Confession.....

PEsMommY

I am so inlove with my daughter and didnt know I could love so much so soon. I love both my kids equally, but feel like I'm bonding with my daughter so much faster than I did 6 yrs ago with my son. I think its cuz I'm older (not a teenager), I have my own place (not living with family telling me how to parent), I'm bf not pumping (son was in nicu) and I'm more comfortable as a mom. But I feel like a bad mom that 6 yrs ago I had such a hard time bonding with my son (living with his dad and his parents, and it felt like everything I did was wrong) it took me a whole 6 months to feel like my sons mommy and connect, but my lil girl is only 2 wks and I already know my place. With her I dont feel possessive just protective.... Am I a bad mom?

Texamama3x

Absolutely not! I'm sure u did the best u could with your son at that time in your life. Just like your doing now for your daughter. It's obvious that you care very much about both of your children.

PEsMommY

@mamaof3tob thank you. I had to voice my concern somewhere.

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The fact that you are voicing your concern tells me you're a great mom... because you CARE. And you feel guilty. If you didn't, then you would be a bad mom. You obviously have an abundance of love for BOTH of your children. I don't know you from Adam and can see this...

Texamama3x

@seifer12211 I kind of felt the same way. I had my first son at 19. I felt I bonded with him but I never even attempted to bf. I had my 2nd son at 28 and I did bf. I'm sure I would have tried with my 1st if I was older. I had to tell myself that I did the best I could with my knowledge at the time. Congratulations on your 2 blessings!

lae3

i know what you mean.. i also was a teen mom and i think alot of it is adjusting to being a mother.. and the fact that i was in denile till he was here.. or i didnt realize how much my life would change.. i always loved him .. but it was easier for me to bond and feel close with my second.. and i think it had to do with cercumstances being different.. and also being adjusted to mother hood..

PEsMommY

@babynumber6 thank u! i do love both my kids and want the best
@Lae3 thank you so much! I dont feel alone and that means a lot

I guess one of my fears is that my husband is a great stepdad to my son (actually my son calls him dad) and our daughter is ours. I grew up in a mixed family and I never want fairness issues with my kids, and hearing that others can relate (with 2nd child bonding easier) settles that fear. My son is amazing and we praise him and give him special time as well, and theres no doubt I love both equally.