Opinions PLEASE need to vent (keep it peaceful) TMI

momof5

Yesterday hubby and I was sexting and sending pics back and forth. So I figured why not have sex. He shuts me down right away and says let's get drunk first. (Seriously) I know I don't look all that good since I just had a baby almost 3 months ago but damn. That hurt. So fine whatever. I drink 2 glasses of wine and call it good cause I'm the one that takes care of the kids. Not him. Anyways. We were sitting on the couch and things going good. We both finish and I get into the shower. I get out and go to bed and hubby is in bed naked. Mmmm. So we start in messin around again and do a little foreplay and out of no where hubby says we should have a threesome............ what the hell............ so I get all pissed off and out of bed and lay on the couch. He begs for me to come back to bed. Hell no. So I say I'm sorry I'm not enough for you. And he gets all pissed off and says that he thought it would be fun. Yeah bullshit. What's he trying to do???????? Start a divorce. I still haven't spoke to him. I am upset about this whole thing.

Mrs4c

He just seems so inconsiderate. o-+

Mrs4c

Whoa!! Wrong Smiley!! Sorry!

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momof5

Yeah that's what I thought and when I say something about it he always says well you look okay the way you are. But your not as small as when I ment you. Well hell no. I had 2 babies that are 13 months apart. Its gna take time for me to lose the weight. And to say that we need another woman to come into our bed. Wth is wrong with him. I know a couple of ppl that have done it and now they are divorced. I don't want that to happen. What happened to marriage being a sacried(sp?) Thing? I don't know if I wanna cry or smack the shit outta him.

mommyof3tobe

Wow, you guys haven't ever talked about thia n the past??!!? What would make him think to ask u that unless he thought u may atleast consider it?

momof5

@mrsforesee and @mshahir. Thank you for agreeing. I'm hurt over it and all he can say was it was a joke and stop being a bitch.

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momof5

@mommyof3tobe. Nope we have never discussed it in the past. He is really quite and shy and doesn't normally talk like that. He just recently started sending me sexy pics about 6 months ago and we have been together for 2 and a half years.

wallieheadbaby3

I would be crying while I smacked the shit out of him! I'm sorry hun. What an ass thing to say.

biffymnstr

I would have asked him which guy he had in mind or if you get to pick him out! His reaction would have been priceless

mommyo3soon2b4

I would be ticked! And to be mean I would say ok but only with another guy! That should shut him up pretty quickly!

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momof5

@mshahir. Anytime I get mad about something he says its a joke. he has really changed in the last couple of months and he likes to bring up my past and say things like you were a slut back then before I ment you or so and so said you fucked like a porn star (how the hell would they know. I never slept with that person). It upsets me and when I try and leave he will apologize like crazy and stand in my way so I can't leave. I don't want to involve the cops or anyone cause we live in a small community and word gets around fast. He works for the ambulance here so it would hurt him job wise. He has never hit me but is very verbal about things lately. I don't know if he is unhappy or if there is someone else or what the deal is but I'm not liking it.

mrs_shu

Tell him sorry I don't share or play well with others...and if he pushes explain his penis belongs to YOU and if you didn't want someone to play with your toy as a child, you broke it. Let him chew on THAT.

momof5

@mommyo3soon2b4 and @biffymnstr. That's a good one. I will have to say that next time. If there is a next time.

momof5

@wallieheadbaby3 yeah I was so upset that I went to the couch and cried.

@mrs_shu. He knows I'm a very jealous person. I don't even like him watching porn cause I see that as cheating. He is getting off by watching another woman. I should be the one he thinks about not another woman.

mommyof3tobe

@biffmstr YEAH I SECOND THAT ONE!!! @momof5 man I'm really sorry you gotta deal with that smh. Girl I don't even have a man no more I had to rid of him!! He thought it was cool to run over me. So now its just me and my 2 plus 3rd in sept. Try n straighten him out!!! Hope all goes well!

