should heaven. You have to show us a pic of your dress when you get it ;)
    @misskristin she is pretty awesome :D
  • SamiUKSamiUK
    awww i actually hate wedding planning :( lol was exciting for like 2 weeks
    btw I'm 99% sure that you can change a under 18's name free via deed poll :)
  • RobynnRawksRobynnRawks
    @samiuk it costs £10 but it will probably be the best tenner I ever spent lol. I gotta wait for him to ask me first but I think I will love it :D lol
    @praying4our3rd I can't wait to see what dress you get :D
  • SamiUKSamiUK
    Oh lol i had mine changed in 2001 and didn't cost owt prob changed like lol

    lol i let him choose venue it is nice but now I'm slaggin it of cos its like 75 mile away from my family lol
  • RobynnRawksRobynnRawks
    @samiuk my sister ha hers change in January and it cost her £25. I think if you have a good reason they change it for free I'm not sure.
  • RobynnRawksRobynnRawks
    Omfg!! I just decided on our honey moon location. It's got to be vagas no doubt or a tour of same of the states. I must go to Salem. Ohh god he needs to hurry up and ask me :D
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  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    @misskristin - LOL! Well, I suck at cleaning. I really just shuffle things around and hope no one notices. :-D
  • blueberrysmomblueberrysmom
    edited June 2011
    Here's a great place for wedding invitations! They ship from India and they're fabulous!
    Ours was pressed flowers on cream paper on a gold scroll with a gold ribbon in a box.

    http://www.indianweddingcard.com/
  • SamiUKSamiUK
    Oh btw watch this morning in morning they got wedding things on cool and quirky venues lol
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  • ashesashes
    Congrats beforehand :)

    I would hyphenate the last name. That way it wouldn't be such an issue later
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