not the best BD but hes stepin up even tho my princess still on down low

Proud_mommyof2

So my bd came 3 hrs to go to the Dr wit me for the 1st time mind u im 36 wks n 3days . He then took me n my princess #1 to eat n we did the rest of the shoppin 4 princess #2 . While shoppin i ask did he break the news to his gf of 6 yrs . He pretened not to hear me . Me n him no longer mess around but i do love him but i dnt think its fair to me or my princess that she has to be hidden. They been together 6yrs n this is his 2nd child hes had on her. She warned him she will shoot him if it happens again . I told him to go buy a bullet proof vest. Everybody knows becuz n my 4D ultrasound she looks jus like him . Owell

kendra_31639

My bd just told his other supposedly bm that im preggo and im 36 weeks she already suspected it but she finally knows he doesn't know if her baby is his but he is for sure about mine and I was like well why did it take so long to tell her lol mind u they are not together lol....me and him was but no longer MEN SUCK lol

Proud_mommyof2

Sure do me n mine were together n whn we found out i was pregnant he told me keep it but he has a gf of 6yrs. I been all in the house car n never noticed anything to mke me thing there was someone else.

Proud_mommyof2

Theres only rumors around about who he is i never confrimed anythin

kendra_31639

Yea I understand that my bd told me he wasn't sleeping with her anymore just talking to her because of the little girl but he doesn't know if she is his or not and everytime I went to his place I never seen anything out the ordinary either

Ittybitty

well at least he is doing something now. but i agree, its not fair that he hides yall at all. i would have already found a way to tell the chick, she does have a right to know. your giving him his cake and letting him eat it too mine already knew not to try to hide it from his kids mom. BUT i did tell him i didnt want her knowing we was having a girl at first..
we're on & off alot so its been up and down but he is stepping up too went and bought me a gliding chair and put so much effort into my belly cast. i wish he was like that ALL the time

Proud_mommyof2

@kendra_31639 well i jus never knew of her at all till i was already prego.@ Ittybitty i dnt wanna cause any drama i dnt wnt to hurt her i fig let him tell her or she will find out the same way she found out about the 1st one he had . She kept finding baby clothes n he jus broke dwn n told her by then the baby was 3. I dnt think i can wait tht long. Plus tht child was wit his sons mom m there not even n the us there in Ja

Proud_mommyof2

I also wish those moments could of last forever but i went to bed alone like always

kendra_31639

Well I don't think it is right I wasn't to big of a secret I drove his car all the time key to his place and even when he had the lil girl they stayed at my place most of the time we have pics together and everything she was just in denial I guess plus she young and crazy she scratch s his car leaves crazy. Messages bust his lights but she does that to him cuz he let's it happen she knows better not to f**** with me lol...I knew of her just he wasn't telling whole truth but men lie he doing all he can we actually are going to beach next week before baby comes lol

singlemama

Better late than never i guess. At least he is buying things in preparation for the child and not denying its his responsibility. If my bd bought anything or tried to help me out n any way financially we wouldnt have as much of a beef. good luck with u and ur little baby girl!

Proud_mommyof2

@kendra_31639 lol hope yall hve fun . But whn she finds out the drama better stay between them . @ singlemama im so thankful for him to step up he never said he wouldnt it jus seemed like all tlk but to see him in actioni can relax a bit. N thnks girl good luck2 u 2 .

Ittybitty

in my opinion she will get more hurt the longer its kept from her.

Proud_mommyof2

Samething i said but i dnt wnt to bare the bad news. Jus worried abouy me n both my girls

misskristin

I agree with @Proud_mommyof2. If she had no idea there was another woman, she is in no way responsible for what the situation has become. It is definitely not her place to tell the other woman that she is having his baby. I'm glad he's stepping up, but he's still a jerk for lying to her, you, and your daughter. Good luck hun.

[Deleted User]

You're no better being with a man who has a gf. ur both cheating and lying. No matter who it is , you should respect the person. You should've made sure he ended his relationship with her before having second child with her. Anyone could disagree or attack me all you want. What's right is right. The hurt he's gonna be causing her is also ur responsibilty.

lily_glz

i personally wouldn't have anything to do with someone who was ashamed or felt the need to hide my child. I would be like you don't want anyone to know then fine you won't know her either!! that's just my *opinion*

[Deleted User]

Also in my eyes the girlfriend at least does not know. You're with a man openly admitting that he has a gf and that he tells you that she does not know. Your the one knowingly cheating and lying with him. In my eyes this is just like those situations where men keep mistresses and you always blame the men. To me women are just as bad being with a married or attached men. I know in todays society everything has been done or heard of but still women should have more self respect for themselves to get respected by men. I believe in marriage, not cheating and old school way people live according to religion. Doesn't matter what book you follow either. The root of all books lead you the right way. He is at least taking care of his child for now but could easily walk out or cheat on you with another women and you will be the gf who does know anything. What goes around comes around. Don't you forget that. Its never late to do the right thing either. You should give him extra push to come clean and be honest with the gf and broke off the relationship. You have two girls with him, he should be only committed to you and marry you. After all you have two kids with him who also need a father figure around.

kenzie0713

@ashthurs I have to agree!