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momof5

@mommyof3tobe. He has never said anything like that before. Its irritating. I've told him time and time again that I raised my oldest 3 boys on my own when my exhusband and I divorced I'm sure I can raise our 2 on my own. I can raise 5 boys. Won't be easy and it will hurt the bank account but I can do it.

mommyo3soon2b4

Im so sorry that you have been dealing with all of this duri.g what should be a happy time. I really think there should be an app for men on things they want to say...tbey would go pu.ch it into phone or computer and it would rephrase it into an acceptable comment or tell them it is totally the wrong thing to say. The world would be a much better place if men thought before they talked;=)

Jess510

I'd be hurt.... I agree threesomes are a very bad idea.

momof5

@mshahir. Normally he is a very quite person. It takes a lot to upset him and he normally just blows things off to the side. He really didn't start acting this way until I got pregnant with our 2nd son. I make comments all the time on how he treats his sister and his niece way better than he treats me and his kids. He will ask his sister to go do things and just leave me sitting at home with OUR kids. We have tried different things in our sexual relationship. And I have done everything that he has wanted to try EXCEPT that and I refuse. I've told him time and time again that I don't want my kids to grow up to be an asshole like him so either he figures out something with the attitude or I am leaving. I left 1 husband and I will do it again.

momof5

@jess510. I am very hurt about it all. And I understand that I'm not a small girl anymore but I'm not that big either. I was a size 5 when we got together and went up to a size 11 when I was pregnant with both of our boys and now I am a size 7 so I am working on getting back down to my original size but the more me makes me feel like shit and saying things like that makes me depressed and makes me wanna just eat everything in my path.

jessica_clayton

Wow. You know my fiance said the same thing after we'd been together about a year...so I asked if I wasn't good enough and he also said he just thought it'd be fun and adventurous. So I responded with "Okay, but if the other guy gets you up the ass, I'm out." Sorry for the language but his reaction was hilarious. Needless to say he has never brought it up since :P

But it all seriousness, I know exactly how you feel. I was incredibly hurt by him suggesting he needed another woman with us to have fun. I felt unattractive as hell, and like he was completely bored with me

But you are one HOT momma so just keep telling yourself that doll
Don't let his stupid ass comments get you down.

>:D<

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mandac10

Men suck! Id b pissed too! My Hubby says he had one in the past n wasn't that great n he wouldnt want me to do that but if he would try id leave him

momof5

@jessica_clayton. Girl that is some funny shit. My husband would get all pissy if I said to him but no different than him saying it to me. I will have to say it. Give him a taste of his own medicine and see how he likes it. I should be more than plenty for him and I don't feel like it when he makes comments like that. I don't think he is cheating at all or that he would. We are together 22 hours out of the day and the other 2 hours he has to be at work checking his rig and all that shit. Or if he gets called out. I have went as far as checking his fb and his texts and calls and even the cell bill when it comes in. I feel real shitty doing that but when he says things like that i t makes me wonder.

momof5

@mshahir I will speak to him when things settle down and I am cooled down from it. Know its not me. I mean damn I look good for 5 kids. Lol.

@mandac10. I don't understand how they could be fun at all. I'm sorry but I want all the attention on ME and HIM. And not to mention what's he gna do wear a condom and take it off when he switches back to me. HELL NO. I'm not about to get an STD from some bitch. And I'm not about to lick some chicks vajayjay. Ewww. I don't think so. Lol.

mgrose

There's a few clues in there that he might be cheating hun, I cheated once so I know how the game is played!! I was lucky enough that hubby forgave me and asked me to come back....and even tho he doesn't ask I always do everything I can to make sure he knows I'm not doin it ever again! I give him proof of where I'm @ or been ect..........so he feels secure! Good luck n if u wanna chat lmk....

jessica_clayton

Oh girl, been there done that. I constantly check my fiance's shit. I have his passwords to everything and 95% of the time I have his phone. He has given me some scares, let me tell you. I've had to go as far as physically throwing one of his female friends out of our house, down the stair and into the yard. I had a good reason, trust me cause I don't anger easily.

And you ARE plenty for him girl, he should be glad he's got some waiting on him at home all the time

You should totally use the other man line...casually say you've been thinking about the 3some...but your picking the other guy and they better not try to get each other in the ass. Bet he turns 10 shades of red and never speaks of it again :P lmao.