new mommy and new army wife

newmommyFeb2012

I'm eight weeks pregnant and getting married Saturday. My fiance goes to basic in august for infantry. I'm due february tenth and definitly expecting him to be deployed before the baby is born. I don't have a problem with him leaving. I just am sad that he isn't going to be able to experience most of the first year including birth. Have any of you ladies gone through this?

MissPrego

I am! But my husband is USMC. Not that it matters but deployments are shorter than Army. I'm due August 30th and he deploys Aug.19th I asked my doctor if he could induce me but the earliest would be Aug.23 that's 4 days after he's gone. I'm in SoCal and have no family or friends here so most likely I'm going back to Texas. That's gonna be a long drive for me and my baby.

newmommyFeb2012

Oh wow I'm so sorry!!! I haven't moved anywhere yet considering he hasn't been to basic yet, so I have my family over here. Ya I get wanting to be induced early. There would be no possible way for me because he gets out in november and I'm guessing december or very beginning of january he will be deployed.

1sttimerarmywife

That's crummy maybe he will be assigned to a job that requires more training so you guys will get assigned to a base first, he spends 6-12 months training and then he deploys...I will cross my fingers for you!! Welcome to the military wife club

newmommyFeb2012

Thank you and thank you again . I really hope for something like that. Also his uncle works and lives at fort benning too and is planning on helping him start school, so maybe hell be able to start school before he goes, but I have no idea how that works.

saysay

I wouldn't get too worried about it. He hasn't gone to basic yet...so which Infantry unit he's going to is still very undecided. He won't even get orders to a division until AIT which is after basic. Divisions are on a rotation so I would say his chances of deploying before February are possible but not likely. I'm and Infantry wife myself..and have been for a long time. I definitely wouldn't worry about deployments anytime until you have deployment orders in hand. Its all rumors until then. Enjoy your pregnancy..and congratulations. Welcome to the Infantry!

katiep8610

I'm 31 weeks pregnant and were pretty sure that he deploys in Dec. It'll be my first time he deploys..I'm soo stressed.

newmommyFeb2012

Ok thank you . I'm sorry katie

Elizabeth88

I'm kinda in the same boat...me and hubby got married in march and then he enlisted in the army but doesn't leave for basic until Sept 19. I just found out a week ago that we are pregnant and are due February 23, so he will still be in AIT and won't be able to experience the birth.

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newmommyFeb2012

Sorry ladies I hadn't written back. I was trying to get the thing fixed, so I coulf log in and it finally worked. Thank you very much for the advice :-).

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wiseccourt

im a new mom and army wife also my husband missed the birth of our son but they got him home a week after i had him and had his r&r and is gone back to deployment, i thought it would be alot harder with out him here then it was when he was here belive me it will go fast cuz you will be consumeb by your baby weather he was their or not at least that is how it has been for me i keep myself busy enough with shawn i forget somtime his daddy is gone if you need some one to talk to im here i have nothing better to do lol when im not sleeping or playing with my lil one that is

newmommyFeb2012

Thanks ladies . I am definitly glad ill have a little one going through this, so I wouldn't be at home thinking about everything all the time. It will be nice to have something joyous instead of sad.

sands3

My husband is usmc and deployed now. He left less than a month after we found out I was pregnant and will not be home for the birth.

armywife0529

My husband is in the Army and is deployed right now. They are planning to let him take his R&R early so he can be here for the birth of our daughter, but as you'll learn with the army...there are no guarantees. Our doctor is great and wants him to be here as much as we do. He said we will plan a date to induce me to make sure my husband gets here in time. It's going to be hard not having him here, but I think it's even harder on him. He is so excited to be a dad, and all he talks about is the baby. I hate that he is going to miss so much. I try to include him in everything, but I think that just makes it harder for him because he realizes what he's missing out on.