getting annoyed with people

excitednewmommy

I have nothing against people but why do people assume it is too young to have a child at 18 or 19 but the show 16 and pregnant is appropriatefo young girls to watch. Its letting people know its ok to get pregnant now a days its normal. Or when people don't read the whole thread to know what some one is saying so they don't have to keep repeating themselves.

Hot2Cold87

16 and pregnant I love that show lol sorry!

vayanna

I agree I was 19 when I had my first one I'm 22 now getting ready to have my second one

Sammylouiseday

I'm 18 and all people do is look down their noses at me, there's a girl from where I'm from and she's 13 and pregnant, in my view I see 18 been an okay age to get pregnant, but in the uk people seem to think you have to be married and have a house and stuff before you can have a baby

MyLittleBlessing

Its just their opinions. Everyone has one..just try not to take it to heart. Yes, its annoying sometimes. And yes, some people get rude when talking about it. But honestly, if you think you're ready at 18 19 years old to have a kid..then no one elses opinions should matter. I understand how frustrating it is, trust me, but the negativity is just some peoples way of trying to show that they are concerned. and although we don't neccessarily need their opinions, people will almost. ALWAYS give them.

laura536

I thought 16 and pregnant was supposed to be a warning...like "don't get pregnant because it sucks." That's why the last few minutes of the show is always the girl listing all the things she's lost or missing out on by getting pregnant too young.

As for the thread thing, I read it as you asking how to talk to your boyfriend about starting ttc, not that you wanted your feelings validated. So it was miscommunication. But most people read the first post and reply and move on.

excitednewmommy

@Hot2Cold87 I do too but it makes girs think its ok to have a baby young I know this girl who has 3 and she just turned 18 she started in 8th grade.@vayanna I I just want to be able to give my child a better life than me and not be to old and miss my chance to have one.

excitednewmommy

@laura536 but u answered my question and u didn't even know it. But it would be wise to read ahead because u never know if someone already asked what you did or said what u were thinking. I'm on a phine its hard to have to keep on texting it on a touch phone. This first one I was annoyed with the second was an add on.

kcike812

Just my opinion....I think it is too young. I'm not saying that anyone that age wouldn't be a great mother but I just think you should experience college, friends, and enjoy yourself before being a mom. If you feel that you've accomplished these things and are mentally, financially, and emotionally ready then more power to you.:) Everyone is different though. I know at 19 I wasn't financially stable to raise a child. I'm sure I could have gotten by but I know I would have wanted the best for my child. Plus, I would want to make sure that the person I'm with is as ready as I am for parenthood. Children make you grow up fast and most guys that age aren't ready for that.

romeike89

16 and pregnant is a great show. It shows how hard it is on those girls. Just sayin, i think kids r gonna do it reguardless, so they might as well see how rough it is.

Jess510

As long as YOU can support your child if your 28 I don't care.
@laura536 I agree I thought it was to show their struggles.

Jess510

Opppsss I meant 18

vayanna

I felt the same way when I had my daughter I was 19 no diploma nothing I pushed my self to do it I thought it was going to be hard finally I got up and just went within a matter of a month I got my fed and am now going to school for human service assistant....... It is possible to have a life and give one to your a better one at that I did it rasing a 2 year old little girl and my bd 3 girls 11,10,&9 plus being pregnant with this girl

excitednewmommy

@sammylouiseday exactly why look down on people who are legally of age who are trying to make the best decision for them and the child that they are bearing.@Oregonmama exactly they tured it into a way to have the generation I'm in have all these babies and have no way to take care of them. I get so angry when I see a 13 year old pregnant I'm thinkin u probly just got ur period why would you be thinking about sex I wasnt

excitednewmommy

@Jess510 true as long as you can provide a safe life for the child it should be no age to when you can have kids I think one or two requirements should be a psych evaluation and a diploma or ged.

valentinasmommy

If you can get everything on your own meaning without a parent signature or a parent permission then I don't see what's the problem. I'm 19 and can get everything on my own. Don't need a parents help.

laura536

I'm glad I answered your question! I usually read the whole thread, but I can just tell a lot of people don't, lol.

I don't think your age matters as much as your ability to care for a child. Being a parent now, I see things differently than I think I would have before. I always feel bad for the grandparents on 16 and Pregnant, because those girls always just expect their parents will let them live there and pay their bills and babysit for free, when sometimes, the kids aren't even able to get jobs or dirive themselves to the dr. I mean, accidents happen, but I don't think you should be planning a family if you can't support yourself or pay your own bills.

excitednewmommy

@excitedforbaby that's what I think but a parent or someones parent will always have a funky opinion of young females getting pregnant because they feel like they gonna have to take care of it. Truth is I will take care of my responsibilities and I won't push them on noone.

Jess510

I don't mind public assistance for people who have fell on hard times. The thing I hate is seeing people who get pregnant and know they'll just get welfair or continue to have kids they know they will never be able to afford.

Mybabe

I hope your not referring to me because I never said anything about your age I just simply stated that your bf might have some things he still wants accomplished before having kids.... if you got offended by that than hey not my intention you asked for suggestions I gave mine...

excitednewmommy

@laura536 that's how I feel once I finish school in 6 months ill be working in a hospital and will save up all I can so when that day comes I don't have to put my hand out to my mom ill have. My bofriends family smokes I don't want that around my child. Me and him are looking for an appartment because living with your parents and tryna live without fighting with them is super hard as anyone can say

excitednewmommy

@Mybabe it wasn't u it was the fact I kept having to state I don't want children now. It wasn't nothing you said I was speaking in general people say it all the time

pregoagainYAY

Do what's right for you, if its something you want and have thought about then no one can tell you what age is a good age...that's your decision.....I am confused though and I'm not trying to be porky your not pregnant now? But your sn is excitednewmommy.....I'm sorry I don't. Know if I missed something which is definitely possible lol.....good luck to you and your bf I wish you all the best!