Proud_mommyof2

Ok @ ashthurs u must cnt read or dont understand wht ur reading 1st off im no with him n DIDNT FIND OUT ABOUT THE GF TIL AFTER I WAS ALREADY KNOCKED UP. N 2ND OFF MY 1ST CHILD ISNT WITH HIM NO WHERE N THIS POST DID I SAY THT SEEM LIKE U HVE SUMTHINGS U NEES TO SORT OUT B4 U COME N TRY TO PUT SOME ONE IN THERE PLACE U KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ME OR THE TYPE OF LIFE I LIVE. BUT IF HES GONNA STEP UP N DO FOR MY CHILD I WNT STOP HIM . N IM NOT GONNA BREAK THT WOMENS HEART LET HIM

Proud_mommyof2

@kenzie0713 how could u agree n she doesnt knw wht the hell shes tlkin about. LMAO SILLY GIRLS LEARN TO READ B4 UR QUICK TO DWN SUM1 ME N HIM WHERE TOGETHER FOR OVER A YR N I AGIN FOUND OUT ABOUT HER AFTER BEING PREGNANT .

BayouMamma

Do what you gotta do just dont let emotions get in the way and have ir happen again. He seems to have a pattern of having a kid and hiding it from his then flavor of the week. Its not respectable to keep conceiving children and sometimes srepping up when he feels like it.
Def take him for child support!
Good luck mamma

Proud_mommyof2

@lily_glz my 1st child doesnt hve her dad around n even tho hes an ass he does do right by with both my girls n need the help. If i was still workin then he would b a non factor n my or my childs life. But me n him are now only friends n i bring up him telling all the time.

kenzie0713

@proud_mommyof2 I was agreeing that women are just as guilty as men and by allowing a man to live a lie is never something that makes it easy to lay your head at night. Most men are no good but some women only see what they want to see

Proud_mommyof2

@bayoumamma @ first i was going crazy over it but now me n him are cool no sex even.tho he trys every chance he gets but im sticking my ground. N i dnt do child support. No good comes to a man tht doesnt do for his kids. As far as his orher chils he had on her tht was with his other kids mom but wont hve to worry about me n him any more N thanks hun

Proud_mommyof2

@ kenzie0713 well im not one , as soon as i found out i was gone

[Deleted User]

Ok first child is not his. Now you have a child with him and you know that he has someone he is in relationship with. Obviously he cares about her that he's scared he is going to loose her that he doesn't tell her. Let's say he lied to you in the beginning of the relationship, now you know, what did you do about it? You don't fool around anymore? Don't you think its too late? Ur about to give birth. You are writting here for advice than u should be open to opinions. I'm not gonna sugar coat you so that you feel better about urself. This goes to any women out there too, why be with a men who is with someonelse. Yes some men lie about it and say they are not involved but that's not your case. Now in this mess , you and him created are little girls, they need a good role model,good home and a good father. You are right , I dunno anything about you , I'm not trying to rip you apart but I am just as hard on myself with the mistakes I made in my life. I take responsibilty so that I learn. Its just easy to blame others but gets you nowhere. Also I don't care noone agrees with me so don't attack others or me. Everyone is free to post their opinion when you clearly post here to seek opinions. I don't appraciate name calling either.

