ugh my mil just pisses me off.

feb2012mommy

So my mil really pisses me off. She has a very woh is me attitude. She complains about how much she hates her husband verbally abuses her and he will just up and leave for weeks cause he gets mad and when hes gone shes like im so done with him blah blah blah but as soon as he comes back oh i love him so much.... It gets so old and then she complains to daniel about it and he doesnt care i dont know if its cause she makes me mad so he just acts like it doesnt bother him and that she really does piss him off or if he just does it for me. well at our wedding she took 3 of our center pieces tryed to cut his grooms cake and told me that if she was in a room with us we wouuld all have fun and then when he took my garder off she goes "he will have to work the other one off tonight" infront of all my friends!!!! and now me and Daniel are trying to get our first car(neither of us have credit wat so ever) so we tryed to ask his dad to be a cosigner he cant my mom cant and so we asked her... I not wanting to he did anyway but then she text him try kia well thats where we are looking but they want you to bring home 350 a week and he only makes 300 well im lookking fo a job but i havent found one yet but im looking and he knows that well his mom just said WELL LAUREN NEEDS TO GET A JOB.... I dont see how that is any of her damn business what if daniel decided he wanted to be the only one to work and i stay at home with roo(thats not the case im just saying) ugh she really pisses me off she will NOT be around our baby and she will not be at my house(she asked if she could stay the night) hahahahaha no way in hell that is happening and she will npt be around my baby even if im around!!!!!! I just needed to vent cause I cant stand this woman. I love his Dad and step mom they are great people and very helpfull but his mom on the other hand is just crazyyyy(no really she is)............

feb2012mommy

i just cant take it she has been like this since we got together but its gotten worse.... shes so needy and winny... and she thinks my family is trying to take over daniel as his family when he basically raised him self... and now shes callinh him at 1030 2hen he was at work at 5 this morning does anybody else see an issue here or am i just prego and over reacating?????????

second_time_mommy7

I have been throughsimilar things with my mil.(you can probably still see my post.) She likes to think she is the only woman in my husbands life and has does and said a lot of mean things to me. And always in our business telling us how to live and telling everyone I'm an ungrateful gold digger lol My husband finally stood up to her and told her that if she was going to continue to be mean to me then she would no longer be a part of our lives.... well she never changed and we no longer speak to her.

feb2012mommy

he wont stand up to her cause of her mental problems... but its not just her its his aunt too she messeged me 5 times in 2 hours on facebook at like 230 in the morning.. Im pregnant and trying to get my sleep she wants to know why only certian people were invited to the wedding and why we wont go out to dinner with them. ugh they make me so mad but i love him so much so i deal with it till it gets to be crazy like it had become and with pregnancy hormones it just pushes me over the edge... @second_time_mommy7

second_time_mommy7

What kind of mental problems? How often do you see you hubby, I think we may be sharing husbands lol she also uses mental problems to control everyone around she is emotionally abusive to everyone but everyone plays into it to keep her from a "breakdown" one of the pregly women gave me some really good advice in some of my vents about my mil and that's when I told my husband I would no longer allow it and once he seen that it was really hurting me he put his moms controlling ways aside and told her that he has a new family and that she will no longer have an effect on our family and she needs to treat me with respect. She is probably using her "mental state" to get away with abusing people. I don't know if you or hubby are religious but the thing that changed his mind about standing up to her is the scripture, that a man leaves his parents to cleave to his wife. When he finally stood up to her she (not to my surprise) wasnt as mentally unstable as everyone thought.

feb2012mommy

depression but i thinkl she is bipolar he hasnt scene her in about a month but she calls/text about everyday. She just wants to complain and she doesnt get that he doesnt want to talk. I cant take it im about to just go off on her band be like look chill we have told you want you need to do your not watching my child nor are you staying at our house. and hubby is getting on my nerves cause he wont let me take care of it like i want too. she stops me in walmart just to talk and tell me she has lost weight. I DONT CARE!!!!! ugh i just needed to vent and i felt like nobody was listening to me or didnt care cause im kinda new on here and i normaLLY dont get a reply to my posts so thank you. @second_time_mommy7

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second_time_mommy7

OMG I swear she is my mil made over. Has hubby seen you hurt/ crying over it, or just pist? I think when my hubby seen me have like a nervous breakdown was when it hit him that she was going to turn me crazy if he let it continue. Let him know that you can't always be strong. play the abused puppy (mental abuse so its true) your pregnant girl I know you can cry on command:) make him feel bad because he should its not right of him to allow it and its not right of her to treat you that way. Does she see a doctor for her "mental problems"?

