seriously mom? serioudly?
Soo....two months ago, my best friend asked me if she thought my mom would get angry if she asked to help throw the baby shower, or if it would be ok if my friend just did it all together. (given my mom's history, its entirely logical my mom would get angry and offended and cause quite a lot of drama.) Anyway, I called my mom to ask, and she said to me, no joke...I don't think you should have a baby shower. You were kinda rude to people after your wedding shower...you took forever to send out thank yous, and some people never got wedding thank yous. (I had a miscarriage four months after my wedding. I'm sorry if in the process of that, my brain shut down and some people got forgotten in that chaos...)
Anyway, my friend decided to give my mom a few months to "re-think." She called my Mom yesterday to ask about it. Her excuse this time? "Well, her grandpa was very superstitious about baby showers, so we aren't sure we want to have one." WTF? Just....gggaaaaaaaa. don't even get me started about trying to name my son. Is everyone this stupid?
It would appear so. I then had to call my mil to talk to her about a baby shower for me. Awkward, but had to be done, invites need to be sent out next month for a shower in september, right? We are due mid November, but this baby has a fairly good possibility of being born a few weeks early. (He's already 1.2 pounds and 13 inches....at 22 weeks.) Anyway...mil says to me...too, if we had one, it would be early November anyway, right? Its a bit early to be thinking about this stuff now, isn't it? Besides, Tim doesn't have much family here, won't your aunt just have a big shower for you that we can invite people to? Uhh...let me get this straight. You were expecting my family to pay for a party, and invite your family and friends? Again, I say, WTF?
Sorry so long...talk me down from the ledge ladies if I'm being stupid...my hormones are crazy, but if I'm not being crazy, please let me know.,
Anyway, my friend decided to give my mom a few months to "re-think." She called my Mom yesterday to ask about it. Her excuse this time? "Well, her grandpa was very superstitious about baby showers, so we aren't sure we want to have one." WTF? Just....gggaaaaaaaa. don't even get me started about trying to name my son. Is everyone this stupid?
It would appear so. I then had to call my mil to talk to her about a baby shower for me. Awkward, but had to be done, invites need to be sent out next month for a shower in september, right? We are due mid November, but this baby has a fairly good possibility of being born a few weeks early. (He's already 1.2 pounds and 13 inches....at 22 weeks.) Anyway...mil says to me...too, if we had one, it would be early November anyway, right? Its a bit early to be thinking about this stuff now, isn't it? Besides, Tim doesn't have much family here, won't your aunt just have a big shower for you that we can invite people to? Uhh...let me get this straight. You were expecting my family to pay for a party, and invite your family and friends? Again, I say, WTF?
Sorry so long...talk me down from the ledge ladies if I'm being stupid...my hormones are crazy, but if I'm not being crazy, please let me know.,
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as far as your in laws, the way it's done around where i am is that the shower is thrown and you invite everyone you want- as in the in laws side, good family friends, etc. kind of a miniature wedding party.
I think your friend should still throw you the shower no matter what, do what makes you happy, this is your time to celebrate your baby and if shes not going to support you then its her choice..good luck!!
sadly her and my dad are the ONLY people who can watch the kids when i go into labor. i have a friend but she works 2 jobs and i can't rely on her to watch them since she works when they will be out of school (my due date is their first day of school). so you know what my mom did????????? she scheduled a vacation trip to houston the week of my due date. im so freakin pissed. we live in freakin ohio! it's a 24 hr drive from here to there and she is telling me if i want a sitter for the kids then i better have the baby early. wtf?!??!?!!?
I just feel like my family, on both sides, aren't being very supportive of my husband and I, and want us to do things the way they did them. Let me tell you...husbands family are UBER conservative, don't celebrate Halloween, Santa is evil, kind of people. My mom? She's a liberal, superstitious, tai chi teacher who still wants us to put a plate of cookies out for Santa, even though my brother and I are 27 and 28, respectively. My husband and i are Christians, but we are somewhere in between our two families with what we believe, and we get lectured from both sides, all the time. This baby shower thing is just another thing in a long line of frustrating nonsense that makes me mad to have to deal with. And no, It's not ALL hormones.