If I knew then what I know now...

cocoamaya

I feel like I'm loosing my mind...my husband won't touch me, love on me, acknowledge me, nothing! I feel insecure because I think he is emotionally investing into someone else. He wanted this baby more than I ever did, now I think he regrets it. If I only knew this was the way it would be 2 years ago when we started ttc. I just want my prince back! Then my mom has been gone for 4 years, and even though I'm 29, there are days I just want my mommy! My brother and I got into one of the worst fights in years, and since it's just the two of us,I'm really torn up about it. Not to mention other various work issues and friend issues. Then I get to find out the sex on Friday, and I have to travel 90 miles to see the specialist (cuz I'm high risk) by myself! I have no support, and I'm sad...I just want someone to be happy about this baby! I feel like I can handle these things, but dang all together all at once! I feel sad and beat up!

Fate

I'm happy about your baby! Find your support here darlin'. My hubster works 2000 miles away so I find these ladies' support in place of his.

Adriane

I'm soooo sorry you are dealing with all of this now. Why do you think he's emotionally investing in someone else? Just try to keep your chin up and your eye on the prize, no matter what happens with anyone else you will have a beautiful baby in a few months! And you always have all of us on pregly to support you :-)

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kiamf1105

I know what you ate going through. Even to loosing my mom just a year ago. Email me if you want to chat more. Kiamf1105@Gmail. Com

roseisamommynow

Aww. I'm sorry u feel Like that. U can sorta relate to u tho bcuz my bf was the same way in the beginning. I think it probably haven't hit him yet. Try talking to him saying u need his support nd right now u feel all alone. Situation with ur brother will get better. U mentioned its only u two so I'm pretty confident that u guys will eventually work it out. I fight my sisters at least once a month bt we manage to let it go. If u really miss ur bro jus try to make it better nd call him. Good luck I hope u feel better.

cocoamaya

@adriane That's why I posted, I felt like I have no where else to turn, and I have watched how the support can be so good on here...I need it. I think he is investing in someone else because he has invited her to things like his police graduation, me and my whole family came to support him and he spent a half hour talking to her and didn't even come to acknowledge us. The same night we went to dinner and she sat next to him, he talked to her all night, not two words to me. Then last week I find out they went to dinner together, our bank statement shows he paid for two dinners. He says that others were supposed to go to dinner, but canceled. I can't tell you the last time he took me out to dinner! It sucks!

cocoamaya

Well it makes me feel a little better knowing that I'm not alone...

Adriane

I'm so sorry, it does sound like he may be looking to her for some kind of relationship. If I were you I would confront him about it and tell him how you are feeling. You didn't make this baby alone and you shouldn't have to go through pregnancy alone either. As your husband it is his responsibility to be there for you. I hope things with your brother turn around soon. If you need to talk then feel free to message me or email me at adriane.blane@gmail.com.

lae3

aww im sorry you feel this way.. i felt that way with my last pregnancy.. and my honey doesnt show much interest in the pregnancy part.. but he was extreemly excited about the gender u/s why cant he go with you.. just being nosy.. he probably just doesnt know how to act.. mabey you can put the moves on him and if he doesnt resipericate than ask him what the problem is.. you may find its not so bad.. good luck.

monkey_girl

Sorry that you're going through this. Be strong! Just remember that both you and your partner are going through so many emotions and its perfectly normal. My husband goes from being happy to worried to mad to freaking out to excited. Hang in there.

survivormommie3

aw im so sorry. i would express how you feel to him. and straight up ask him whats going on between the two of them. gauge his truth on how he responds. i would def make it clear to him that if he isnt in it for the long run or even a kiss or grab was exchanged between the two of them youre done

cocoamaya

@lae3 he can't go cuz of work...no one can cover for him. I have put the moves on him and asked him what the problem is...he says it's not intentional, yet now he knows and it's no change. Ugh!
@adriane & survivormommie3 I have confronted him...he thinks I'm over reacting, hormonal, and emotional. I'm contemplating a split or break. Idk. The thought of even an emotional or physical exchange between them consumes my thoughts.

survivormommie3

hmmm, sorry to say, but that doesn't sound promising

janellesmommie

Im sorry im happy about ur baby im here for u if u need sum 1 to talk im here ur not alone >:D<

lae3

Ya that's
Gotta hurt..