vent: something i guess i should be used to by now

baby2dec14yayy

all the fighting because of these hormones and my tender body! are pushing my fiance and me apart. he walked out flipping me off today because he said he is fed up with me being a bitch! i honestly dont mean to be a bitch but i react to him irritating me so quickly that i dont think about what i am saying before i say it! im already a mommy to the most beautiful little boy and his dad walked out on me too (for other reasons, not me being a bitch) and now im afraid i will be a single mother of two today i really fucked up! hating life at this very moment

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lyndsay1983

Aww please dont feel down, it sucks being pregnant when your hormones are up the wall. Ive flipped on my hubby soooo many time, even threw a tin of paint at him for looking at me once, just try to explaine to your bd how you feel and that you dont mean to and cant help flippin out sometimes. Thats what I done with my hubby and it really helped, I still lose it over daft things at times but he gets that I dont mean it now. Hugs >:D<

MyLittleBlessing

We all do it..I've learned(for the most part) to try to stay calm, or tell him to leave me alone cause imma be a bitch. Ohhh trust me I've done damage! But try telling him that you don't mean it, and the hormones are getting the best of you. And apologize for being that way/saying those things. Maybe tell him that when he sees you getting worked up to just go somewhere else in the house, or for a walk so that you aren't rude? Maybe try doing the same? I know its hard, but it also takes a toll on our S.O. I hope he just got mad, and that you guys can work things out.! Best of luck!

lae3

Im realy hting preg for the last few days ugh.. No fighting just insecuritys I know will lead to a fight if I say anything about it.. Just wish I didnt feel like a preg umpalumpa.. I know a good workout would help me relieve some sress but feel depressed sso the neg energy just keeps building ugh.. Good luck and try to do something to destrss im wotkin out tonight

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caroline8_p

40 years WORTH of hormones in 9 months... that's how this happens.

BensMama

Sometimes I hear the words coming out of my mouth or my tone and in my mind I know Damn well I'm overreacting or being rude and I can't help it! I think you should sit down when you're in a good mood to talk and have a heart to heart. Just explain how you feel and what you're going through and apologize for anything that's already happened and in advance. Ask him to be patient with you and give you space when he can tell you're in a rough mood. With my first my hubby would get so offended until I finally explained that I don't mean it and it just comes out. This time he's been much more understanding since he's been there before. Good luck, you'll be ok.

baby2dec14yayy

we talked and thank god we are ok and things are actually better! thank all of you for you wise words of wisdom!

&&&& @lae3 youre not a preg umpalumpa!!!! but i do know what you mean by it! hope youre feeling better as well!

serenitysmommy

Omg! I feel the same way but I don't think my bd is ever coming back and I didn't mean half the things I said to him. I know exactly how you feel.

baby2dec14yayy

@serenitysmommy, im sorry to hear that have you talked to him to try and tell him that you didnt mean it? men have hormones just like we do so maybe he is just taking a breather. when did he leave?

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baby2dec14yayy

@mama0811 lol yeah, we talked a big talk and i told him that i love him but my body is just so sore that i dont want him groping me like he used to lol and i told him everything that irritates me that makes me be a bitch to him. i pretty much just told him that "behind every bitch there is a man that made her that way" and he just smiled and said ok you win lol and now we are perfect! back to planning the wedding and looking at houses and what not lol so maybe a good talk every now and then is what we need lol

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baby2dec14yayy

@mama0811 yeah thats what we decided, shit may get hard more than once but communication is key to keeping the relationship strong

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ashes

If only guys knew though

My boyfriend hates me right now but just doesn't understand with little things...

baby2dec14yayy

@ashes, im sorry i hope that he gets over it! men really dont understand, and to be honest as much as they say that they are glad that they arent the raging hormonal bitches i think they are actually mad because they are jealous that they dont get to feel what we feel lol and they dont have the excuse to be mean lol

dadof2n1togo

This is me and my wifes 3rd bub and shit I still screw it all up lol. Gee just last night I got told to piss off and sleep on the lounge.
My only advice I can give other guys out there is: if you ever think you know all the rules you don't and if you do then they will invent new ones.

I buy my wife flowers every week whether in trouble or not. The other day she asked what I had done this time. I responded nothing but I'm sure I will screw up something soon lol.

baby2dec14yayy

@dadof2n1togo!!! omg! youre so right tho! guys are never right in our eyes especially when we are pregnant lol il let my fiance read what you wrote so he can see that its not just me that feels that im always right lol

the funny thing is yesterday when we got into a little tiffy i told him to go home lol and this is his home!!!! and he left anyways! idk where he was planning on going but he still left! men are so weird sometimes!

but can i ask you a ????
do you ever feel left out when your wife is pregnant? like that you dont get to feel every little movement or anything like that?

dadof2n1togo

@baby2dec14yayy
Sorry to tell you this but yes. At times I even feel like I hate my wife because of it. We have been together for 13yrs ie since just before I turned 16. Each of our pregnancies have been hard for us and this one the worst. She has been feeling movements for about 6 weeks but none for me so at times I resent her. I know its not her fault and that even a guys body under goes changes at this time. We all get a change in the level of testosterone which allows us to bond etc and also reinforces the urge to protect our family.

dadof2n1togo

Granted also we found out she was preg at 3 weeks. That was awesome after 12 months of trying, however the 43+ week sex ban has been a big issue that starts most of our fights lol. She is high risk and with a boy she is at risk. Our first son was born at 30 weeks.

Jess510

I was like this too in my first trim. Second trim I got better.

baby2dec14yayy

@dadof2n1togo, see i always wondered if there was any resentment and thats what it feels like sometimes, we have a son, but this is his first! and i know that he want to put his hand on my tummy all the time and what not but i have hot flashes and the weather here is insane hot right now and i just dont want to be touched and he gets so butt hurt about it, but its not that i dont want HIM to touch me i just dont want to be touched period. and he turns around and says that it aint fair that i get to feel the baby and he doesnt and i wasnt sure if he was being serious or not i guess il have to loosen up a little and just let him cop a feel every now and then lol

baby2dec14yayy

@dadof2n1togo, yeah he is mad about that too, that he doesnt get any because i am high risk too and just scared because everytime we try to be intimate i get really really bad cramps afterwards! so i told him no more!!!!!! and i will keep you three in my prayers for a safe and long(er) pregnancy!

dadof2n1togo

It is hard on all he may also feel like people only worry about you and bubs. I know I have felt this way before. Feel free to ask me anytime as I said this is my 3rd and I'm still shitty lol

baby2dec14yayy

@Jess510 i am in my second trimester so im hoping that it will help

baby2dec14yayy

@dadof2n1togo, youre not shitty, you just got the shit end of the stick! lol and thank you for helping me try to understand where his lil punk ass is coming from maybe it will help me be a little nicer to him!!!

Jess510

I think it was partly because I was always exhausted.

baby2dec14yayy

@jess510,yeah, i know that feeling i have a 10 month old that is suppppper needy he is such a mamas boy and i know what you mean girl! but youre feeling better now?