Proud_mommyof2

@ ashthurs RE READ MY POST SWEETHEART IM NOT WITH HIM WHEN I WAS I DAMN NEAR LIVE WITH HIM 6 MONTHS OUT OF THE BEING WITH HIM AND THERE WAS NEVER ANY SIGNS OF ANOTHER WOMEN I HAD ACCESS TO HIS PHONE EMAIL FB CAR ANYTHING . AND YES I POST ON HERE FOR SUPPORT NOT TO BE BASHED ABOUT MY CHILD DAD . I DIDNT AND DONT MAKE EXCUSES FOR HIM OR ANYBODY ELSE. HE MAY BE AFRAID OF LOSING HER AND THTS FINE I, NOT PRESSED OR BOTHERED OVER HIM ANY MORE . IM HAPPY WITH MY 2 LIL LOVELY BLESSINGS . AND IM STILL NOT GETTING YA POINT? U SAID WHT DID I DO ABOUT IT WHN I HE TOLD ME , I WAS HURT I COULD OF DONE THE BITTER WOMEN THING AND FOUND AWAY TO LET HER KNOW BUT Y DO I HAVE TO BE THE ONE TO PUT HER THRU THE HURT. ITS HIS BUSINESS TO LET HER KNOW B4 THE STREETS FINDS OUT . HIS FAMILY KNOW ABOUT MY CHILD AND HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH MY CHILD AS FAR AS PPL ON THE OUTSIDE I COULD LESS THEN A RATS ASS WHO KNOWS. AS LONG AS HE DOING RIGHT BY MY CHILD THEN THTS ALL THT COUNTS. MANY WOMEN WOULD OF STUCK AROUND TO SEE IF SHE COULD KEEP HIM BUT IM GOOD I DONT NEED HIM IN MY LIFE JUS MY LIL GIRL AND SHE HAS A GOOD ROLE MODEL SHE HAS A STRONG MOTHER AND PLENTY OF FAMILY TO LOOK UP TO

[Deleted User]

Don't tell me that you don't know now because in your post it says that
You asked him if he told her and he pretend not to hear you. And you joke around saying buy bulletproof vest. Btw I also can relate to the fact that you want a man around and a father for your kids , maybe that's why you let him still have a gf but don't you want a man who is fully committed to you and your kids? Kids grow up pretty quickly and pick up things very quickly as well too. Soon they are going to relaise daddy has another women and they are hidden. One thing that only you are hidden, another thing your child is hidden.

[Deleted User]

What you are saying now is entirely different from your original post. Honestly I am not talking bad about your childs father at all. What I am understanding now that your not even with him and in your original post it seemed like you were with him while he was with his gf. I never said go tell the gf because its not your place. He could however break up with her in his own terms. You could encourage him to do so since your having his child. However he just wants to keep his gf and you at the same time. As long as your comfortable living with this scenerio ,that's all it matters. Good luck to you and your little girls.

Proud_mommyof2

IM NOT HIDDEN BECAUSE IM NOT WITH HIM . ME AND HIM ARE NOT TRYING TO FOOL MY GIRLS, I WONT HIDE THE FACT THT HE HAS A GIRL . WE ARE NOT PRETENDING TO BE A HAPPY FAMILY . HIS GF TOLD HIM IF HE WAS TO HAVE ANOTHER CHILD SHE WAS GONNA SHOOT HIM SO YEA I TOLD HIM TO GET A VEST AND WHN I ASKED DID HE TELL HER HE DID PRETEND NOT TO HEAR ME. N CASE UR NOT GETTING IT @ ASHTHURS I DONT CARE WHO KNOWS AS LONG AS HE CONTS TO TAKE CARE OF HIS CHILD. WHT GIRL DOESNT WNT TO HAVE HER FAMILY BUT ITS 2011 AND THT HARDLY HAPPENS AND FOR ALL THOSE THT WERE LUCK TO HAVE A FAM THTS GOOD BUT IT DIDNT HAPPEN FOR ME THT WAY . I DONT CARE WHT U THINK OR HAVE TO SAY. LIKE U SAID U HAVE A RIGHT TO SPEAK UR MIND BUT I STILL FEEL AS THO U DNT UNDERSTAND WHT UR READING . IM NOT LIVING IN A FAIRY TALE WAITING FOR HIM TO BE WITH ME ALL I CARE ABOUT IS HAVING A DAD IN MY GIRLS LIFE AND HE DOES THT JUS FINE AS FAR AS HIS GF I FEEL FOR HER I DO BUT I HAVE MY OWN PROBLEMS TO WORRY ABOUT . IF THE TABLES WERE TURNED N I WAS THE THE GF OF 6 YRS WHN HE CHEATED THE 1 ST TIME I WOULD OF BE GONE SHE CHOOSE TO STAY AROUND AND HISTORY IS NOW REPEATING ITSELF. IM NOT GONNA BARE THE BAD NEWS , BUT IF SHE HAS ANY QUESTIONS I WILL TLK WITH HER IM NOT HIDING

Ittybitty

if you was the other woman, wouldnt you want to know? he clearly isnt going to tell her and is going to keep his child a secret. i see the way your seeing the whole thing and dont want to be the bad person and break her heart but at the same time she has a right to know and get away from him and not let him hurt her anymore.
i would respect a woman more that came and told me respectfully that my man was cheating on me and had another woman pregnant.
im not trying to put you down in no way or try to make you feel bad but this man is going to keep doing wrong as long as you let him and woman should stick together and help eachother out.. your not being the bitter woman that is jealous, you would be the woman looking out and letting her know so she can make the decision to get out of the situation before he gets her pregnant and she is stuck with him