i need opinions!

baby2dec14yayy

so i would like to do my baby shower in september just because i went on bed rest with my son @ 26 weeks that im afraid that it will happen with this one so i dont want to do it too late. im due in december. but there is already sooo much going on in september that i dont want to get too stressed out! so i was thinking that since i have my sons bday sept 6th that we will do his bday the weekend before it because it is on a tuesday and i want the party on a saturday or sunday so that all family will make it to the party because its his 1st bday!!! and then i have my bday on the 7th, so im thinking about just tying the babyshower into my bday party the following weekend.. would that be selfish? because i know that the shower should be all about baby but i really dont need anything for myself just family and friends to be around and having a good time, but i dont want people to think that it is being selfish.. what do you all think? should i just do it the following month? because i have our bdays that month my dads bday, my anniversary. we are also supposed to be moving at the end of the month to idaho from reno.. im just so worried that i wont be able to get it all done when i want to! agh!!

and if anyone knows what i should do for my sons 1st bday let me know, we dont want to go super spectacular just because he wont remember it but id like to do something super special!! but my brain is dead at this point! this little girl is draining me!!!!!!!

Mrs4c

I think if your son's b-day party will just be family and maybe a small like 5 or less of your friends, then I'd do it the week before like you said and then the following weekend have your shower/ birthday. If his birthday is going to be a bit bigger than that you'll risk people going to one and not the other the next weekend. I think because it's his first birthday this would not be selfish. People will probably get more baby shower gifts than things for your birthday but I know I'd be okay with that!

baby2dec14yayy

@mrsforesee, yeah, thats what im thinking, i dont want to do something with a ton of people i just want it to be super special to him and i think that family is really the only thing thats all that special to him anyways since thats all he knows. neither of us really have friends and the only kids that he knows are his cousins and my hubbs baby cousins.. but i dont really have many friends and they usually blow me off when it comes to getting together for this kinda stuff anyways.. maybe i will wait till the end of the month to do the babyshower just because i dont want people thinking that they have to show up 2 weekends in a row, i didnt think of that before you said it. as much as i hate to be superficial about it but i would be kinda mad if people just got me gifts and not the baby or just didnt bring anything at all! im not going to plan something and pay the money for people to only show up to eat. sounds horrible but i know it happens so im thinking just a small babyshower/bday, and i can sorta mix the cake between the two or something like that. thank you!!! you were every helpful!!!