IM FRUSTRATED!!

jcmommy

Ok, so anyone who has a MIL probably understands. I had lived with them for almost 6yrs of pure misery just so my husband can take care of them. But once we found out we were having our 2nd child, we figured it be best if we have our own space. We haven't even been in our house for a month yet and they come over EVERY DAY. Wtf?!! Why am I paying mortgage if its going to be the same thing?!! His mom and I never gotten along and she was happy that I left. Now she just wants to come over and hang on the couch. She doesn't even call anymore and shows up unexpected. I'm due in 3days with no signs of labor coming so I'm already frustrated about that and now her. My husband even told her before hand to not come over un announced and she had a total bitch fit about it, saying she's NEVER coming over and made a big deal about it to all her other kids about how horrible I am. Then why do I see her everyday . Especially at 8am when everyone is still in bed!! Ugh.. I'm so mad. yes, she's here right now, sitting on my couch, watching tv.

Janet_2011

You should move really far away from her , im so glad my MIL is in another country . but if she was in my same state ill move really far away from her

jalem

She may be lonely... But i understand the only difference is its MY mom who is over every day

jcmommy

@Janet_2011 I wanted to! He wanted to stay by his parents to help. Out of 6 kids, he does it all for them. They rely on him way too much. When her other kids lived here and had a house close, she would do the same thing, that's why I told my husband to tell her she can not come over un announced. She doesn't care! It's every day now and we get calls early in the morning for no reasons. I do not understand this. I just need to vent because I can't tell my husband because those are his parents and he loves them but he know we do not get along. Sigh. There's going to be no end to this.

@jalem. I lived with her for 6yrs. I'm usually at work or wherever so we' didn't hang around much, or even talk to each other. She has other kids and grand kids that she does not do this to. My husbands not even home.

blueberrysmom

I would speak very candidly with her and tell her that you guys need more private family time. Also, that you like to plan your days so could she please call before she stops by. Otherwise, don't open the door and she had better not have a key.

ceegsmommy75

What's up with the lack of boundaries? Sorry for your situation, i would have already flipped out...

Janet_2011

@jcmommy then sit down with her and tell her that you need a break from her visits, tell her in a nice sweet way so she doesnt get offended, but she seriously is over doing it, and your husband needs to understand that once he gets married his wife and kids are suppose to go first..

jcmommy

@blueberrysmom. She DID have a key. I had to try to convince my husband that we had to change it for safety issues but secretly because I did not want her to have a copy.

@Janet_2011 she gets offended very easily. Shes sensitive and plays the victim. None of her in laws are never good enough for her kids. Damn lady, cut the cord already.

When we were living with them, it was definitely taking a toll on our marriage. She had already caused a divorce in one of her kids marriage and problems in all the rest. There's no winning with her. Just to vent, there's no solution to this problem. -_-"

shanIam

Ugh, that totally sucks. I hate it when grown women are creepily attached to their adult sons. I'm having a boy, I hope that's not me someday...sitting on my daughter-in-law's couch, eating frosting from a can, while watching my "stories." SMH. You are a way more patient person than I... [..]

Janet_2011

@jcmommy then the only choice you have is move away from her, even if your husband doesnt like it, he can send her money through western union or any other place that is close to his mom, but you seriously need to think about your self for once, you have put up with it longer than you should have to...

VictoriaB

@shaniam
Right there with ya. Luckily, I have a really cool mother in law (I even lucked out with a normal ex wife!) and I'm hoping that I can be a nice mil to my son's future wife.

[Deleted User]

I agree with @janet_2011 your husband has the right intensions but once you get married, he should be thinking about your comfort first especially second child on the way. I would try to talk to my husband and explain how I need my own family time and its causing me stress. He is probably really comfortable around his parents so he doesn't get you. Call your parents over and show him maybe.