im on my third.. <3 feeling a lil guilty

lae3

im happy and excited, but this one was unplanned and im fearful of spreading myself so thin.. i have a 9yr, and a 15monoth old, i love um so much im already feeling guilty for all the extra time im going to have to spend caring for the baby.. anyone else feel this.. a lil guilty.. :-S

ArmyMommy

I'm right there with you sweetie. I have a 12 year old, a 19mth old & I'm 33wks+2 with baby number 3. I am already feeling guilty & baby's not even here yet.

survivormommie3

pick one day a month per child and spend that majority of that day with each kid. have your 15 month old set up for snack and a movie for when your 9 year old comes home and sit at the table with him while you eat a snack and ask about his day, how is he, how are the friends, etc. you can do it!
and YES, I feel this way all the time. my daughter was 15 months old when my son was born. and neither of them were planned. so i felt like a horrible mom and a horrible woman for "allowing" it to happen. I felt like I took away babyhood from my daughter. i was very sick for about 2 years after i had my son so the first 2 years of his life we had a lot of friends/family helping out with them while i went through treatments and surgeries. to top off that my son has some health issues himself that require we go to children's hospital about 1-3 times a month on average. and now i am due any day and feel like i now have to split time with the newborn, a new kindergartener and a new first grader (i homeschooled until february, so she started kindergarten very late). I feel your stress!

lae3

@ArmyMommy im glad im not alone and were in simular situations with age.. and my 9yr old is so helpful and such a big brother he makes me proud.. and my baby is still so small i feel like im making him grow up... and he will feel left out =((
@survivormommie3 thanks for the encouragement and you sound like a supper mom.. i know it will work itself out its just the working it out im nervouse about.. you know :-(

ArmyMommy

@lae3 I definitely feel your pain girl. I feel so bad for my 19mth old. I don't want him to have a middle child complex. Lol. My oldest is a big help too. I am so sad that school starts tomorrow.

lae3

@ArmyMommy that was the first thing i thought about when i found out i was prego.. lol.. and felt sad for a minute

survivormommie3

i hear ya! working it out still seems to stress me out. i have a plan for everything and i know that plans are about to shot out the door when this girl comes. my kids are anxiously awaiting her and even though my due date (1 of 3 that is) is one week after their first day of school, the doc says anytime between now and the end of the month i should go. i am SO nervous I won't be able to make it to their first day of school. especially because i am a sahm and my husband hasn't been with my to talk to the teachers. my son has critical allergies and i want to make sure they understand he is the kid with the allergies. not that they wouldn't but the nerve is there. ...sorry, i vented and took over your post.
you will do great i know! us momma's adjust to whatever comes our way

ArmyMommy

@survivormommie3, I'm sure everything will work out for you hun. Maybe baby girl will wait until the second day of school to make her entrance. ;-)

lae3

@survivormommie3 i do believe we will all adjust.. and wont remember life without them like we already have .. :X