Was I wrong??? (Kinda long)

Proud_Mommy_And_Wife

Ok so my youngest son will be 3 on 8-8 & my hubby,our kids & myself are going on vacation as part of his birthday present. So we decided to have him a small party @ the park the day before we leave. Well my hubby is not the father of my son & my sons dad & I get along pretty good (which I'm thankful for bc I deal with enough drama) so I invited him to the party bc he doesn't throw my son one. Needless to say my hubby got mad & has acted like a child & won't drop it. He says I'm wrong bc I didn't ask him first. (maybe so) but at the same time I completely raise his daughter from a previous relationship & I talk to his babymama bc he & her do not get along & can't speak without fighting. He knows nothing that goes on with her unless he asks me. (which is hardly ever) He says I can make the decisions on parties & who can come just fill him in so I did & now he's acting like this. So I need opinions... Am I wrong??? Sorry so long but I had to get it out..

SalasMommy

I mean if u get along with his bm. I don't see it wrong. He should know how to act grown. Would you invite his bm to his daughters bday

Proud_Mommy_And_Wife

@STEVENJSALAS- That's my point & yes I would & I have but she never comes bc she's has her own parties for their daughter but that's about all she does. And my bd & I have been separated since my son was 6 months & I've invited him too all 3 parties now & this is the 1st time hubby has had a problem with it so I'm like wtf...

bee_2545

No your not even though your hubby may not like your decision he should respect it especially since its your little boys special day n that's his dad and he Haa every right to interact with him
Your hubby should put away his selfishness not only did u do what he asked but you are trying to be fair an make everyone happy and include everyone

Proud_Mommy_And_Wife

@bee_2545- I agree & that's what I told him. It's not everyday that you get along with your bd or bm if y'all aren't together. Plus my bd only gets my son & his brother every other weekend so I figure since we get along why not invite him so he & my boys can have just a tiny bit more interaction. I grew up without my dad & I don't want that for my kids. They enjoy daddy time lol.

bee_2545

That's good though there should be no reason y hubby can't be more understanding. Also since u get along wit his bm I'm sure u would do the same or b just as understanding
Its important to hve fathers involved that makes a huge impact on children's lives especially boys
Dnt feel bad ur doin the right thing!!

VictoriaB

I think its great that you and your son's father get along. Your husband should be happy too! I don't think its wrong of you to invite him to your son's birthday party especially if you've done it before and he's not going to make a scene. Maybe your husband is a little jealous of your friendship (or good relationship?) with your ex.

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lae3

I dont think ur wrong but mabey a heads up to the hubby before invite the ex.. Wouldve helped his ego

Proud_Mommy_And_Wife

@bee_2545- my point exactly. I thought my hubby & I were on the same page bc he to grew up without his dad so I figured he'd understand how important it is to me & how much of an impact it is for my boys dad to be in there life. Atleast I didn't wait to tell him the day of the party ya know. And then for him to watch his 4 yr old daughter ask why her biological mother doesn't wanna have much to do with her I thought he'd agree. but I guess I was wrong. mother doesn't wanna have much to do with her I thought he'd agree. but I guess I was wrong.

@VictoriaB- idk he's never acted like this before & he knows I invite him to both my boys parties every year... its so confusing.. I guess the answer would be plain & simple: MEN lol...