vent!!!

cfa

Ok so I'm going to make this short because I could go on for hours. So my husband leaves every month for three nights and four days for work and every time he is gone I always ends up catching him going stupid shit like looking at porn,talking to our girls,getting drunk and not picking up his phone and so on. So now this time before he leaves to his trip again he tells me he is picking up a friend from the airport to take with him on his trip. So I'm pissed already and like always he doing his stupid shit and not picking up his phone getting drunk so I have just had enough I'm going to try and scare him. So Thursday I'm getting a hotel room and packing me and my kids up and leaving before he gets home. I hate the thought of having to do this but if he doesn't get his act together before our baby comes I'm I want out. Any thoughts?

SurpriseBaby

Have you talked to him about it? I can understand that you're upset about it...scaring him might be the way to do it, but if he doesn't come around, are you in the position to leave him?

cfa

@surpriseBaby yes we have talked about it so many times. I'm done with talking because he just tells me what I want to hear to shut me up then is right back doing his stupid crap. I don't want to have to move back in with my dad with two kids and one one the way but I don't want him to drag me down anymore. I'm in a bad spot. But I just hope him getting home and us not being here will shake him up a little and want to change his ways so I don't have to leave for good.

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Do you think by any chance friend he is picking up is a women?

SurpriseBaby

@cfa I'm sorry you have to go through this. I hope that it will be the motivation that he needs to straighten up...if not, well you and your babies are better off without him. It would be hard moving back with your dad, but at least he wouldn't be able to make you feel like crap in your own home. Let me know how it goes.

cfa

@ashthurs I don't know I hope not. @suprisemom Thanks for the support.

jellybeaning11

I think your doing the right thing and i really hope it does shake him up! My ex is and was like that. Would say what i wanted to hear to shut me up and he just got worse. I had to leave him a nd he still not even trying to change. You would think he didn't have a family the way he's carrying on. It really hurts but its for the best. Goodluck to you

rckprincess2

I'm wishing you the best with this. I really do hope it wakes him up. he is an adult AND a father, he needs to start acting like both instead of a high school kid (maturity wise that's what it sounds like).

dec10

Good luck. I would do the same thing. Iud have the rights to know wat he is doin

cfa

Thanks for the support everyone this has been a hard road for me but I have a beautiful baby boy to look forward to!! So I know I will be ok.

jalem

Good luck and I hope that your husband realizes what he is about to lose...