PEsMommY

I have had my fair share of mil problems. She actually found me on this forum and then tried to cause drama saying I "defamed" her (if u read my comments/posts u can see I never did) but she just causes problems. She didnt even come to our wedding back in January (hubby cut her out of our life). My only advice to u is dont try to fix it urself- let hubby handle it. I exhausted myself always trying to fix things with my mil, and she would use things or turn on me to try to get hubby against me. Sorry your going thru this, but ur def not alone. Most mil like being center of attention and thrive off their baby boy

feb2012mommy

@angieahrens the place we are going to is trying to help us get the car we are looking at but hubby was justtrying to get a cosigner yeah she didnt want daniel to move out but if he hadnt we would have broken up cause she would come in his room just to talk to him when we were on the phone and she would complain about EVERYTHING and i couldnt handle it so he decided to move out....
@second_time_mommy7 yeah he has scene me cry over it and he gets upset at her but she does the same ol sh*t and he just puts up with it cause its his mom. He didnt want her at our wedding but she was there cause she is his mom thats his words not mine. I know she saw a dr one maybe two times about it and was put on something I think. she really is going to make me go crazy if she doesnt stop the stuff shes doing. I mean why is it any of her business if im working or not. Im trying.

second_time_mommy7

@PEsmommy I can't believe she found you on here. Lol i completely agree I also tried too hard to fix things with her and finally told hubby I was done and then he stepped in and thank god life is much better now! It's really sad to see because my hubby is such a family man but she has made her own choices and he warned her twice before actually cutting her out.

feb2012mommy

@PEsmommy yeah I need him to take care of it cause its stressing me out big time. her comments and constent contact makes me mad at hubby cause he wont put his foot down and say anything. she comments on pictures of fb cause i dont have her as a friend I refuse to have her or her crazy sister.

this is what his aunt sent me on face book.

can I please have u accept my friend request since you are now in the family. I am not sure what u have been told but that day that we met u and u met robert was good. I thought that we could all get along with each other. Not sure what daniels told u but its not true.congratulations on the baby and if u ever need us for anything then let us know. Howard was a deputy and he is back with them again because he has connections and so if dcf ever trys to take the baby after its born we will be there and help. we know since they have to have court order and reasons...
July 3Debra Jean Kelleykim and robert were both taken illegal pull please come to us for the truth first...

and there was more i just cant find them right now.

PEsMommY

@second_time_mommy7 lol yes she did I used to be seifer12211 but changed it... And me and you have a lot in common (i went and read some of your posts). Very interesting lol. But yes, life is much easier without mil that cause problems. As for ur hubby, I understand, mine decided on his own but he was never a family man til he hung out with mine.... But its sad for our husbands & children, I even feel bad for my mil- cuz she cant even see her wrongs, just that she has to be right and "look good".

PEsMommY

@feb2012mommy ya u dont need to be stressed. My dd was born june 14, my mil still hasnt met her, but she posted pics on fb like she was tgere, and her friends comment and stuff bout my daughter, and blames me for her son cutting her off...actually my sil's friend was the one who told me, (im blocked on fb lol) and then the friend told me how crazy she thought my mil was.... So fb and inlaws def equal drama. Dont get pressured t sho do anything hun, stick to ur guns and let hubby know ur feelings. Its not right. I know 2 become 1 in marriage, but your family is still yours, you put spouse firsr

feb2012mommy

thats what i try to do and then she says stuff liek that and I read it and ught!!!!!!! I wish my husband would cut her off. She will not know when I go in to labor and she will not have anything to do with our child If hell has to freeze over.

feb2012mommy

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