I need advice.
So my bf has a daughter (will be 2 in oct) from his ex. She is a #$%&*, she filed for child support (not a big deal or problem) and court with that is over. I don't think it went as well as SHE expected. Since she gets a lot of govt assistance (ssi, food stamps, medicaid, cash asst) she doesn't get the court ordered child support directly from him. He just basically pays back the state, but he still pays. Well, she doesn't let him see their daughter unless he buys her something (in my eyes). Last time she said to buy 4 outfits (I got those b4 he met up with her) and he got her shampoo and mcdonalds (that she didn't even eat). Now this time (today, actually he's still there) he had to get pull ups & more shampoo (wrong kind last time? And SHE picked it out). Oh and I'm not allowed to met her daughter, even though she is fixing to have a sister. Last time was a set up, they had an agreement, I can't be there & his exs mother can't be there, well she was there. They served him with custody papers, ok, if you would have told him, he still would have taken the papers. So, I'm kinda glad she filed for custody, although 95% of the accusations on the paper are false (I will tell hom to bring all them up to the jidge) it'll finally be black and white that he can see his daughter and her visit OUR home, where I will be.
So should he have to pay extra just to see his child? I don't think so, seems unfair.
So should he have to pay extra just to see his child? I don't think so, seems unfair.
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Plus with the government assistance some chicks don't get it. And by it I mean the reason why THEY don't get the full amount. His ex used to complain she only got X amount instead of what was determined. Well the full amount gets taken out BUT if you're on food stamps/wic etc the government is taking THEIR share.
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I 100% understand your worry about him over there alone, but remember your relationship is in a whole different place now than it was then-a better and stronger place!
Make sure he has everything or as much as possible documented regarding her keeping him from his daughter. Sadly chances are nothing will happen but at least the judge will reiterate she can't do that and hopefully she'll listen.